just can't wait to say, "nah, nah, nah" ... well not exactly...

[fun8stuff]

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Just so I do not get flamed too badly for what I am about to ask, I want to make sure everyone knows that I do want to become a doctor because I love helping people and I love working with people; I have already experienced how wonderful this is.

But, despite this, do you ever have those days where you just can't wait to tell off all those people who didn't believe that you could make it through (or to) med school? Those few people who just seem to dislike you for having such high goals for yourself. I know I do... just wondering if anyone else has encountered this. Not any of my close friends or anyone my own age... mainly just my step parents and other older friends of family. I don't really mean "tell off" either... I mean just so they can see that you can do it...

This is by no means my whole ambition for being a pre-med, but it sure does play a part in giving me the extra "umph" on the days that I need it.

 

[rikio]

... yes it does give me that extra motivation......

 

[MDmiracle]

Here, Here!

 

[premyo2002]

I agree!!😀

 

[jenni4476]

Gotta agree with you there...

I think anyone who claims not to care about that AT ALL is just too good to be true and probably is covering up way too many insecurities, some of which will undoubtedly pop up later in life and cause them to fall flat on their face

(at least that's what I tell myself...) I'm not ashamed of being "human" and I'm constantly amazed at how many people try to portray themselves as "above all of that".

 

[kmnfive]

everyone seems to have a good idea of how others should live their lives but no one knows how to live their own.

--the alchemist.


yeah i know allot of people who are dinguses. -- academically.

but u know, if you spite them because you want revenge, you are no better than they are. keep your head up, do what you gotta do, and just go on. coz all that hate inside you (maybe thats a too strong of a word) will eat you too.

 

[OrthoFixation]

a quick analogy on people and ambition:

If you are catching live crabs, you must have a container to store them in. A common way is to use a large wicker-ish basket with a lid to make sure the crabs don't climb out.

Only thing is, the lid gets less use than one might expect. Place one crab in the basket and the lid is required or the crab will climb out. Place two or more crabs in the basket and the lid is no longer required. If one crab gets ambitious and decides to climb out, the other crabs will pull him back into the basket ! ! !

Don't be a crab....keep climbing😀

 

[indo]

Originally posted by OrthoFixation
a quick analogy on people and ambition:

If you are catching live crabs, you must have a container to store them in. A common way is to use a large wicker-ish basket with a lid to make sure the crabs don't climb out.

Only thing is, the lid gets less use than one might expect. Place one crab in the basket and the lid is required or the crab will climb out. Place two or more crabs in the basket and the lid is no longer required. If one crab gets ambitious and decides to climb out, the other crabs will pull him back into the basket ! ! !

Don't be a crab....keep climbing😀

uhh...ok.

 

[fun8stuff]

Originally posted by OrthoFixation
a quick analogy on people and ambition:

If you are catching live crabs....
....
Don't be a crab....keep climbing😀

Nice analogy, I really see how this applies to real life. I was mainly referring to people that in their eyes you could not do anything good enough to impress them and who constantly have something negative to say about anything. I know I should not let it bother me, and most of the time it doesn't. The kind of people who don't work, barely made it through college, and still have the nerve to say, "You got all As? College must be getting easier... geez.. Either that or you must be a social loser"... not in so much words... but that's the main idea.

 

[kmnfive]

Nice analogy, I really see how this applies to real life. I was mainly referring to people that in their eyes you could not do anything good enough to impress them and who constantly have something negative to say about anything. I know I should not let it bother me, and most of the time it doesn't. The kind of people who don't work, barely made it through college, and still have the nerve to say, "You got all As? College must be getting easier... geez.. Either that or you must be a social loser"... not in so much words... but that's the main idea.

i know allot of people like that, and to be honest, i try not to spend too much time with them. these people are those whom live their lives criticizing others. it gives them a sense of power and it makes them feel better about themselves, when in reality it is themselves who they are not happy with. ( sorry if i sound like some pretentious psychologist )

 

[thackl]

I'm non-trad (29yr old engineer) and there were several people last year who thought I was being stupid to quit engineering and go back to school for 7yrs. Many of them have since admitted they were simply jealous because they don't have the courage to make a major life altering change like this and better their own situation. Change can be frightening for some.

People like to feel good about what they are doing and when someone close is attempting to achieve more, it can be threatening to their own self esteem.

 

[Dr. Xavier]

I hate playa haters too.

 

[Paws]

I like the crab analogy, I've heard it before but it definitely is a keeper.

I have always been pretty secretive about who I might tell because I have been constantly amazed how so many people - old friends and new acquaintances - can be so mean. Usually they act like: "oh, I could do that if I wanted to ... " 🙄 yea, but meanwhile they're not willing to make the least sacrifice in their life, like giving up cable tv and 4.00 cafe latte's.

Recently I told a guy I'd just met and he didn't even respond, he just looked at me like I had just slapped him in the face and he was about to yell at me - wtf?! I guess he prefers his little ladies to be, well, litle ladies I just walked away and went to talk with my friends. He was such a jerk, but it upset me at the same time.

So this is why I just keep it quiet, I can't deal with some people's weirdness ... Also, I mentioned it to an old friend of mine and I never heard back from here. I called her a couple of times and then it dawned on me, maybe she's NOT happy for me - duh, sometimes I'm a little slow ...

 

[judoka]

mmmmmmm...crab

 

[fun8stuff]

Originally posted by judoka
mmmmmmm...crab

hahahah.... yeah, I could go for crab right about now...

...but it does feel good that I'm not the only one who has these experiences... Most of the time I'm quiet too. It's almost easier that way. I just tell them my actual major... biotechnology.

 

[Jonkst]

Hate the game, not the player!

 

[dara678]

Yeah that happened to me too... My mom told my uncle that I was applying to medical school, and he blew it off, saying that 80% fail out anyway and never become doctors. It's like he's saying that I won't be one even before I'm in! GRRRR ...

Yeah, for people like that I don't even WANT to tell them if I get in ... cuz they'd end up saying, "oh you won't be a good doctor anyway." Best way is just to ignore it I guess ..

 

[Texas1111]

I don't tell people I'm premed, because I know at least four people in my circle of friends that told the whole world they were going to be doctors, then ended up not making it.

 

[schlrgirl]

i feel ya...i have only told ppl i know support me

which is really the only ppl who need to know 🙂

...i'll wait about 10 years and when i run into someone i know and they ask what i'm doing then i'll tell them....and let them think whatever they want 🙂