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Hey Tweetie,

When I saw your message I almost cried, because I know exactly how you feel...that heart sinking and helpless feeling. But please, please don't give up! The world needs more doctors like you. Feel free to PM me if you need a listener. My thoughts are with you.


Nolan
 
It's not over, it's just delayed. And if you really want it now, pack up your husband and go to the carribean. If you work as hard there as you did on your applications, you should have few problems with getting back into the US for residency training. This is a terrible, horrible, miserable setback, but we all know that you will be a great doctor, and that your future patients will thank you for not giving up.
 
Tweetie, that totally sucks. 🙁 For what it's worth, I think they made a huge mistake. It's just another example of what's wrong with this process, when truly great people like you don't get in. I hope you keep trying until you do.

ps. I PM'd you. 🙂 (actually, I haven't sent it yet, but I'm about to do so)
 
Dear tweetie --

I am so sorry to hear it. I think you will be a great physician, because I know that you are going to reapply and blow them out of the water. you message really touched me and I will take it to heart. I know I can't help brighten your day much, but you are in my thoughts. Good luck,
j
 
Sweetie

you've been in my thoughts all day, but I couldn't post at work...
only you know the depth of your heartache, so honor your grief
no words can heal only time...

in the meanwhile have a good ole' ugly cry, take a sleeping pill and when you wake up you'll have a little bit of perspective and energy with which to face this new chapter, and that's all it is--one chapter in the life of TweetieBird MD... 😍
 
Please don't give up Tweetie! We need more people like you in the medical field. Often times we get caught up in the numbers, and not in what the person has to offer. Please reapply, and include DO schools. They look at the entire person, not just the numbers.

Please, please, please don't give up on your dream.
 
TweetieBird,
Please DON'T give up on your dreams of becoming a physician!!!! i know that this has been a difficult year for you, I have followed your posts and you are the most deserving individual on this board of getting an acceptance. I cannot say anything better than what the previous posters have eloquently put, but all i can say is " If at first you don't succeed, try try again". Please try again..reapply. If right now, it is financially hard to re-apply, I suggest as what other posters have said: Take a break and enjoy marital life and also work and this will give u a chance to look at life with new, fresh perspective!!

Don't give up on your dream, please!!!

-DL
 
Tweets -
I'm sooooo sorry. Like everyone else who's been around SDN for any length of time knows, you're bound for medicine one way or another. I applied my senior year of undergrad, had my one interview, was put on hold, then was finally rejected. Two years later I've reapplied with good success. I definitely think you should reapply - the only question is when and to which schools. When the time comes, I know fellow SDNers will be here for you. I only hope that in the mean time you continue to be here for the other SDNers and support.
 
So sorry to hear that hun. 🙁 I know how passionate you are about being a doctor and I'm sorry things didn't work out like you wanted. However, if this is truly something you want, you'll give it another shot. I KNOW you can do it. Maybe, this just wasn't your year. You were busy w/ your wedding and such. Try it once more. We all have faith in your capabilities...why shouldn't you? *big ol hug*
 
None of us are giving up on you Tweetie...Maybe next year you'll have a student interviewer and it will be one of us 😉 .
 
Everyone is so nice and stuff, so I'm going to lay it out bluntly for ya:

"It's over"..yeah, it's completely and utterly over for you if you continue to have that attitude.

I've known people who had to take the MCAT 6 times before they acheived a score above 28, people who applied 3 times before they got accepted....Know why they got in? Because they wanted it badly....if you want medicine bad enough then you'll re-apply again...but if you have this "it's over" attitude then you're absolutely right, medicine will never ever be anything more to you than a mere "dream."

Hey, in life, people get rejected all the time...people are rejected by the opposite sex, schools, society, and even family. Rejection hurts, it makes u want to evaluate yourself..but you know what? You just need to sukkit up and get over it...

