How Do You Deal With Anger

[howelljolly]

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I try and find a quiet place inside myself, where I hold my true self worth. When I am with family and friends, I can bring it out and be myself. Yippee!

When I am in the hospital, sometimes I can bring some of it out but mostly I put on a pleasant mask of benign, friendliness. I smile, I don't say much. I say things like: 'oh my gosh, that is so interesting!' or whatever. If someone is being a pig, and insulting me or whatever I smile and say 'thank you so much for the feedback. I really appreciate the opportunity to learn from my mistakes.' or whatever. Sometimes, I feel compassion and sadness for the really weird and mean people. How uncomfortable it must be to walk around in their skin, and have people cringe when they see you coming. That must be a sad way to live, and I don't think I would like that.

But I always protect that place inside me where I know my true value lives. There are lots of wonderful people in medicine, but there are equally as many meanspirited, cruel (unhappy?) people. I try and walk extra gently around the latter, but actively seek out the former. 😉

nice

 

[Terpskins99]

Whenever I feel bad, I go to SDN and read about how everybody else is even more miserable. And that brings a smile to my face. 😳

Problem solved!

j/k... well, sorta. Misery loves company, right?

 

[45408]

This is maybe not exactly the most mature method but when I get crapped on by a resident/attending I usually meditate for a few minutes on just how badly they suck at life. The residents who are cool people outside of the hospital tend not to need to beat up on medical students. It sort of helps to put things in perspective when you can say, "you may have yelled at me, but at least I am going to have some plans when Friday night rolls around. Enjoy your overnight call!"

Haha, that's what I tell myself when I do poorly on an exam. I figure "Oh, well, at least I've these people beat for <insert reason>" although there are a few people who seem to have it all. 😛

 

[45408]

When I am that frustrated, I go run a 10K.... you can't be mad after running 10k. If that doesn't work for some reason, I usually go to the shooting range or skeet shooting.

Good call. Nothing like stress relief in the form of emptying a clip in short order.

 

[Arctic Char]

anger . . . hmm . . . tricky subject for me, as i can have quite a temper sometimes. but i think i vent it in a positive, healthy way by cussing at people who never cuss, teasing the religious people in my class, and throwing f-bombs and other explitives in completely unnecessary contexts. like talking about my f***ing sandwich at lunch, or "man, i really got to f***ing piss, where's the g**damn bathroom in this s***hole?"

or, my personal favorite:

have any of you son's of b**ches seen my f***ing patient today? he's all sick as s***!!

j/k😉 i just yolking

 

[Arctic Char]

well, maybe just half-joking 😳

 

[climbingdocs]

seems like everyone is experiencing similar things, I just had mine today. all I have to say is that mean people suck