Long Distance Suggestions?

[cattyinthehatty]

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My husband is starting med school in the fall about 4 hours away from where we currently live. I am planning on staying in our current city to finish my last year of nursing school.

We've never really spent any considerable amount of time apart in the last three years other than a month that he spent in Spain and a month that I will be spending in Ecuador this summer....Any relationship tips from those of you who might have had a similar situation?

 

[GeneGoddess]

I know a couple that was apart for five years (and they were married for three of them). And another couple who is STILL apart (hoping to be together this fall) and have been together for seven years and married for one. It sucks. I highly recommend either getting a calling card or a cell phone (verizon has "free" calling for other verizon customers) or VoIP (free long distance). Try to see each other once a month. And learn to cherish the time you DO spend together.

 

[adventurer]

I have done the long distance thing at various times in my life. It does suck, but if you are very busy with school (as you both will be) it should actually be easier. You get to set apart a certain time to talk to each other, and the rest of the time, it is about you and your studying. Plan weekends together, but not all of them and definitely get a good long distance plan! Look at it as an opportunity to focus on your own goals.

 

[samenewme]

My husband is starting med school in the fall about 4 hours away from where we currently live. I am planning on staying in our current city to finish my last year of nursing school.

We've never really spent any considerable amount of time apart in the last three years other than a month that he spent in Spain and a month that I will be spending in Ecuador this summer....Any relationship tips from those of you who might have had a similar situation?

Burn up those phone lines--set up time to talk to each other. Call and speak on the phone, though you can supplement with e-mail. Include the trivial and the important, so that you have a sense of each other's daily lives. When it seems that something is just not right, bend heaven and earth to get some "face time" and get it straightened out.

You can do it, but it requires vigilance, solicitousness, caring, and being very open about what you can offer AND what YOU NEED.

Good luck!

 

[randomlogik]

I second the advice that everyone has given. I live 3000 miles away from my boyfriend. I met him right before I started med school two years ago. Talking with each other is essential. We usually talk to each other a couple hours each night. Also, text messaging can be nice. We usually send messages to each other throughout the day. It's a good way to stay connected. We always try to visit each other at least once every two months. Longer than that gets hard. Its always good to know when the next visit is going to be. It gives you something to look forward to. Lastly, I don't know if either of you like video games, but he got me interested in playing halo2 over xbox live. It's one of the greatest things in our relationship. Even though we are far away from each other, we can play together on the same team against other people on live. It gives us the opportunity to do an activity together even though we are apart. Just remember, it can be hard, but it is definately doable. Good luck!

 

[cattyinthehatty]

Thank you everyone for the supportive advice. We are looking into cell phone plans and are figuring on relying on IM pretty heavily. PS- I LOVED the halo idea. We're not much into video games- but that is totally outside the box and really helps me feel like there are a lot of different ways to connect with long distance. Thanks for the input everyone!

 

[hedera916]

I think we had a similar thread before...

Make a point to talk everyday. Or at least e-mail (as in a substantial e-mail!) when there are days that you really can't, for one reason or another. Always budget for long distance calls and text messaging. YM/AIM will be very essential too...and get a webcam and microphone! Maintain an online journal so that your loved one will be updated with your current schedule and state of mind...he can easily access this anytime, and you can write anytime.

Trust him and always be trustworthy.🙂