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1 interview....one shot to capture a dream.
One rejection....that killed my only shot at going to med school this fall.

I am not sure what to say. Words can't console. And I have no idea where I'm headed right now. No job. Finished school already. Have no motivation left in me to apply again.

I couldn't have done better at the interview. I really felt that i had them in my corner. Perhaps they faked it all.

Anyway, it was good while it lasted. It was great knowing I still had a shot and my dream, although filled with bumps did have a silver lining. I thought that as long as I'm in the running, I can still dream. I feel like I'm awake now and all I can see is darkness. I'll move on. I just need go gather my strength, pick up the broken pieces of my heart, and learn to live on.

Good luck and God bless to all those of you that got in. I would have given my right arm to be in your shoes. Do me a favor--when you guys are practising physicians, don't ever complain about your job, or nasty patients or HMO policies. You have been given a unique gift. Use it. Cherish it. Honor it. Thank God that all your hard work paid off, because there are plenty of those who may have worked harder and couldn't get what you have. If and when you ever feel bad about yourself and your lifestyle as a physician, think of me. I know I would have gladly taken on all the nasty patients, all the beaurocratic crap that goes with insurance and HMOs, to only have another chance to capture my dream.

Thanks for reading.
 
i can't believe it 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁 I think everyone would want someone like you as their doctor... Screw the med schools - they have lost, not you. Don't give up yet though!

PS: I think you've been one of the most helpful & active moderators ever!
 
well i dont think you should think of it as over. it is normal though at the start. anyways there are secrets to applying. if you wana reapply again, i will share some with you. good luck
 
That really stinks, Tweetie. But we still love you here.

😍 😍 😍
 
awww tweets 🙁
i wish i could say something to make you feel better but know that i can't. i'm sorry you had such bad luck in this process. i'm sure you did well in that interview if you're as nice in person as you are on sdn.
maybe you can take a couple of years off and reapply when you are feeling invigorated. this process really takes a lot out of you!
best wishes with your new marriage and everything else. i'm sure you'll find another way to make a difference these next couple of years and will be able to spend a lot more time with your hubby.
 
Tweetie,

it will be ok. Keep your head in there; No need to give up on a dream! It took Edision hundreds of attempts to get his inventions to work, thousands even. Apply next year! You have a good application, yet you should look at it objectively, and see areas of improvement; Retaking the MCAT, expanding one's application to DO schools, International; Whatever you do, dont give up on that goal! You're a beautiful person, and that will carry you well in whatever you do!
 
tweetie, please don't give up yet. i'm willing to wait an extra year for you to be my doctor.
 
I know nothing of your qualifications or history. But even from a cursory reading of some of your posts you seem to be just the sort of person who we need in a short white coat. I'm sorry to hear that your huge labor (33 apps!? My god, I feel lazy...) has benefited you so little.

Rest, and try again. A different path, probably? DO, FMG, or even PA for a few years? You have options, remember that. Folks like you should not be kept out!
 
oh tweetie, i'm so sorry to hear this. please don't give up. you're going to make a fine doctor one day. every one knows this and you know this.

i know it may seem like the end of the world right now. believe me, i was in your shoes at this time last year, but you have to keep pushing on. look at all the SDNers who had to re-apply this year (me, shamthis, uclaman, pelican man, etc.) and gained success in admissions this year. it's not an easy path, but i promise you, you'll be better for it and even more prepared to start medical school when you do get accepted. and you will get accepted.

re-applying was the best thing that could have happened to me. why? b/c it allowed me to realize even more that medicine is what i wanted to do, despite the initial misgivings of 30 schools. you are given a chance to re-assess yourself and your goals. if medicine is still what you want, you have to let the committees know this and prove it by the time you apply again. i know you have the fire to do this.

best,

joe
 
I am sorry to hear about your rejection tweetie. All is not lost. Remember, reapplication is a blessing in disguise. Take some time to regroup. Assess what went wrong and youre a shoo-in.

You would be a great asset ot the medical profession. I just hope this setback won't prevent you from reapplying again.

You are human. Disappointment is normal. Give yourself some time. Enjoy married life for a bit. If you really want to do medicine it will still be there for you. And when you do reapply you will be that much better of an applicant.
 
🙁
We all were rooting for you. Like lola said, I wish I knew what to say to help, but there is nothing. Just please don't give up. The world needs people like you in medicine. This is just a roadblock, although a very disappointing and large one. Whatever you decide to do, you will bring joy and comfort to many people.
 
our dear sweet tweetie. please do not give up now. you have continuously provided all of us with strength and hope through this application process and we will continue to do the same for you.
 
