M4 addicted to prostitutes. Need help.

[spoonman100]

I want to note that everything in this post is real, and serious/not fake. This is also a throw away account. So, currently I am a M4 at a allopathic medical school in the US. Currently, I sleep with prostitutes outside of the US. All of this started towards the end of M3 when I decided to take a vacation outside the US to a country in South/central America (will not name). In this country, prostitution is legal. So far, I have gone down there three times and slept with 15 prostitutes. Some nights I would sleep with three girls in a row. A lot of these women are super hot, even hotter than any of the girls in my medical school, and that's why its so addicting. Some of the pictures of the girls I show to my friends are even impressed and kind of half joke about going with me next time. They also are pretty cheap and would cost the price of regular date with a girl in this country. Deep down I am concerned this activity is becoming too much of a habit and is/will seriously impair myself from having a real relationship with a woman. I say this with all seriousness that having sex with prostitutes is too easy and convenient and I know that having a real relationship/marriage is not like that. I also know that I will most not likely be marrying a girl of the same caliber so I don't want to become delusional too. I really do want to find a real girlfriend and I know I have to kick this habit before I can do so.

Lastly, I want to say that when it comes to sleeping with prostitutes I am not concerned about stds because I use condoms and use them properly. I have also been tested and I am std free. I am also not big on moral/immoral so I don't think going to see them is wrong if the prostitute consents and is of legal age. I am just really concerned that I won't be able to form a healthy relationship in the future which I will need on the journey of becoming a doctor. Can anybody offer any advice or help? This will be much appreciated.

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[KinesiologyNerd]

I want to note that everything in this post is real, and serious/not fake. This is also a throw away account.

 

[gracie369]

Lastly, I want to say that when it comes to sleeping with prostitutes I am not concerned about stds because I use condoms and use them properly.

Not everyone can be in the top 99% of the class.
Maybe MS2 was the "porn year"

 

[spoonman100]

This post is 100% real. I would post pictures of the some of the girls but I'm not that sleazy of a guy. I might even reveal which country and where the girls are that have ratios women to men 10 to 1 if I get helpful advice.

 

[giantswing]

This post is 100% real. I would post pictures of the some of the girls but I'm not that sleazy of a guy. I might even reveal which country and where the girls are that have ratios women to men 10 to 1 if I get helpful advice.

Not sleazy? Dude....

 

[the29thlight]

Sorry to hear about your problem, OP. It sounds like the frequent traveling is making things more difficult and costly for you than they have to be. Can you try to get an away rotation in the country you're visiting? Maybe try a residency deferment so you can go on a Peace Corps assignment or mission trip to the country? There are some religious organizations (like the LDS and ascetic catholics) that routinely spend years in foreign countries. Depending on how strong your moral/immoral thing hang up is, that could be an option.

Another helpful idea might be contracting or optioning your favorites. You can have dedicated times and schedules so you don't have to continue arranging these things yourself. That may also help defray some of the costs you're incurring for travel.

Finally, have you considered not just using women as sexual objects? I know it sounds a little wacky, but try seeing girls as human beings with their own sets of life goals, feelings, and interests. In fact, once you get to respecting them as equals, you'll find that you can admire them for things outside of receiving money for sex. Get to know girls better. If the ROI bothers you, maybe try museums or libraries or other cheap places (that are, coincidentally, filled with the non-sexual contributions of great women throughout history) or try cooking meals yourself. Who knows?

It's possible you might start a meaningful relationship with a girl who is a higher caliber than you deserve. Which, you know, at this point is all of them.

 

[psychiatry_resident]

Do the prostitutes make out with you? Do you cuddle with them after sex and share your innermost secrets? Do you go for long walks at sunset / feed each other desert / play videogames together / (insert your favorite activity here)? Do they invite you to spend holidays with their families? Do they even speak English?

And (non-rhetorical question, I'd really like to know) what do you do in between trips to the unnamed country?

My point is that there's more to a relationship than sex. If sex with a prostitute makes you feel completely fulfilled, don't worry about it. Do residency near the Mexican border and plan on becoming a sugar daddy or finding a trophy wife (perhaps from your unnamed country) when you're an attending. If it doesn't, treat the prostitutes as a backup when dating doesn't work out.

Also, keep in mind that med school and residency can be all-consuming, keeping people from developing real relationships (and 4th year is just a vacation from that, a time to let off steam by doing the kind of things you're doing.) How you feel now may not be how you feel later in life when you have time to develop real work-life balance.

 

[Crayola227]

this is seriously just gross

even if they are 18 and consenting, it's so exploitative

please get some professional medical help for this problem, this is not normal behavior, you use the word "addiction" in this thread title, so treat it as such and get some help

 

[kenjixshadow]

:troll:

 

[Mr Roboto]

10/10 trolling effort, but mods should probably just shut this one down...

 

[MrChance2]

I'll go out on a psychological limb here and say this is likely more anxiety/guilt than addiction. I think you'll likely stop on your own at some point once you get bored. At some point most men want a woman to have children with.

 

[Winged Scapula]

Considering that the OP is asking for medical advice for his "addiction" which is against the terms of service, closing this thread.


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