Everyone is telling you that you're a great person and they would love it if you were their doctor...well, I'll tell you this:

I wouldn't you as my doctor if you still hold that "It's over" mentality because if I had a deadly disease, and you didn't know of any other way to help me, I sure as hell do not want to hear the words "It's over" coming from your mouth...in fact, I want you to tell me that you'll research on it, figure out whats wrong...and try to fix it.

If you don't have confidence in yourself, how will your patients and others have confidence in you?

And oh, by the way:

Excellence in fields doesn't go to the ones who are the better test taker, it goes to the ones who are passionate about it.
 
It's over? Just like that?

I'm certainly not going to be one to get all sappy and tell you to buck up and whatnot because in all reality, it sucks. Trust me, I know.

Yet, you talk like it's the end of the world and you're not even close. Like others in this thread, I also was a multiple reapplicant. I applied five times, took the MCAT three times, applied to 101 total schools in that time and have a stack of 100 rejection letters. I'll be 30 on Sunday and am halfway through my first year. Was I upset? You bet. Did I give up hope? Not on your life.

If it's really what you want to do, then don't let them tell you no.
 
Hey Tweetie,

I'm so sorry to hear about the news. Don't give up because it is defintely not over. You have to realize that many people do not get in on their first attempt...in fact, if you look at the numbers, more than half the people who applied this year will not get in. Most people do in fact get in the second time they apply. There have been many examples of this right here on SDN, and I'm hoping to be another example in the near future. I know how tough it is not to get in because it happened to me last year. You do lose your motivation, but it comes back to you really quickly. Once the disappointment boiled over for me, I became even more resolved and determined to try even harder the second time around. I tweaked my PS, I retook the MCAT, and I made sure that my LOR's were the best they could be. It has resulted in many more interviews and much more positive responses.

Tweetie, you will be a doctor, and its not a dream because it will eventually become a reality. Its not an easy process for 99% of us, but stay determined and keep trying. Do not give up. You have hundreds, if not thousands of people here on SDN that are more than willing to help you with anything you need in order to get you in.

Take a look at eveything you did this year and see where improvements could have been made. Maybe your app was not completed early enough or your PS was not very strong...there is something because you are a great candidate, but for some reason 33 *****ic medical schools did not see that.

I know you said that you don't have the motivation to reapply, but me and everyone else on SDN would like to see you reapply for the next application cycle. Take it from someone who has reapplied, its very worth it and I guarantee you that it will pay off. Good luck sweat heart!🙂
 
Tweetie you can't give up! As someone who knows what it is like to be totally shut out I can tell you that things only get better. After a week of feeling sorry for myself I snapped out of it and now I'm more determined then ever to be a doc. And I know that you'll feel the same way as well. This is just a setback which will make your eventual success that much sweeter.

You have to try again.
If not for yourself then for your future patients.
 
You embody what some of us reapplicants went through last year. The sooner you pick yourself up, the sooner and easier you can reapply. Find a good lab job, or a teaching job, or a hospital job (all are good experiences when you reapply). Then retake the MCAT and try to get a 26 total minimum (with no area lower than a 7) (it's the cutoff a lot of schools use for interviewing).

Then, KEEP doing some extracurricular volunteering (with some clinical experience see above, it may be your job, or research) you will get many more interviews and get in...

As a reapplicant I learned so much from last year; this year I may get into a school I truly love and am glad the first schools rejected me last year...I am going where I want and not where I have to. Good luck to you and "IT IS NEVER OVER...just a bit delayed..." 😀
 
tweetie,

you remain so positive and give encourage so many people on SDN and i hope you re-evaluate things and do apply again; whether it be next year or somewhere down the road. you are obviously a compassionate and personable person who many of us would enjoy having as a colleague and even as a doctor. i know i am one.

i don't know what advice to give since i don't know your situation, but i have confidence that you will overcome this. don't give up if being a physician is your dream.

best of luck and i hope i continue to see you post here on SDN regularly, whether you do decide continue this journey or you choose to take another path.

