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Hey everyone,

So I was wondering, I know some intraclass dating, "medcest" occurs, but often do the single med students hook up with each other (as in no relationship, more like friends with benefits)? What percent of your ms1 class is single on average? My guess is half are in serious relationships/engaged/married and the other half are single.
 
JBL35 said:
Hey everyone,

So I was wondering, I know some intraclass dating, "medcest" occurs, but often do the single med students hook up with each other (as in no relationship, more like friends with benefits)? What percent of your ms1 class is single on average? My guess is half are in serious relationships/engaged/married and the other half are single.
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Will vary based on school and locale, but yeah, a lot of people in med school are taken.

Class hookups do happen, but quite a few of us also see medcest as a Bad ****ing Idea™ -- because if it goes wrong, as they do so often, it's going to be entirely unneeded drama for both parties involved.

Of course, I'm sure people hook up and just end up casual friends without much of a fuss, but I guess it's a matter of how much you want to risk the whole thing.
 
We had two couples hooking up that turned into relationships, plus maybe three or four cute little couples popping up all over the place. I'm sure there's been some under the table jiggery pokery going on though. People need to get out of the classroom to get their hungers sated, in my opinion.
 
We first years are in class with Pharmacy students (b/c UCSD Pharm makes their P2's take the crazy classes with us). There been a good amt of hooking up going on btwn the two groups.

I wont even consider getting too close to anyone in either class...too much damn drama!

It really is like high school all over again (and for the longest time I thought it would not be)...$%&# I was wrong 😎
 
A crap load at my school. Des Moines is just too effing small! I have been surprised at the relative lack of drama though. Although every now and then all hell breaks loose with a couple and everyone cringes.
 
Med students hook up all the freaking time.

A lot of my classmates were in relationships at the start of med school, but many of those broke up. So did at least half the marriages.
 
riceman04 said:
We first years are in class with Pharmacy students (b/c UCSD Pharm makes their P2's take the crazy classes with us). There been a good amt of hooking up going on btwn the two groups.

I wont even consider getting too close to anyone in either class...too much damn drama!

It really is like high school all over again (and for the longest time I thought it would not be)...$%&# I was wrong 😎
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My high school was all dudes so I don't really know how to relate it back. Are there cliques of cool kids who get to hook up and everyone else doesn't? Or is it at least like college in that sense where the slightly eccentric kids have a chance? lol
 
JBL35 said:
My high school was all dudes so I don't really know how to relate it back. Are there cliques of cool kids who get to hook up and everyone else doesn't? Or is it at least like college in that sense where the slightly eccentric kids have a chance? lol
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Mine isn't like that very much -- sure, little cliques form, but they're not usually all nose-in-the-air like high school. It's med school; if they are like that at this point for no other reason than being a clique, you don't wanna bother with them anyway.

You seem awfully concerned with getting in your future gross anatomy tankmate's pants...

Oh, and I wouldn't worry about the eccentric part. 🙂
 
JBL35 said:
My high school was all dudes so I don't really know how to relate it back. Are there cliques of cool kids who get to hook up and everyone else doesn't? Or is it at least like college in that sense where the slightly eccentric kids have a chance? lol
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LOL...it's funny how most of the "cool kids" in our class were clearly once the odd balls in high school and (quite possibly) college. There's a group in the second year (rising third year) class that has basically taken on the popular group "persona" in that they make fun of certain people, host "exclusive" (LOL not the right word since it is nothing but a bunch of braniacs really) parties, workout a bit more than other kids, and also hook up alot more often as well

In my class, there's been all kinds of drama ranging from who slept with who, who is gossiping about who, etc...

It's all pretty annoying! And unfortunately I cannot say I have been able to stay completely out of the line of fire. But for the most part, I have kept my hands clean b/c I won't even consider trying to get freaky with anyone in our class.

NO thanks! LOL

Lastly, I would say the "eccentric" kids have a chance with each other...normally

pretty interesting...LOL
 
riceman04 said:
In my class, there's been all kinds of drama ranging from who slept with who, who is gossiping about who, etc...

It's all pretty annoying! And unfortunately I cannot say I have been able to stay completely out of the line of fire. But for the most part, I have kept my hands clean b/c I won't even consider trying to get freaky with anyone in our class.

NO thanks! LOL

Lastly, I would say the "eccentric" kids have a chance with each other...normally

pretty interesting...LOL
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That's cause you're too busy trying to get freaky with ME :meanie:



Sleeping with classmates is never a good idea... NEVER
 
JBL35 said:
My high school was all dudes so I don't really know how to relate it back. Are there cliques of cool kids who get to hook up and everyone else doesn't? Or is it at least like college in that sense where the slightly eccentric kids have a chance? lol
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:laugh:
 
Dr Lyss said:
That's cause you're too busy trying to get freaky with ME :meanie:



Sleeping with classmates is never a good idea... NEVER
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shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...SPARKLES...I have classmates on here. Many have started wondering where I stay on the weekends b/c my roomie got suspcious!!!