You are right Tweetie, these simple letters can never conjure up enough to correct such a travesty or express how sorry I am. *HUGS*
 
its not over till you're dead..
 
{{{TWEETIE}}}

Oh gosh, girl I'm so sorry! But like the other posters said...it's not over. You just have a longer break between undergrad and med school than you were hoping for. Do something to make yourself feel better, and cry on your hubby's shoulder. But it's still too early to give up altogether!! There are lots of folks who had to apply twice, and it looks like I'm going to be reapplying with you next year. You're not alone, and you can't give up yet. You're the nicest and most helpful SDNer out there...you can do this!!!
 
Tweetie,

I graduated from college way, way back in 1996. I just got accepted to med school, class of 2007, at the ripe old age of 27.

In between, I went to grad school, took the MCAT 3 times, applied *4* times, and worked as a research analyst for a biopharmaceutical company.

What I learned through all this is that PERSISTENCE DOES PAY OFF!

So you didn't get in on your first try. No biggie! You'll get in next year. And when you do, it'll mean that much more to you. Trust me on that. 😉
 
wow, that has to be one of the most depressing posts I have ever seen.

We are all very sorry that things haven't worked out as you planned them, Tweetie. Please look again at what UCLAMAN said. Oftentimes, the things that happen to us are blessings in disguise. We are so confident and tend to think we know what we want and what's best for us, but we are usually too myopic to know what is best in the long run. I have a feeling that you will in fact be a doctor, as long as you don't give up. But maybe 20 years down the line, you will cherish that one year as a newlywed when you didn't have to be in med school more than anything. Who knows. Just don't give up, do your best, and everything will fall into place.
 
tweets-
we are all so sorry- i know how much you wanted this... but there is always next year... big hug... don't give up- we all love ya
 
Tweetie,

I am sorry to hear that you didn't get in. It sucks that someone as sweet and intelligent as you will not be going to medical school, yet. If I can offer my advice, since you have given so much to me in the past. . . . . don't give up. I understand that you must feel emotionally drained right now--in time you'll reenergize--don't give up. You may feel like your life long dream is fading away into the distance--its not, you just have to run faster to catch up to it--don't give up. You may begin to think that the adcoms were right about you--they're not---don't give up. You may think that the past year has been a waste of time, energy, and money--it wasn't, you'll see that it made you stronger, more mature, and more determined than ever to become a doctor--don't give up.

Take a cycle off, recompose yourself, have some newlywed fun, improve your application, get some work experience--then reapply for 2005. That way, you can regain your sanity, restock your bank account, and be able to enter medical school with myself, 2badr, and others. Stay strong and . . . . don't give up.
 
Tweetie, I am so sorry. I cannot imagine what is going through your mind right now but I encourge you to find motivation to continue on with your dream.

"Motivation doesn't mean you have to be up all the time ? even the most successful, best-motivated people have cloudy days, and you have to understand that. As for maintaining a sense of motivation and purpose for the long haul, you need a belief system, a past, a heritage, a tradition ? the stuff you get from family. These are the things that make you who you are, that define your self-image.
As you grow, these things are challenged. You have doubts, or people say you can't do something because of their own fears or jealousies or feelings of inadequacy. But if you have an idea of who you are and what you want to become, you can handle those doubts. Meanwhile, your self-image may adjust as new information comes to you from people, experiences or reading -- but hopefully, your self-image is also reinforced. It's a constant learning process of reanalysis and renewed focus; if you don't like your circumstances, you have to take control and change them."

Rocky Bleier made it onto the Pittsburgh Steelers despite a lack of size and natural talent, but soon afterward he was drafted and sent to Vietnam, where he was seriously wounded. Upon recovery, he made the team again and helped win four Super Bowls.

***Tweetie, It is not over
 
I'm terribly sorry to hear your bad news. You don't know me because I usually learn more from people like YOU by reading what you have to say rather than arbitrarily giving my opinion. One day though, again thanks to people like yourself, I'll know enough to advise others. From what I've read of your posts you're both knowledgable and deeply committed. Do NOT let this kill something you and perhaps more importantly, many potential patients, NEED. If you're willing to dedicate your life to practicing medicine, surely you can pick yourself up again and dedicate yourself to getting there.
For a little while forget about the hassle. Take this oppertunity to give yourself a much deserved mental vacation. Then when you're ready, charge at 'em again. Find out what you could do better and then DO IT. Remember, you ARE going to be a doctor one day. Just like you won't be content letting healthcare beurocracy dictate patient care, neither shall you be content in letting adcom beurocracy turn down a great future doc. You'll be just fine. 😉
 
Its true that the biggest disappointments and sorrows in our life are what make us stronger in the end.