best of luck
 
hey tweetie bird,

i just wanna say that i'm sorry that you didn't have much luck this time around. i hope that you keep that desire of becoming a physician and try again in the future! it's completely understandable that you feel like giving up. it's only for the moment. try to use this experience to make your motivation even stronger and to show everyone what you're about! i personally think (like others have suggested) to take the year off to relax and recuperate from the greuling process that you have taken on. use that time to spend it with your husband...to keep the fire strong. i have one of those at home too😉 and i know that it is vital to just have time to spend together. think, when you're in med school (and you WILL be!🙂 )...time will be an issue. take the year off and soak up your hubby all you can!

good luck and i'll be prayin for ya😉 .
 
Originally posted by Kovox
I wouldn't you as my doctor if you still hold that "It's over" mentality because if I had a deadly disease, and you didn't know of any other way to help me, I sure as hell do not want to hear the words "It's over" coming from your mouth...in fact, I want you to tell me that you'll research on it, figure out whats wrong...and try to fix it.
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Invest in a mood-leveling drug, Kovox.

Tweetie-
You were nice to me, so I'm going to be nice back: Let me be the first to hope sand invades the beach-visiting asscracks of the boneheaded adcoms that didn't admit you this year. I won't tell you some horse**** like "rejection is an opportunity in disguise".. I know it just sucks right now. Go out and enjoy the world for a while.. you want to be a doc, and I believe you will be one day. For now, have a pina colada and listen to a Bob Marley album, and invite the world to kiss your nether regions. Trust me, it works.
 
🙁
I'm so sorry Tweetie. I really hope you stick with it. According to the pre-med website at my undergrad, the average number of times people have to apply before being accepted is two. Since so many people get in on their first try, that must mean TONS of people get in on their 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th... 😱 tries.

If you need any help or feedback, I'd be happy to whatever I can. Feel free to PM me 🙂
 
Sorry to hear that Tweetie....But don't give up!


Most people give up just when they're about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game, one foot from a winning touchdown.

--Ross Perot
 
Tweetie:

When I got the scores back from my first MCAT, I sat down and cried. And cried. And cried some more. I was pretty depressed for a very, very LOOONG time. The summer of 2001 sucked.

Soooo, I put all of my mcat/med school stuff in a dark closet and didn't look at it for 9 months. When I decided I was going to give it another shot, I planned a big vacation for after my 2nd taking of the MCAT. IT motivated me to study....

It took me 4 years after undergrad, a 2 1/2 year stint at a job that wasn't exactly challenging, but gave me good experience to get my acceptance....During that time, I was lucky enough to be able meditate/ponder my motivations. If anything, I was able to cement my decision to pursue my goal of becoming a doctor.

Take your time and try not to be so hard on your self. There's plenty of time for you to accomplish your life's dreams!

You can do it....we all believe in YOU! :clap:
 
mm. . almost don't wanna post cause there's nothing new to say, but 😡 🙁 😕 and lots of 😍 😍 😍 😍 😍 . . .
 
This will probably sound insensitive, but thank you for your post. Your situation is so much like my past that I, after reading about your disappointment, can appreciate (once again) where I am now. Med school can screw with your head. You go from having a great deal of self-confidence to feeling as if you are completely inept. I truly am happy to be where I am (as you have encouraged us to be).

That being said, I must discourage you from giving up. I don't know how many times you have tried, but I also only had one interview (during my 1st application cycle). It was my alma mater. I felt particularly crushed (as if a parent or loved one had rejected me) when they mailed me a notice stating that I would not be accepted. You really must, if you have any genuine interest in medicine, pick yourself up and try again. Assess your weaknesses. Ask for assistance in improving your application. Persistence is key.

Good luck!

I want you to print your original post so that, when you are a medical student and times are rough (which they will be), you will be able to appreciate your achievements.
 
Tweetie,

I went throught the same feelings last year after applying to about 12 schools and only getting one interview. I thought that I was qualified but there was one thing keeping me out (a low verbal score). I overcame the disappointment and studies very hard for the Aug. MCAT last year and pulled my verbal score up by a ton. This year I reapplied and received 8 interviews, turned down 4 and receieved 3 acceptances. I am going to my dream school.

