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Why not just use a pepperoni roll?
...touché.
Why not just use a pepperoni roll?
Lucky girl you got there, just wanted to know is she ok with your daughter having sex at 11 years old?
I would hope not. I certainly would not advocate it myself, but I would much rather that if for some reason she did end up having sex at 11 that she had access to birth control. I don't have any issue with sex from a moral standpoint, but 11 is a very early age to start. The point is, no matter what the age you should have access to medications to prevent conception as well as education regarding condom use for prevention of STDs.
I hope you understand, there is no reason for any 11 year old to be having sex. Period. One of the greatest problems in American Society is the fact that children have lost their innocence. We make them grow up too fast. As a parent your roll is to protect your child from these influences. You control where they go and what they do. You control what they watch on TV, what movies they go to, what books they read and what friends they play with. At 11 years old you do not have to be their friend, you have to be their parent.
Your child will have enough time to learn about sex and be emotionally prepared for it when the time comes. Age 11 is not the time. Your job is to prepare them for life. Don't fail at this job. It's the most important one you will have.
I feel sad for your kids if you feel that way. That kind of control by parents is one of the number one things that causes dysfunctional kids. Almost any parenting class will stress the importance of teaching kids to start making choices at a young age and thinking for themselves and taking responsibility for their actions. My daughter is 5 and makes lots of decisions. I take her to the library once a week and let her pick her own books, choose a movie or two she would like to see and sit down with her before signing her up for activities to see what she would like to do. She chose on her own to do gymnastics 3 days a week, swimming 2, and doubles up with spanish, ballet, and hebrew as well, and in the winter we all ski on the weekend. The only rule I really have is that if she wants to watch TV for more than half an hour in the evenings she has to run on the treadmill. (I figured she would stop watching TV, but she runs on average 30 mins 3 times a week). She helps make her lunches the night before and gets to help with dinner 1 night a week, picks out all her own clothes, and sorts all of her laundry at night. Personally I think it is a cop out and a cheat to kids to make all their decisions for them, especially by the age of 11.
Old Timer, don't call the guy a *****. It makes you sound so hateful.Just so you know, my kids are 18 and 21, don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs, get pretty good grades and are respected in the community they live as "Good" people. Talk to me in 10-15 years and we'll compare notes.
I already answered "Happy" above. The reason I say it is simplistic is because being happy can and does encompass the other points to some extent. A person who is a successful (I am taking this exclusively in terms of job/work) is not always necessarily a happy one, but a happy person is often successful. Good is mostly a matter of opinion and depends on society views so I will leave that out for now except to say that people who are happier tend to be decent to others. Being smart is related more to genetics, and while being smart helps a great deal, motivation is often a more important factor in life. One of my favorite books when I was younger was "Flowers for algernon," and the message is one that I tend to agree with.
I feel sad for your kids if you feel that way. That kind of control by parents is one of the number one things that causes dysfunctional kids. Almost any parenting class will stress the importance of teaching kids to start making choices at a young age and thinking for themselves and taking responsibility for their actions. My daughter is 5 and makes lots of decisions. I take her to the library once a week and let her pick her own books, choose a movie or two she would like to see and sit down with her before signing her up for activities to see what she would like to do. She chose on her own to do gymnastics 3 days a week, swimming 2, and doubles up with spanish, ballet, and hebrew as well, and in the winter we all ski on the weekend. The only rule I really have is that if she wants to watch TV for more than half an hour in the evenings she has to run on the treadmill. (I figured she would stop watching TV, but she runs on average 30 mins 3 times a week). She helps make her lunches the night before and gets to help with dinner 1 night a week, picks out all her own clothes, and sorts all of her laundry at night. Personally I think it is a cop out and a cheat to kids to make all their decisions for them, especially by the age of 11.
There are only so many things you can drive your kids crazy about before you really drive them crazy. Choose wisely.