Is this selfish?

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I started clinical one semester ago, and almost in the middle of my second semester. The hospital I was at last semester was 30 minutes from my house and because of traffic It would take me 1hr to 1hr and 30 minutes to return home. My classmates all had the luxury of a 10-15 minute commute while I got screwed coming home all the time. Meanwhile, this semester they opened up two new clinical sites, one of which is seriously right next to my house and I thankfully got that site while the other one is 30 minutes from my house. Since being there this past semester, I have loved it so far, am doing good in my evals, and am learning a lot more and not taking over one hour to drive home every day. However, next semester one of the other students was assigned to the second hospital that opened up this semester which is 1 hour commute from where she lives and is begging me practically to leave the hospital I am at right now and travel to the other hospital which is 30 minutes from where I live. I definitely do not want to do this. Why? Because I have already gotten accustomed to the Hospital I am already at. Everyone else was at the same hospital for two semesters while I am getting switched every semester, which is frustrating because I am having to relearn different hospital protocols and having to learn the ropes all over again. If I comply with switching my hospital (again) this will be the third hospital I switched in a row while no one else in my cohort has, and it sucks having to relearn everything and start as the noobie once again; All my classmates are complaining "it's not fair" I get an easy commute but I swear if they lived down the street they would be begging for that clinical site. Any thoughts?? I hope I don't sound selfish
 
I started clinical one semester ago, and almost in the middle of my second semester. The hospital I was at last semester was 30 minutes from my house and because of traffic It would take me 1hr to 1hr and 30 minutes to return home. My classmates all had the luxury of a 10-15 minute commute while I got screwed coming home all the time. Meanwhile, this semester they opened up two new clinical sites, one of which is seriously right next to my house and I thankfully got that site while the other one is 30 minutes from my house. Since being there this past semester, I have loved it so far, am doing good in my evals, and am learning a lot more and not taking over one hour to drive home every day. However, next semester one of the other students was assigned to the second hospital that opened up this semester which is 1 hour commute from where she lives and is begging me practically to leave the hospital I am at right now and travel to the other hospital which is 30 minutes from where I live. I definitely do not want to do this. Why? Because I have already gotten accustomed to the Hospital I am already at. Everyone else was at the same hospital for two semesters while I am getting switched every semester, which is frustrating because I am having to relearn different hospital protocols and having to learn the ropes all over again. If I comply with switching my hospital (again) this will be the third hospital I switched in a row while no one else in my cohort has, and it sucks having to relearn everything and start as the noobie once again; All my classmates are complaining "it's not fair" I get an easy commute but I swear if they lived down the street they would be begging for that clinical site. Any thoughts?? I hope I don't sound selfish

This is the premedical forum - I think you meant to post this in the medical school forums.

But honestly, this entire situation reads like a CASPer prompt.

I don't think you necessarily sound selfish, but there's not really enough information here to make a judgment. Are your classmates literally complaining (as in making official complaints) or are they joking in jest? Have you talked to them about the situation and why switching might not make sense for you anymore?

Also, how would you switching to the other hospital help the other students? What exactly would change for their own situations if you moved to a farther site?
 
I started clinical one semester ago, and almost in the middle of my second semester. The hospital I was at last semester was 30 minutes from my house and because of traffic It would take me 1hr to 1hr and 30 minutes to return home. My classmates all had the luxury of a 10-15 minute commute while I got screwed coming home all the time. Meanwhile, this semester they opened up two new clinical sites, one of which is seriously right next to my house and I thankfully got that site while the other one is 30 minutes from my house. Since being there this past semester, I have loved it so far, am doing good in my evals, and am learning a lot more and not taking over one hour to drive home every day. However, next semester one of the other students was assigned to the second hospital that opened up this semester which is 1 hour commute from where she lives and is begging me practically to leave the hospital I am at right now and travel to the other hospital which is 30 minutes from where I live. I definitely do not want to do this. Why? Because I have already gotten accustomed to the Hospital I am already at. Everyone else was at the same hospital for two semesters while I am getting switched every semester, which is frustrating because I am having to relearn different hospital protocols and having to learn the ropes all over again. If I comply with switching my hospital (again) this will be the third hospital I switched in a row while no one else in my cohort has, and it sucks having to relearn everything and start as the noobie once again; All my classmates are complaining "it's not fair" I get an easy commute but I swear if they lived down the street they would be begging for that clinical site. Any thoughts?? I hope I don't sound selfish
[OP is not a med student.]

Stay where you are. Have more study time. Thrive.

You are responsible for getting into the best educational environment you can, not for making your classmates happy that you share the same disadvantages. This is not selfishness. Considering your past comments about those classmates, I find it hard to believe that you'd consider for a moment catering to them. Don't let them make you feel guilty.
 
I started clinical one semester ago, and almost in the middle of my second semester. The hospital I was at last semester was 30 minutes from my house and because of traffic It would take me 1hr to 1hr and 30 minutes to return home. My classmates all had the luxury of a 10-15 minute commute while I got screwed coming home all the time. Meanwhile, this semester they opened up two new clinical sites, one of which is seriously right next to my house and I thankfully got that site while the other one is 30 minutes from my house. Since being there this past semester, I have loved it so far, am doing good in my evals, and am learning a lot more and not taking over one hour to drive home every day. However, next semester one of the other students was assigned to the second hospital that opened up this semester which is 1 hour commute from where she lives and is begging me practically to leave the hospital I am at right now and travel to the other hospital which is 30 minutes from where I live. I definitely do not want to do this. Why? Because I have already gotten accustomed to the Hospital I am already at. Everyone else was at the same hospital for two semesters while I am getting switched every semester, which is frustrating because I am having to relearn different hospital protocols and having to learn the ropes all over again. If I comply with switching my hospital (again) this will be the third hospital I switched in a row while no one else in my cohort has, and it sucks having to relearn everything and start as the noobie once again; All my classmates are complaining "it's not fair" I get an easy commute but I swear if they lived down the street they would be begging for that clinical site. Any thoughts?? I hope I don't sound selfish
this all sounds so juvenile that it makes me wonder if you were in high school? Of course it's fair. Quit worrying about what other people think and you do you
 
This was such a plate of scrambled eggs for thoughts. Still confused if you're pre-med or a med student. Like everyone else has said, make the best decision for you. Not everyone will be happy with your decisions and you getting the best education you can is better than making your classmates happy.
 
Look out for yourself first. It’s selfish of your classmate to ask you to switch after you’ve done well at your current location and live so close to it.

If your classmate has issues with it then they should take it up with the program director not you. Remind them last semester you had it tough. You don’t owe anyone anything.
 
Thank you for all your inputs. I just wanted some outside perspective.
 
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