Is getting ghosted a normal thing?

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Fam, I'm trying to figure out why there is so much radio silence. I got into a school, but for like the $100+ that we spend on submitting applications, you'd think we'd be afforded at least an R notice.

This limbo situation sucks badly.
 
Fam, I'm trying to figure out why there is so much radio silence. I got into a school, but for like the $100+ that we spend on submitting applications, you'd think we'd be afforded at least an R notice.

This limbo situation sucks badly.
With so many applications, yes. Of course it's not for just one spot, so getting autorejected like in an employment situation isn't that common.
 
Fam, I'm trying to figure out why there is so much radio silence. I got into a school, but for like the $100+ that we spend on submitting applications, you'd think we'd be afforded at least an R notice.

This limbo situation sucks badly.
I interviewed for a faculty position at Cal State Long Beach about a quarter Century ago. I'm still waiting to hear from them
 
Fam, I'm trying to figure out why there is so much radio silence. I got into a school, but for like the $100+ that we spend on submitting applications, you'd think we'd be afforded at least an R notice.

This limbo situation sucks badly.

I’m still waiting to see if I get into PCOM.

—PGY 5
 
Every premed/prehealth applicant should watch "Waiting for Godot" during the application process (or before it).

Bored Daily Show GIF by CTV Comedy Channel
 
Its easy to ghost : less energy, easier to be non confrontational , and its not like many are reject-worthy; they may be top 1% but not top 1% of top 1% so they may be an ideal backup to hold in an imaginary “reserve list”.

If you’re on a dating app and are a girl, then you will understand this metaphor. Hundreds of men msg you on the daily to the point that within days you end up with thousands unread DMs; you end up ghosting because you just cant keep up and at same time they all look attractive to you so you dont wanna reject. Many of them have very good prospects so you just focus on flirting with just a handful of top 0.1% and if those fail, move down the list. You end up accidentally screwing over many suitors who are eternally waiting but whom you find also attractive so youd rather hold em to the side and keep weighing options. The same applies to MD/DO schools; very immature I know but its the Game
 
Its easy to ghost : less energy, easier to be non confrontational , and its not like many are reject-worthy; they may be top 1% but not top 1% of top 1% so they may be an ideal backup to hold in an imaginary “reserve list”.

If you’re on a dating app and are a girl, then you will understand this metaphor. Hundreds of men msg you on the daily to the point that within days you end up with thousands unread DMs; you end up ghosting because you just cant keep up and at same time they all look attractive to you so you dont wanna reject. Many of them have very good prospects so you just focus on flirting with just a handful of top 0.1% and if those fail, move down the list. You end up accidentally screwing over many suitors who are eternally waiting but whom you find also attractive so youd rather hold em to the side and keep weighing options. The same applies to MD/DO schools; very immature I know but its the Game
Not a great example.

Dating has a lot to do with the superficial and intangible. Your application gets stronger the more you add to it with numbers, activities, recommendations, etc. If you win an Olympic Gold medal, your application shoots to the top. Doesn't work like that in the dating world.
 
Not a great example.

Dating has a lot to do with the superficial and intangible. Your application gets stronger the more you add to it with numbers, activities, recommendations, etc. If you win an Olympic Gold medal, your application shoots to the top. Doesn't work like that in the dating world.
ya youre right nothing superficial or intangible about the application process- thats explains why 90% of my class in my MD program was white wealthy or related to someone in staff. And that was LSU New Orleans - the “chocolate city”

Truth: The med school application process is as superficial as a dating app! If you think its selection process is purely merit-based, then you need to wake up out of lala land
 
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ya youre right nothing superficial or intangible about the application process- thats explains why 90% of my class in my MD program was white wealthy or related to someone in staff. And that was LSU New Orleans - the “chocolate city”

Truth: The med school application process is as superficial as a dating app! If you think its selection process is purely merit-based, then you need to wake up out of lala land
I don't disagree with that. I never said anything about merit-based. Those are your words.

The point you missed was that you can enhance your medical school application...even though it is a superficial process. I am agreeing that it is a superficial process.

In the dating pool, you're kinda working with what you got already. There's minimal return with "working on yourself." That's the truth.
 
More than all of that, you spend like 150 an application- a fee sent as a cost for them to review your app. It’s a service charge so you expect a service no?
 
More than all of that, you spend like 150 an application- a fee sent as a cost for them to review your app. It’s a service charge so you expect a service no?
You should get used to paying a lot of money for nothing. Welcome to medical education.
 
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