Although I am not currently in PT school and have not been accepted anywhere yet - I am in a similar situation as described above so I have some advice to give. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over two years now. He started medical school in fall 2016. Although we live in the same town, but not together (he thought it would be a better idea to live with people in his class his first year), it has been extremely challenging. My advice to you is to talk with your boyfriend about the sacrifices both of you will have to make if you want to make it work. Communication is key in this situation. Your boyfriend will need to understand how busy you will be with classes, studying, and just being stressed 24/7. He'll also have to understand that not all of the free time you have will be for him. You're going to want to spend time with your classmates outside of class, lab, and study sessions. Whether it's getting together for a drink after a hard week or playing on a local club sports team. I know this was extremely difficult for me to deal with and accept at first. I was so used to having his undivided attention prior to him starting medical school it was sort of a shock to me. We fought all the time in the beginning and things are still slowly improving each day. Not going to lie, it's really tough. I can completely understand the "small cracks turning into a flood". However, if you are willing to put the hard work in to make your relationship succeed you guys should be okay. For me, I had to put myself in his shoes and think how things would be if the roles were reversed - if I was the one in PT school and he was the one working full time, stuck in limbo, waiting to hear back from med schools. I had to understand that he is at least making an effort with the little spare time he has. I guess just make sure you work on communication and making time for each other at least once a week. I meet mine once during the week for a quick coffee date and spend one weekend afternoon/evening doing something fun together. Other than that, we usually go the whole week without talking except good morning/goodnight texts and quick phone calls. I read somewhere that professional school will make great relationships greater and bad relationships worse. Not sure if this is what you want to hear but hope it helps at least a little!
