I keep confusing myself with the relationship of Leaving groups with nucleophilicity, electronegativity, and acidity. Help me with the relationship?
The more electronegative the more acidic=a better leaving group? and less nucleophilitic?
A leaving group is a good leaving group if it's stable (i.e. unreactive) after it leaves. So, instead of thinking about a bunch of different variables (acidity, electronegativity, etc.), then trying to use those to judge how good a leaving group is, I always try to think of it in terms of the basic concept at the root of it, then go from there.
Okay, so something is a good leaving group if it's stable after it leaves. This brings up the more general question- what makes something stable? Something is stable if it tends not to react. This means that anything that you can think of that would be a good (i.e. strong) base or good nucleophile would make a poor leaving group.
For example, hydroxide -OH is a pretty good base, right? (think NaOH). This means -OH is usually a pretty *bad* leaving group for most reactions (there are a few exceptions, such as base-cat dehydration for an aldol condensation, etc.). But certainly for any Sn2 reaction you can think of, -OH is never going to come off and be the leaving group, since Sn2 is a concerted ONE-STEP reaction, whose transition state depends in part on how good the leaving group is.
Anyway, not to get sidetracked by all the detail, but the main idea to always keep in mind is- how reactive would the thing be if it comes off as a leaving group? If you think it's going to be pretty reactive, then it's likely not going to be a good leaving group. If it's going to be pretty stable, then it'll be a better leaving group. Halogens are good leaving groups.
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Acidity is a different topic, but the theme about stability we considered for leaving groups still applies. How I think about acids is basically: if its conjugate base is stable (i.e unreactive, i.e. weak base), then it's a good (strong) acid. If the conjugate base is a really good (strong) base, then, it's going to be a poor acid.
Why? Things like to be stable. If ripping off a proton from an acid is going to give you something stable and pleasant and unreactive, then it's going to be really easy to rip off that proton. If otoh, the end result of ripping off a proton is something really reactive and aggressive, then it's going to be hard to rip off that proton, meaning what you have is a poor acid. A good acid likes to "give it up", and after it's given it up, it doesn't care, won't text you the next morning. A poor (weak) acid plays hard to get, but after it's given it up, it turns out to be real needy & always wants your attention.
Hmm... I don't know where that metaphor came from.