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From the time I started scribing to eventually being accepted to Medical school, I have been constantly told that medicine will be mentally challenging and draining with a possible chance that I will regret it. How can I continue on this path with so much negativity tied to it? Why are so many people becoming physicians when the end game is that you will be miserable? I don't get it. Why am I doing this? Why are "WE" doing this? Are all physicians truly miserable? Is working in medicine accepting that it is miserable and continuing onward? If so, then why do it in the first place lol? Why are we all becoming martyrs when we only have one life?
How can we as physicians work together to change this? I want to be in a space where we are flourishing and enjoying ourselves, all while helping others. I don't want to be miserable. Medicine is a passion of mine and I am devastated to know that it will be a horrible experience. What have I gotten into? How do yall (present physicians, pre-meds, current medical students, etc.) process this and justify it? Have we all come to suffer together?
Let me know your thoughts.
It's tough to put into words an adequate response to your post. The stuff you've heard is real and the feelings/concern you describe are valid.
I think my 20's (spent in college, grad school, medical school, training) were as or more formative than my teenage years or earlier. My 20's strongly shaped how I see the world now. College was about learning to see and understand the bigger world. Everything afterwards was actually functioning in the real world.
The goal of medical training (and the practice of medicine itself) is not individual happiness. Not to say people can't be happy or that everyone is just plum miserable, but understand that the primary goal is the benefit of the sick. It is a mighty privilege to be able to provide care to the ill. Some people call medicine a calling, I don't personally believe that. But I do believe there has to be implicit understanding that to the individual physician there will be sacrifice on behalf of the patient. That may be staying up late studying, working a 24hr shifts or doing a 12 hr surgery.
In the real world, there is the head smacking realization that there are many actors in the healthcare realm but few if any prioritize the well being of the physician. In some order it goes: patient, hospital rules, profits, other professions (e.g. nursing) >>>>>>>> doctors. It's only natural to become a little negative and/or jaded. Some would argue that's a natural response.
The tough thing to get across to someone at your level is that medicine while tough, isn't exactly unique regarding a lot of things. Most jobs are jobs. You do your work. You get paid. Rinse, wash, repeat. Passion can only take you so far. First year law students pound their chests talking about passion for the law; talk to them 15 years later. New teachers talk about passion for teaching the next generation of the world.... see how they feel after a few years.
Call it world weariness, jadedness, cynicism, whatever. The world just looks different at 32 than it did at 22.
To actually answer your question though, I would say don't expect medicine to be the thing that fulfills you personally. It isn't meant to. You aren't meant to flourish personally within healthcare. Find other things: family, friends, hobbies, etc...