beriberi said:
This is just pure speculation, but here are some thoughts about the original question.
Imagine if the poor woman who gave birth to ekimsurfer named hime Ekimsurfer Hatewomen Smallparts. As a man (who will never be seduced into changing his last name), he will finish his combined postbacc/year2 medical school program and (barring a surfing disaster) become Dr. Smallparts. Even though he insists that patients call him Dr. Ekimsurfer or Ekimsurfer-dude, many insist on calling him Dr. Smallparts. The hospital even embroiders Dr. Smallparts on all of his coats and makes him wear a badge that says Dr. Smallparts.
Realizing that marriage is no solution to this problem (despite the perky 23 year olds lining up to become the ex-Mrs. Smallparts-got-the-kids-and-all-his-money) he decides to start going by Dr. Hatewomen. It is his middle name, after all.
He gets his own coats embroidered, wears his badge backwards so no one can read the writing and is heard saying " I am Dr. Hatewomen, but Dude, call me Ekimsurfer."
What if he does a bit of research and publishes it under the name E Hatewomen? Critics of his work call Podunk U (which is now offering a combined junior high school/post-bacc/MS2 year) and they state that Dr. Hatewoman is not graduate of their program. In fact, a savvy patient (hoping to sue for the botched breast augmentation where Ekimsurfer simply carved "take that bee-atch" into her abdomen), checks on line and finds there is no Dr. Hatewoman licensed to practice medicine in the state.
My point: whether you are a man or a woman, your middle name is not your legal surname. It should not be used professionally. Your surname is what you will be licensed to practice medicine with and it is misleading to present yourself as anything other than Dr. Surname. Therefore, your legal surname should be the one you want to practice under--whether that is Dr. Maiden-Husband or Dr. Maiden or Dr. Husband. Figure out what your legal surname should be and then change ALL of your documents to reflect this.
i appreciate this... it's joccund yet very much has a point.
it seems that some individuals on this network feel my behaviors are not what they would call "within the Terms of Service." I disagree. But to be fair, you ladies are type-A and i don't expect you to agree/understand anything other than your own idealized visions.
So let me digress for a moment as i talk about a topic presented in a news article i recently read where they noted that professional women (read: type-A women) were least likely among women to become married.
Many people would say "duh, that's common sense." But you know you best, and what you're doing is the right thing. In the end, most likely you will not be married, or at very least end up in a dead end marriage... but at least you'll have held on to your beloved 'maiden's name' (yet, is maiden somewhat outdated and misogynistic?)
You are not very likely to have children and maybe one child if any since there is not likely time for you to worry about taking care of them... since afterall, it is sexist to say the mother should stay home when we all know a man is capable of breast feeding and a baby is more biologically suited to love the father.
So then when it comes time to die you've realized that you've failed to pass on your genetic "flaws" as i would like to call them... and in this way, darwin will root out the type-A women. I would call it selfish, but the fact of the matter is that it is entirely unselfish... the short term selfishness is wholly outweighed by the choice to not reproduce and/or poorly raise children who will grow up to resent your decisions and only marry those willing to support his kids.
And in an ironic twist, your overzealous genetic typing will be faded out and so long with it will follow your maiden name.
call me what you like, but i have not cursed in this reply, nor does it personally attack anyone and i've had my law-student roomate read and re-read the terms of service, finding that nothing in this post violates the network's rules.
i appreciate your time, and have a swell evening.
-nes