Please look at your application and decide what thing or things are keeping you from getting interviews. Improve on that an d reapply and more schools will open their doors. You have to get to the interview stage in order to really improve your chances. You can do it, if it's your dream then keep on truckin'.

:clap:
 
Originally posted by Enkindu
Invest in a mood-leveling drug, Kovox.
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My post was harsh, and I meant it to be harsh.

I would rather have Tweetie get slapped by my words to give her a wake-up-call than to have her arse kicked by life's rejections.

All this emotional sap about "I believe in you..." crap, it's all nice and stuff but if she doesn't believe in herself, then all the world believing in her won't do her much good.

Telling her she is "nice" and will get in, it's sweet and all but it doesn't do much because rejection is like a bleeding wound, you don't band-aid it, you apply pressure to it.

Life is too short for round robins, I don't sugar coat when it comes to getting someone to get off their arse and do something about their problem, I prefer giving them a swift kick in the arse.

If she thinks I'm a total jackarse for my post so be it but if she can use my words as her motivation or get herself motivated so she could prove me wrong...then I did my job.
 
Originally posted by Kovox
My post was harsh, and I meant it to be harsh.
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If she thinks I'm a total jackarse for my post so be it but if she can use my words as her motivation or get herself motivated so she could prove me wrong...then I did my job.
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With a sig like yours ("Pain is weakness leaving the body"- yeah right, tell that to my knees), it seems that abuse is your MO. I understand where you're coming from, but still. I just hope you're not planning on going into psychiatry... or pediatrics... or family practice... or parenting...
 
Originally posted by Kovox
but if she doesn't believe in herself, then all the world believing in her won't do her much good.
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Tweetie, everything will work out in the end how it was intended to be.

Take a break, step back, and then reach down in you and find that part of you that got you to where you are today, and light it. Believe in yourself, because when it comes right down to it, the buck stops there. People on these boards know you can do it, so find that part of yourself, and get back on the horse.

Best of luck.

Christine
 
Originally posted by Kovox
My post was harsh, and I meant it to be harsh.

I would rather have Tweetie get slapped by my words to give her a wake-up-call than to have her arse kicked by life's rejections.
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Somehow I think Tweetie already has a firm grasp on reality, even without your help. Have you considered a career in law enforcement?
 
Sorry to hear this Tweetie. But like someone above mentioned, take some time and just get your energy/thoughts back together. Once that is done and things are back into perspective, then give it another go. If it's what you want, then you will get back on that horse and ride it.

Just think of this as a process....trust me your struggles will only make the whole experience more precious.

Don't give up....where there is a will there is a way.

I agree with Kovox,
If you are willing to let your dream of becoming a doctor go this easily, then you must not want it bad enough.
 
Originally posted by Enkindu
Somehow I think Tweetie already has a firm grasp on reality, even without your help. Have you considered a career in law enforcement?
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I spilled my drink from laughing when I read your post. You're posting to someone who was accepted to Harvard Medical school and not surprisingly, Harvard Law:laugh: The law part explains Kovy's rough side.

I don't think Kovox means any harm in her post. It's just how she is - blunt and straight forward. In person, she is like that too (if not worst),but it was her bluntness that helped me get off my addiction, she was the only one among my friends who had the guts to tell me I was messing up my life because of an addiction - I needed that yelling, that arguing, or what she refers to as a "slap."

Tweetie: I hope you get into medical school, you're a great person and very good moderator but it's up to you.
 
Although I wanna throw a bit more compassion in there, I hear the last two posters. My immediate response was:

Man, this post is BS only because TWEETIE KNOWS that she will be back, going at it again. This is only a minute setback. Come another couple of months, I guarantee Tweeties goes after it again. Now, after 3 years of trying and no dice, I can see someone think about something else. But hey, for some, they make it their destiny.

