Involved in housing altercation post-acceptance?

[Lannister]

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This is a long story, but I'll try to keep it as short as possible.

I live in a dorm with 3 suite mates. Two of my suite mates, we'll call them Meredith and Christina, do not like the boyfriend of the third suite mate, we'll call her Izzy. I've never had a problem with him, and Izzy is well aware of that. I have been on good terms with her until tonight.

Tonight, we had a suite meeting. It went very badly, to say the least. Izzy took some of her stuff and said she was moving out. I texted her fifteen minutes after she left and asked her to text me when she was home safe. Her boyfriend responded, saying that Izzy recorded the entire conversation on her phone (Christina got very aggressive and was screaming at her) and that they are reporting us for bullying. We all agreed that we felt unsafe in our suite because the boyfriend has access to Izzy's key card right now (he's an alcoholic with violent tendencies), and the police became involved.

I am not sure if I am included in the report they are going to file. I hope not, because I have been very supportive of Izzy throughout this whole ordeal, but I just want to cover all my bases. If we did get written up by housing for this (I'm not sure what the report would actually "charge" us with), is this something I would need to report to medical schools? Would it affect the acceptance I already have?

I don't think this will be an issue but I just want to know what steps I should take if it does become an issue.

 

[Cyberdyne 101]

Sorry to hear about this, @Lannister. Obviously, I'm not an authority on these matters, but I can't see how this would have a negative impact on your acceptance, especially since you've been supportive of your suite mate. Imo, a reasonable person wouldn't equate a heated discussion, which is quite common among college roommates, as bullying.

I hope this drama goes away relatively soon!

 

[Lannister]

Sorry to hear about this, @Lannister. Obviously, I'm not an authority on these matters, but I can't see how this would have a negative impact on your acceptance, especially since you've been supportive of your suite mate. Imo, a reasonable person wouldn't equate a heated discussion, which is quite common among college roommates, as bullying.

I hope this drama goes away relatively soon!

Yeah the only issue is that this has been a very prolonged ordeal, so it wasn't just this one discussion, although tonight was definitely as bad as it's ever been. I can see how she might feel like she's been bullied by the other two, as they are very aggressive, stubborn people and it did kind of seem like they were teaming up on her. I do think Housing will be on our side, but at the same time I feel very bad for this girl, she's been through a lot this year, and I can also see how they might empathize with her.

 

[Cyberdyne 101]

Yeah the only issue is that this has been a very prolonged ordeal, so it wasn't just this one discussion, although tonight was definitely as bad as it's ever been. I can see how she might feel like she's been bullied by the other two, as they are very aggressive, stubborn people and it did kind of seem like they were teaming up on her. I do think Housing will be on our side, but at the same time I feel very bad for this girl, she's been through a lot this year, and I can also see how they might empathize with her.

But you weren't acting in an aggressive manner so you shouldn't have anything to worry about. If anything, you should report the boyfriend for making you feel unsafe.

 

[Lannister]

But you weren't acting in an aggressive manner so you shouldn't have anything to worry about. If anything, you should report the boyfriend for making you feel unsafe.

Okay, hopefully Housing will see that.
Yeah that's why we called the police, he's now prohibited from stepping foot in our dorm.

 

[Cyberdyne 101]

Okay, hopefully Housing will see that.
Yeah that's why we called the police, he's now prohibited from stepping foot in our dorm.

Sadly, it's not unusual for the perpetrator to play the victim in such scenarios. It's another mechanism to maintain control over others... I'm glad he's no longer allowed in your dorm.

Again, I don't think you have anything to worry about.

 

[osckey]

I just read an episode of Grey's Antomy.

 

[Mwooster]

Man, people these days need to learn the concept of "leaving drama to yo mama" 😛 this sounds like a tough situation to be in hope it gets resolved

 

[eugnandez]

she's been through a lot this year, and I can also see how they might empathize with her.

 

[Hospitalized]

I remember reading something about one of your suite mates putting paint in the sink on the dishes and stuff. This post isn't even surprising.

Learn to remove yourself from situations like this in the future.

 

[Fedekz]

Did you provoke an assault or otherwise generate a situation that created a serious threat of assault (disorderly conduct) ? Was there any property damage (malicious mischief)? Was there any physical or threat of physical contact that was unwanted (assault)? Subject someone unwillingly to confinement? Preventing someone from having the ability to dial 911 (taking away phone during an altercation)?

It doesn't sound like a crime has occurred based on what you said, but tread lightly. Anything that happens between you and your roommates will be considered domestic violence. So if you get pissed and throw your roommates favorite shot glass on the floor and it breaks, bam domestic violence malicious mischief. With it being a DV, it's much more unlikely to be dismissed or pled down compared to if it wasn't domestic.

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[Lannister]

I remember reading something about one of your suite mates putting paint in the sink on the dishes and stuff. This post isn't even surprising.

Learn to remove yourself from situations like this in the future.

That was my suite mate last year LOL.
I tried not to get involved but Izzy is one of my closest friends and she really needed someone there to support her. =/

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[Lannister]

Did you provoke an assault or otherwise generate a situation that created a serious threat of assault (disorderly conduct) ? Was there any property damage (malicious mischief)? Was there any physical or threat of physical contact that was unwanted (assault)? Subject someone unwillingly to confinement? Preventing someone from having the ability to dial 911 (taking away phone during an altercation)?

It doesn't sound like a crime has occurred based on what you said, but tread lightly. Anything that happens between you and your roommates will be considered domestic violence. So if you get pissed and throw your roommates favorite shot glass on the floor and it breaks, bam domestic violence malicious mischief. With it being a DV, it's much more unlikely to be dismissed or pled down compared to if it wasn't domestic.

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No to all of those!
Thanks everyone for the responses 🙂 we're meeting with housing again today so we'll see what they say.

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[NotWayneBrady]

Hey Lanni I think you'll be fine, I don't see anything about this situation that could fall back onto you from a legal/ethical standpoint with your school. Keep us posted though!

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From personal experience, good friends don't make good roommates.