nikitriki92
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I know it sounds crazy, but I have convinced myself that I am ready to start trying for kids. Everyone says that "there is never a good time to have a baby" during this career, unless I wait until after residency, when I would be almost 35. I'm not sure that health-wise I would like to wait that long, since I do have some health issues. I am an OMS I, happily married, mid-late twenties. I have been in school almost 12 weeks, which is not long, I know. So far all of my exams have gone well and I feel like my study habits are developing well - I treat school like an 8-6 job and then pretty much focus on home life after that, except for during exams. My husband works from home (for the time being) and his job is pretty flexible.
I don't want to sound like I believe that it will be "easy" - I know it will be extremely difficult to manage med school and a baby. And I also realize pregnancy may not happen according to my timeline, unfortunately. If things go perfectly according to this plan I have in my head, then I would give birth during the summer between first and second year and then be able to start with my class again for year 2.
Here are my thoughts -
I don't want to sound like I believe that it will be "easy" - I know it will be extremely difficult to manage med school and a baby. And I also realize pregnancy may not happen according to my timeline, unfortunately. If things go perfectly according to this plan I have in my head, then I would give birth during the summer between first and second year and then be able to start with my class again for year 2.
Here are my thoughts -
- I would much rather be pregnant/sleep deprived/breast-feeding when I am in school, sitting in lecture or watching lectures at home than during rotations/residency when there are strict schedules and active/physical work demands.
- Currently my commute to school is 10 minutes. During rotations in 3rd/4th year I will much likely have to commute much further to my rotation sites... most likely around 45 minutes, which would be easier with an older infant/toddler than with a newborn.
- My husband's job is currently from home and he can take breaks throughout the day... maybe not take care of a child full time but at least it is flexible. We are also financially stable for the time being.
- If I had a child soon, he/she would be a little older by the time I start rotations (hopefully sleeping through the night?) and around preschool age by the time I start residency, which is a plus.
- One huge negative is that we don't have family in the area. They are several states away, but my parents travel easily, and we will be able to afford some type of child care (although I'm not sure what it would be... any advice on this?)
- If god forbid anything goes wrong health-wise, there is always the option to defer a year. I don't know how it would work if I waited and this happened during clinical years or residency.