:laugh::laugh::laugh:


Now remember: before you head out of the country for the summer you need to go make my $$$$$....
You better "shake what cha momma gave ya"...
🤣🤣
 
riceman04 said:
shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...SPARKLES...I have classmates on here. Many have started wondering where I stay on the weekends b/c my roomie got suspcious!!!

:laugh::laugh::laugh:


Now remember: before you head out of the country for the summer you need to go make my $$$$$....
You better "shake what cha momma gave ya"...
🤣🤣
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:laugh: u r N U T Z
 
riceman04 said:
shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...SPARKLES...I have classmates on here. Many have started wondering where I stay on the weekends b/c my roomie got suspcious!!!

:laugh::laugh::laugh:


Now remember: before you head out of the country for the summer you need to go make my $$$$$....
You better "shake what cha momma gave ya"...
🤣🤣
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lol
 
TheMan21 said:
How many marriages exactly would you say broke up?
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Off the top of my head, I can think of four. I can't remember how many people were married at the start... maybe 10-15?

But a LOT of long term relationships broke up. And a few of my classmates married each other.
 
Tons of relationships have ended since school started (particularly long-distance ones). A few classmates have gotten engaged (outside of the class). Only 2 real intra-class relationships are going on (and one is supposedly hush-hush though everyone knows). And there have been some inter-class hookups and relationships, mostly between first and second years.

In general, hooking up within your class is seen as a really poor decision. Not only will things be awkward for you, but you'll become total gossip fodder when not much is going on. You can't keep secrets in a small class that spends that much time together, so don't even try.

But yeah, inter-class relationships are generally viewed as less treacherous because at least you don't spend every single day together. A couple of classmates are dating second years now, and it seems to be working well. I know a second year who's dating a fourth year, and another second year who's dating a resident. So you can have some medcest and be relatively ok.
 
In the class 2 years ahead of me (~130 med students), I have heard that about 6-8 "official" couples spawned. In the class 1 year ahead of me (~150 med students), I have heard of about 2-3 "official" couples arising while many more are under the table.
 
My class:

Every non-married person who entered medical school in a relationship broke up.
2-3 divorces occurred.
Several classmates married each other.
Lots of hooking up, some of which led to long-term relationships that eventually dissolved.

At the end of the year the senior class made a "hook-up" tree and posted it for everyone to see.
 
so far in 1 year we have had:

-at least 5 serious relationships break up (including my own 5.5 year relationship)
-at least 7 couples start dating (1 of which has already broken up)
-God knows how many hook ups. I know of at least 9 off the top of my head
- 0 broken marriages or engagements
 
Gifted Hands said:
so far in 1 year we have had:

-at least 5 serious relationships break up (including my own 5.5 year relationship)
-at least 7 couples start dating (1 of which has already broken up)
-God knows how many hook ups. I know of at least 9 off the top of my head
- 0 broken marriages or engagements
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This thread is a riot. I keep getting this image of the American Pie kid with the apple pie. What happened to med school being so overwhelming that people couldn't think of anything else?
 
Tutmos said:
This thread is a riot. I keep getting this image of the American Pie kid with the apple pie. What happened to med school being so overwhelming that people couldn't think of anything else?
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you throw a bunch of type A over achievers into a really stressful bubble where they are constantly surrounded by other frustrated, tense people...

gotta release the tension somehow 😀
 
Gifted Hands said:
so far in 1 year we have had:

-at least 5 serious relationships break up (including my own 5.5 year relationship)
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Hey I'm really sorry to hear that...but if I'm not encroaching too much on your or other's privacy: why do so many couples break up in medical school? Is it the distance or just one side has no time to spend with the other?

Being in one myself, I just want to get perhaps a forewarning of what is to come.
 
NotAsking4Much said:
Hey I'm really sorry to hear that...but if I'm not encroaching too much on your or other's privacy: why do so many couples break up in medical school? Is it the distance or just one side has no time to spend with the other?

Being in one myself, I just want to get perhaps a forewarning of what is to come.
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well in my case, we have been long distance for 4 out of the 5 years so I thought we were ready for that... it was more the break down of communication and having very little time that met both of our schedules, even just for talking and checking in... and I guess the idea of being long distance with no reasonable end in sight kind of put a strain on it. It's a lot of little things... particularly difficult when you both have careers that require you to physically be somewhere else.
 
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Tons of hookups. More drama than high school. Especially at the beginning of the year - the relationships formed later on and the drama died down a little.
 
NotAsking4Much said:
Hey I'm really sorry to hear that...but if I'm not encroaching too much on your or other's privacy: why do so many couples break up in medical school? Is it the distance or just one side has no time to spend with the other?