Take some time to to grieve and then some time to make decisions about where to go from here. Remember, you were rejected this year; you weren't told you will never get in to med school ever! I know how frustrating this process can be with so much out of your control and in the hands of others. You now have the chance to take back that control and change the areas of your application which held you back this year. When you do decide to apply again you will present a better application and will also show your commitment to medicine by hanging in there for another year.

Take care.
 
Tweetie bird

Come on. Just apply again. It's not a big deal. You're clearly cut out for a preofession in healthcare and this is little more than a road block. I had to reapply, so did UCLAMAN; tons of people, qualified people, reapply. The moment you see this as a personal affront is when you choose a different career path and live out the rest of your life thinking what if. This is a rant and there are going to be lots of typos ut bear with me here- it's a stream of conciousness thing. Your spirit seemed so strong since I've gotten to know you over the past few months and it's very disconcerting to see you give up. I tell you- there are people on these boards that shouldn't be doctors and there are others who should. You fall into the should category, no doubt.

Hang in there and try try again. Look at the next year as not an insult but an opportunity. Five years from now, especially if you enjoy your interim (pre-M1) job, you will either forget you didn't get in on your first try or you will reflect positively on your intership/experience. It's all part of the game. Your giving up indicates either an untrue yearning to become a doctor (i.e., you were hesitant to apply in the first place/this is the straw on the camel's back) or spur-of-the-moment depression that will inevitably yield with time. By the volumes of writing you've contributed and advice you sought on these boards, I feel the former is not the case. You are a helper and this is something you want. At the risk of coming across as base, I'll say it just once: suck it up. If at first you do not succeed, remember, the AMCAS is available in June. Just do it again and look forward to the excitement-side of waiting, not the monotonous side.

Go big
Sham
 
A very wise person has this quote in their signature:

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal--Henry Ford.


Tweetie,
You WILL be a doctor. This is just one of those obstacles. I know how hard you have worked and next year when you apply and get in...just imagine how sweet that day will be! Take a breath and a step away from all of this and remember why you wanted to do it in the first place, and then come back into the game with a venegance!
Ang
 
tweetie:
i agree with all of the posters who have said that this is an obstacle. granted, a huge, daunting, heartbreaking, ANNOYING goliath of an obstacle, but merely an obstacle nontheless... and one that you will overcome.

take an app cycle (or two!) off. save some money. spend time with your new husband. regroup and breathe. examine your application and look for improvements. if it is truly your dream, you will find a way to make it happen. we will support you all the way.

all the best,
g$
 
"Some men see things as they are and say 'why?' I dream things that never were and say 'why not?'"

We have great affection for you Tweety, and we believe in you. What you need to do is heal, believe in yourself, and continue to ask the same question that Bobby Kennedy did decades ago.
 
that sucks 🙁

I'm with Sham... apply again. I remember talking to you before the whole application process begain last year... you said back then that you were applying despite the fact that you didn't have the best chances... just to "see what happens" and that you'd apply again if you didn't get in. So I think that's what you should do! 🙂

Look at all you've learned by applying this year! You'll be so well prepared next time!! Retake the MCAT, apply to a few more less competitive schools (and DO schools) and I'll bet you'll get in!

Good luck!!

If I remember correctly... you have a great hubbie who I'm sure will support you through this. 😉
 
Tweetie...I really can't add to anything the previous posters have said. Just wanted to send out a hug to let ya know I am rooting for ya!! Keep the faith, girl! Best of Luck!! 😀 😀 😀
Spin 😀
 
NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER give up on your dream!!!! You can do it.
You will do it.
We have faith in you.
Maybe it didn't happen when you had hoped, or maybe you'll have to do a few more things than you had anticipated to get there, but you will make it.
But NEVER GIVE UP.
 
Ok, I'm going to tell my inspiring story about a student host of mine again. I actually think she's on SDN or was, but I don't know her SDN name. Anyway, she applied three times. In the third year she was waitlisted at a bunch of places, but no acceptances. So she pulled out all the stops and started a massive campaign to get off of a waitlist at a particular school. Sent letters, called her interviewers... In June this school called her and invited her off of the waitlist.


AND NOW SHE IS A FIRST YEAR AT DUKE!
 