Stay true, Tweetie.

Gumshoe
 
Tweetie,

I've been rejected by 85 medical schools, for two years in a row. I was waitlisted once - told to reapply by the dean. I reapplied with higher MCATs - and was rejected flat out.

I have no intention of giving up, ever. I will attend a US allopathic med school some day.

I'm gonna get a masters, then reapply. If that doesn't work, I'm gonna re take every single one of my pre-med classes.

There are people living on our nation's streets, or living in horribly abusive homes. Not to mention the millions of people living around the world in horrid situations. I didn't get into med school for the past two years in a row. BIG F-ING DEAL! There is food in my belly, and my family is safe.

Not to sound harsh - but get some perspective for yourself - you'll make it happen some day. Just don't give up, don't EVER give up.

Maybe go work in a homeless shelter or something and you'll see just how bad some peoples lives are. Realize that there are countless others out there, that have been rejected by many more schools than you have - and if you sit around feeling sorry for yourself, then those people that want it more than you do are gonna reach up and steal it from you. Sack up brotha and put your game face on - its go time.

God bless the troops, and god bless the Iraqi people.
 
TexasGuy:

Thanks for posting. I can tell you are genuine. You're attitude is exemplary. THIS IS WHAT IT'S all about, people.

God Bless you, too

cheers,

gumshoe
 
Yes very good post!
 
Wow.
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I guess I'm gonna break from my self-imposed hiatus from SDN just to say how sad I am about this. Of all the people I've seen on SDN, I can think of very few that were as enthusiastic about going to med school than tweetie. So much so that it almost makes me feel guilty to be holding an acceptance right now.

Tweetie, I think you need to take a break for awhile to regroup. Get away from the pre-med mindset and if need be, get away from SDN. Clear your head. Don't worry about how old you are. There are people in their 40s in medical school. A one or two year delay for you will not be a big deal even though it may seem like it now. I've been there. At the time I was rejected I thought my world had collapsed. In retrospect things weren't all that bad. Call it the "fog of rejection" if you will. Just get away for now and let the fog pass. Come back when you are ready and only you can be the judge of when that will be.

Don't worry though, for someone that showed your enthusiasm and passion, it is without question that you will be back one day and that there will be a seat in medical school with your name on it.

Take care, Tweetie.

P.S.-You may want to take my signature's advice and proceed to your nearest adcom with a bag full of lemons. 🙂
 
Originally posted by TexasGuy41
I have no intention of giving up, ever. I will attend a US allopathic med school some day.

I'm gonna get a masters, then reapply. If that doesn't work, I'm gonna re take every single one of my pre-med classes.

There are people living on our nation's streets, or living in horribly abusive homes. Not to mention the millions of people living around the world in horrid situations. I didn't get into med school for the past two years in a row. BIG F-ING DEAL! There is food in my belly, and my family is safe.

Not to sound harsh - but get some perspective for yourself - you'll make it happen some day. Just don't give up, don't EVER give up.

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Looks like great doctor material to me!
 
Sorry to hear, Tweetie. Good luck for when you reapply.

-RA
 
Originally posted by pathdr2b
Remember it's God's schedule [B}not yours and there's nothing wrong with taking a few years off from the rat race and reapplying at another time. Medical school is not going anywhere! [/B]
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Tweetie:

This is an excerpt of mine to you from a previous thread. I really hope you read it this time and understand that although you didn't "receive" this message the first time, it may be time to do so now.

Good luck in the future!
 
Um... even though he didn't sound very nice, Kovok has a point. She needs to muster up the strength to apply again. If she does, she'll probably get in eventually. Let's all go back in time to when Tweetie was deciding whether or not she should even apply this year. Many of us (including myself) strongly suggested that she not apply. Her take on the situation was simply "We'll see what happens... if I don't get in this time, I'll try again the following year." So, she didn't get in... now she just needs to apply again. That was her plan.

If she really wants to be a doctor, she'll apply again next year. Hopefully she'll retake the MCAT and apply to A LOT of less competitve schools.