Being in one myself, I just want to get perhaps a forewarning of what is to come.
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I think most of the relationships that broke up would have broken up anyway. I know mine would have. And others were because of long distance, which is always hard.
 
Optimus123 said:
This is clearly dependent on how tight the medical student's game is.
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Wow there is a lot of "don't date in your class" mantra here. Is it really a common view? Sucks for me, I am always most attracted to the people I have had classes with.
I never understood the reason 90% of people go out and find total strangers to date when you have 30-40 attractive people that you already kinda know from your classes. Am I really that alone in wanting to date people that I already am kinda friends with?


riceman04 said:
It really is like high school all over again (and for the longest time I thought it would not be)...$%&# I was wrong 😎
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Haha, you haven't heard the song have you?[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Uy6GpmA6es&feature=related[/YOUTUBE]
 
Lacipart said:
Wow there is a lot of "don't date in your class" mantra here. Is it really a common view? Sucks for me, I am always most attracted to the people I have had classes with.
I never understood the reason 90% of people go out and find total strangers to date when you have 30-40 attractive people that you already kinda know from your classes. Am I really that alone in wanting to date people that I already am kinda friends with?
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No, you're not. Not at all.

But there are three big problems: many new relationships do not work out long-term (we'll even say "a couple years"); sometimes, they end kind of badly; and if it does end, you are now stuck in medical school with that person. Probably less a problem during M3/M4 than it is preclinical years, but... I'm an M2 come August, and you're a premedder, so that's where I'm coming from.

At least for preclinical classes, I would hate to go from "oh, she's my friend" to "meet my girlfriend so-and-so" to that awkwardness of having broken up with someone you see somewhat regularly, your school's curriculum / attendance requirements (if any) depending. And then stories go around the class, or whatever other bull**** because people just tend to do that. Multiply that times ten if it's a hostile breakup. It shouldn't be like that, and ex-boyfriends/girlfriends should ideally be able to get along well -- I do with at least one of mine -- but hey, what can you do?

If you're going to **** where you eat, you gotta decide whether it's worth it to you to risk the possible fallout. For me, I've dealt with enough nonsense like that for awhile, and med school is not at all conducive to said nonsense, so I tend to lean towards the cautious side.

Oh, and yes, I have many classmates who think something similar. Not all of 'em, but still a sizable chunk.
 
It's not that bad. Most people in my class don't care about the class relationships. There are other things to worry about.
 
We just finished M2.

Out of 115 students, I'd say 15 were married coming in. One of those ended. 5 or 6 got married after 1st year and theres 11 or 12 weddings post boards. There were 7 interclass couples, with 2 of them getting married post boards. So there's some medcest going on for sure and after 2nd year, it doesn't matter if you're with anybody in the class because you wont see each other.

It is high school all over again and the 1 breakup in our class was sort of a gossipfest and what not. I've always learned not to **** where you eat.

Personally, I had no desire to be with a colleague. I need somebody outside of medical school, somebody with different interests, schedules, etc. But most importantly, I needed somebody that when the kids inevitably come I won't feel as bad about asking her to work reduced hours so that our kids won't have any freakin clue who their parents are.


So my advice is hook up with the Nurses or the Pharmacists, they're usually cuter anyways. And they'll be making more money, sooner so the sugar mama aspect isnt too bad.
 
exi said:
No, you're not. Not at all.

But there are three big problems: many new relationships do not work out long-term (we'll even say "a couple years"); sometimes, they end kind of badly; and if it does end, you are now stuck in medical school with that person. Probably less a problem during M3/M4 than it is preclinical years, but... I'm an M2 come August, and you're a premedder, so that's where I'm coming from.

At least for preclinical classes, I would hate to go from "oh, she's my friend" to "meet my girlfriend so-and-so" to that awkwardness of having broken up with someone you see somewhat regularly, your school's curriculum / attendance requirements (if any) depending. And then stories go around the class, or whatever other bull**** because people just tend to do that. Multiply that times ten if it's a hostile breakup. It shouldn't be like that, and ex-boyfriends/girlfriends should ideally be able to get along well -- I do with at least one of mine -- but hey, what can you do?

If you're going to **** where you eat, you gotta decide whether it's worth it to you to risk the possible fallout. For me, I've dealt with enough nonsense like that for awhile, and med school is not at all conducive to said nonsense, so I tend to lean towards the cautious side.

Oh, and yes, I have many classmates who think something similar. Not all of 'em, but still a sizable chunk.
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Who cares about relationships? I just meant hook ups, lol. "Any of you ladies out there looking for love, forget it! I just wanna put it in!" -Christopher Walken, SNL
 
JBL35 said:
Who cares about relationships? I just meant hook ups, lol. "Any of you ladies out there looking for love, forget it! I just wanna put it in!" -Christopher Walken, SNL
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I was replying to someone talking about dating classmates -- sounded like a little more than a hookup. Which I'd still be leery of doing. 🙂
 
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