Keeping in touch with undergrad mentors

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psychra22

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How do you all go about doing this?

When I graduated from undergrad last May, I told my honors thesis mentor that she was a huge role model for me and that I'd like to "keep in touch."

I know others on this forum have varying degrees of communication with undergrad mentors, but I'm finding it difficult to even start an email that is casual and professional enough to be appropriate. How do you continue/maintain a relationship with someone that is not a "friend" but is also no longer an instructor?

I'm not sure why, but I feel pretty embarrassed about sending an email when I'm not asking for anything at the moment (like a reference or advice). Any profs have anything to add about their communication with former students?

The last time we spoke was before graduation and before the year is over, I just want to say "Hey".....without JUST SAYING HEY 🙂
 
I'd actually think it's fine to send an email in which you're essentially just saying "hey." You could also keep her apprised of your current status (e.g., where you're considering applying, what you're planning on doing while you wait to hear back on applications, etc.), particularly if you feel awkward with just checking in.

My undergrad mentor unfortunately passed away a few years ago, but I still check in with my grad school advisor (who's since retired) every so often just to say hi.
 
I think it's great you want to communicate *without* asking for a reference or advice, those are some of the nicest emails to receive. Tell her you've been wondering what she's up to (if a researcher, ask what projects she might be doing), and that you just want to say hello, as well as updating her as to what you are doing. I *love* hearing from former students when they don't want anything from me! It makes me feel like they care about their time with me and don't just see me as a letter-mill. Work through your awkwardness, or just choose to send the email even if you feel a bit weird about it. 🙂
 
I agree. Ask her how her research is going (and/or anything else she is doing), and let her know what you've been doing. You could also let her know about a pub or even something in pop culture that is related to her interests/research.
 
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