🙁 damn, this is a heartbreaker 🙁

well, there's not much else i can say that hasnt already been eloquently stated by the previous posters here. I like most of the regulars really want to see this happen for you. Sometimes this process just gets ugly and eliminates people who truely want and deserve the title of physician.

please, enjoy your life as much as possible now after your marriage. and like blitz says, when you're ready, just step back and objectively go over your strategy next time. think over all your options and most of all dont give in. medicine needs people like you, so if you truely want it (which i believe will always be the case), you'll make it yours in due time.

if i could send you one of my acceptances, i would gladly do so. please keep your head held high, and we'l all be looking forward to seeing you join the ranks of the medical profession, whenever it happens.

take at the last few words of my sig.

sincerely,
DW

and even though you said you cant be cheered up, i'm gonna try.........


:clap: :clap: :clap: :clap:

and booo to you med schools. BOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!! 😡
 
I am so sorry Tweetie! I know how much you wanted this! I think that the school has lost out on one wonderful future physician!
 
I think we need to start an SDN petition for the Dean of that med school to right this situation!
 
Tweetie,
I can't really add more to what everyone has said, but the sheer number of people who have come to know and care for you on SDN speaks volumes about the type of person you are. There is no doubt that medicine needs the special qualities you have. I will echo everyone by saying that you definitely should reapply. Whether you do it this year, or next year, you should try again. Please don't give up, and always keep your head up. You are in my prayers.
 
Tweetie,
i remember from past posts that you and I had similar scores. ihave since applied and have been accepted to NYCOM. while at first, i did this becasue i just wanted to become a ohysician, when i went to interview there i loved the school. all the students were bright and exited and these weren't the people who were giving the tour. finally, NYCOM saw past my mediocre MCAT (what is a one or two point really tell you aboyut what kind of physician u will be?) and saw my potential to be an excellent physician. they saw tons of volonteer and public health work and gave me a chance. It is because of this that I will be honored to be a DO. re the "stigma" of DO, it only appears on this board. every MD friend that I have has told me to go this route. I hope you will consider it, not because you have to settle it, but because they will recognize your potential to be an excellent physician- just like everyone on this board already does. PM me if you want to talk more about my decision or my experience of applying to NYCOM. susan
 
Add me to the list of Tweetie supporters...

Bad things happen to good people.

Take a vacation, spoil yourself silly for a month, reasses, then decide what your next step should be. Best of luck in whatever you choose but I hope I get the chance to work with you in the future.
 
Tweetie, I've been checking this board every so often just for news and my heart dropped when I saw your thread title. I'm just so so sorry to hear this and am disappointed at the admissions process. 🙁

I got into a US med school my first try, but only after two years of not being able to get into my hometown Canadian school where I'd done my undergrad. In both cases I was waitlisted without getting off, and I'm sure it was due principally to my GPA not being over 3.5. I won't pretend to know just how devastated you're feeling right now, but I do have some idea at least. The one thing I can say is that if you really, really want it - and I have no doubt you do - you *WILL* be a doctor eventually. I know how easy it is to doubt yourself, and how hard it is to wait without having any confirmation that it'll happen. But if you keep trying, it will. It happened to me, and I have no doubt it'll happen to you. It's NOT the end.

In the meantime I know it's impossible to find any consolation out of this, but at least you do finally know your fate and won't have to go through waitlist torture over the summer. Take a month or two (whatever you need) to grieve, and by the end of spring you'll be able to move on. If you don't have any motivation to reapply this June, then don't. Sit out the next cycle and do something special instead, if at all possible. In my interim years I had no extra money and had to be around for applications, so I couldn't travel...but I really wish I had. Whatever happens, just do your best to take advantage of the time off since it really doesn't have to be a "wasted" period. Once you're rested then you can figure out what you might do to reapply, but for now the best advice I can give is to just let out all the hurt you're feeling and try not to dwell too much on the future. You still have many years ahead of you and in the end this will all just be a blip on your life's radar.

But please don't give up.

(((Hugs)))
 
You Can Do It!
You Can Do It!
Tweetie's Going to Do It!

There's not much to say besides what is posted, but lots of HUGS and POSITIVE ENERGY. Your post was a good wake-up call to not forget how much we wanted this, if later on we are tired, stressed, or grouchy. Thanks for that and major Positive Energy towards you!
 
Aahhh ****, Tweets. I'm really sorry to hear it.

Please don't give up, Medicine needs you. Seriously.
 
Tweetie please do not give up now.It may be hard to see your way thru this because your dissappointment is so new.It is not over yet.You now have a chance to re-evaluate your app and re-apply.You have shown that your are dedicated to this profession.I personally feel it is too soon to start suggestion PA or something else because your heart was set on becoming a physician.It may feel over but it isn't.
Take a deep breath,re-evaluate,enjoy your new hubby and try again..I wish you nothing but the best.Not some crappy internet speech,either.I honestly and sincerely hope you do not give up yet!!!
Rooting for you!!
 