I'm sure she'll have a much better shot next year if she can muster up the strength to apply one more time. 🙂

Like Kovok said... all our support will onyl make her feel better (maybe) it won't get her into med shcool.


Enjoy your summer Tweetie! and your new hubbie!
 
I realize that I am late and everyone has already summed it all up...so I just wanted to add my own,, I'm sorry. This process is hard on us all and I can only hope that you apply again when you are ready. Good luck.
 
Hey There!

I'm so sorry that you didn't get in!! Don't let this get you down!
I know it must feel like the whole world just caved in! But I promise it will get better! You'll realize how much you want this and you will reapply next year! I know you'll make it!
So KEEP TRYING CHICA!
 
If you want to be a doctor, don't be a quitter.

Good Luck.
 
I just wanted to say I am truly sorry that this process is so frustrating and painful. I know we have all dealt with frustration on different levels throughout this experience. It's a shame that in order to become physicians we must go through this emotional ringer. It seems so sadistic..I mean, you have people who all just want to do good in the world. Yet we are stripped apart each step of the way.

I do agree with everyone that you just have to keep on trucking. Honestly, that which does not kill us makes us stronger. I know that sounds cliche but, hold onto it. I know that with perseverance and dedication and unwavering commitment..you will make it.

That's not to say, you should not take a second to be sad, to be frustrated, to feel dissapointed..But when you are ready, dust yourself off and keep on trucking.. In the end, you will be fine.
SO much of life is just about having the endurance and the will to achieve. Brains and scores take us but so far, and a lot of success is just being a fighter..Never giving up.

Good luck!
________________________________________________
Morehouse School of Medicine 2007
 
I'm surprised that this person has received nearly 100 messages of support and sympathy and hasn't posted a reply or an update on how she is handling her difficult situation.
 
Don't give Tweets a hard time, she's probably taking a well deserved break from SDN...she'll respond when she's ready I'm sure of it 🙂
 
this thread is getting out of hand...

Tweeties, you should take this thread out of its misery!

AB
 
This thread makes me feel sad. 🙁 Sorry tweeties...if i have the guts to apply despite my status and infact defer pharmacy...just to give a shot at my dream....i think you can do it. HANG IN THERE TWEETIEE....I WISH YOU WERE MY GIRLFRIEND BECAUSE YOU SEEM SWEET AND SENSITIVE AND WOULD HAVE BEEN NEXT TO YOU EVERY DEPRESSING MOMENT.
 
I'm really sorry Tweetie.. I am not going to add any new advice b/c this thread is getting overwhelming and is probably the last thing you need right now. All I have to say is that if you want to be a doctor, you CAN do it. taking a break from the next application cycle and retaking the MCAT next April sounds like a decent idea; it worked for me. If an "average", "ordinary" applicant like me can get into a US allopathic school on my second time thru, than so can you, if you still want to.

I know people mean well, but please tone down the preaching on homelessness; it is grossly unfair to assume that Tweetie and other applicants have never worked at a homeless shelter or with the disadvantaged. and most people going to med school are certainly not going to be sheltered from the problem of homelessness for long if they haven't worked with the homeless already (unless you go to a school in a very rural area). even if someone is having a bad moment, I think it's good to treat them the way you would treat a fellow colleague or a patient, and I have good faith that Tweetie will someday be the former. 🙂
 
Hi Tweetie,

After reading your post, I became a bit depressed and went into hibernation from SDN for several days. I've been hoping for you all year. I tried to imagine what it would feel like to hear from that last school. I'm still in limbo waiting post-interview, but I'm trying to be more realistic @ plan B for the coming year.

Hope you'll be OK, Tweet! Give yourself some time off and recollect yourself for the next step, whatever that will be. I'm 30, still single, w/ only 5 years left of productive child-bearing. You're only in your mid-20's (right?) and already married. Don't worry--you have many great years coming up. Please check in w/ us so we know how you're doing. 😍
 
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