Tweetie... I'm so sorry to hear the news.... one thing though:

"TOUGH TIMES DONT LAST, BUT TOUGH PEOPLE DO!"

From the posts that you have given over the past 8 months or so... you are probably the most deserving med school applicant.

Like the others have suggested, you should not give up. You have no idea why things played out the way they did. I know it's tough to swallow though... but we SDNers are behind you 100%... like others have suggested, take a couple of weeks so that you can clear your thoughts...

You are such a tough person and I (like many others on this board I suppose) feel bad that we did not know you before.

That is what makes you a great candidate, so please heed our advice!
 
hey girl, damn I'm really sorry to hear this. Trust me I know how it feels after being through the process last year and holding on tight to that one interview, and knowing that you rocked it, yet still get the bad news at the end (wailist/rejection). Like shamthis and several other people, I am a reapplicant and things tend to go better the second time around, especially if you learn from your mistakes. Right now, the best thing to do is just relax, go on a trip and forget about this process. Then with a calm state of mind, analyze the situation, go over your application, set up appointments at your local medical schools and the school that interviewed you and see what kind of advice they can give you. If all you really need to improve is the MCAT, then you know what you gotta do, if the grades are a little low (<3.5) then do a post-bac or apply to master's programs, and if it's the clinical/research experience that was at fault in your application, then now that you are considered a college-educated person, you can apply for well-paid jobs (~30-40 Gs a year) doing some work in the health field. Then, after improving yourself as a candidate, reapply and I can pretty much guarantee you that you will get in. AS A MATTER OF FACT, IF MEDICINE IS YOUR PASSION, THEN ALL OF US WILL GET IN, the only real question is WHEN? if it happens next year, then great, if it's 5 years from now, so be it, WE WILL BE PHYSICIANS and that's what matters. Take care and best of luck to you in whatever you decide to do.
 
Tweetie,
I can't reiterate enough what everyone else is saying. So many of us on this board have had to re-apply and were successfull on the 2nd or 3rd time around. Right now I know you feel down, but after you have taken the time to cry it out, talk about it with your husband, and really evaluate what you want to do. I'd say take some time off, but don't stop volunteering or working with patients. That will keep you grounded and keep the goal in mind. When you're ready, you'll be able to reapply, and you'll not only have more experience, but you'll also be able to definitively describe why you KNOW medicine is right for you.

Look at how many people have responded to this thread! You've demonstrated to all of us that you'd make an excellent doctor. You WILL be able to show that to adcoms. Take some time for yourself, but don't let this get you down in the long run. We'll all be here to support you when you are ready to try again!!!
🙂
 
🙁 So sorry to hear the bad news, Tweetie!

But like everyone else said, take some time for yourself to kick back and have fun, and try again next year or the year after! You're a wonderful person and you know as well as everyone here that you'd kick yourself if you didn't give it another shot.

🙂 Best of luck!
 
It's such a shame! You truly deserve better!
But don't give up hope!
I've sent you a PM.
 
Tweets
I'm so so sorry but i really dont want you to look at this like it's over. I second everything that the other SDNers have said!

Thanks for being a great PM buddy (from back in the day of doing secondaries!) and go get em next year! 🙂
 
Tweetie, I'm sorry things didn't work out for you this year 🙁 . But you can't give up now! Last year I was in this same situation, and you were one of the few people who gave me hope and confidence to try again. It's going to pay off this year for me, but only because I decided to make things happen for myself. I have faith that you can do this above all others. If this is truly what you want, then you need to do whatever you can to achieve your goals...and to show these idiots who rejected you that they are missing out. Keep your head up!
 
Sorry about the bad news...

Advice: Get a job as a clinical studies coordinator for two years...retake the MCAT with all of the enthusiasm you show when posting and reapply. Also include DO schools in your list.


AB
 
🙁 TWEETS!!! 🙁

I can't really add anything to what everyone else has already said, except that I think this is f-ing bull****. I know of no single soul on SDN (or that I've met in person) who would make a better doctor than you. You can't give up. You just can't. You're too huge of an inspiration to all of us to just throw in the towel now. Take some time, get your stamina back, and follow your heart. I know I speak for every SDNer (at least the non-trolls 😉 ) when I say that we love you and will support you in any way we can.

I can't remember who said it - but when you ask for patience, God doesn't give you the trait. He gives you situations in which to practice.

They're not real, but hopefully they'll cheer you up.

allroses_1733_35859
 
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