Marriage and residency

[Knicks]

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How hectic is the 1st year of residency?

If one wanted to get married, when would be a "good" time to do so?

Before residency? After your 1st year? etc?

I doubt people have time to breathe during residency, let alone get married.

So those of you with some experience about this, please share.

Thanks in advance.

 

[SleepIsGood]

My recommendation is:

Wait until after your first or second year. Get a feel for what life is like. It's not always easy, and it's way different from med school.

If your spouse can stick with you and your attracted to her still,etc. Get married.

 

[Winged Scapula]

Good advice above.

Also bear in mind that if you want to take a prolonged honeymoon, residency is not the time to do it. With the exception of residencies that use the dreaded block time vacation schedule, a week off at a time is the most you'll usually get.

Many people get married at the end of MS-IV.

 

[Knicks]

Hmm, so before residency or after the 1st/2nd year.

Yeah, that was my gut feeling too.

Thanks guys.


btw, I don't want to start a new thread about this but what is the average age of 1st-year residents?

 

[Moonglow]

... what is the average age of 1st-year residents?

Average age of medicine interns is 26 (25, 26, and 27 year-olds account for 70% of incoming interns).

 

[Law2Doc]

How hectic is the 1st year of residency?

If one wanted to get married, when would be a "good" time to do so?

Before residency? After your 1st year? etc?

I doubt people have time to breathe during residency, let alone get married.

So those of you with some experience about this, please share.

Thanks in advance.

Before residency makes the most sense. Intern year is going to be the biggest time drain of your life. You will be at the hospital most of the time, and when you aren't at the hospital, you will be asleep. Even when you have vacation (which can be as brief as 4-5 days in a row), you may be spending the first day asleep because you are post- call. I couldn't imagine doing much of a wedding, let alone any sort of post-wedding honeymoon or festivities, during intern year. And make sure your betrothed knows you will not be involved in the planning efforts at all if it's going to be during the first year of residency.

 

[deuist]

I'm getting married during internship! Our plan is to get married during my spring vacation (2 weeks long) and then have the honeymoon during next year's vacation. Don't think this is the easy way, though. My fiancee still lives a thousand miles away and I'll have to come back to work soon after the wedding.

 

[Pir8DeacDoc]

Reality is it depends on your chosen field. All intern years are not created equally.

 

[Pilot Doc]

The "some internships are more equal than others" advice is sound.

For a surgical internship, I would recommend no major life events of any sort - marriage, divorce, child bearing, etc.

There really aren't any good times to get married or have kids as a doctor, but in my experience

Med school > residency > attending >>> internship

 

[Knicks]

Just for fun: b-b-bump!


(btw, still not married. 😳)

 

[Rendar5]

Getting married at the end of 2nd year during a 2week vacation block with honeymoon right after and oving in together right after. I'm in EM, which is conducive to such a life change during residency. I'd be wary about doing it during a surgical residency or the like.

The first year of marriage can be hard i'm told, so definitely not during my intern year =p

 

[PathMD2010]

Also, depends on if you are male or female and where your SO is in all this. Long distance, same field, big move coming up, one of you is knocked up, ect.

If you are female, good luck planning a wedding during any intern year (unless you delegate everything out). If you are male, it may be better to get married intern year, as you will have a really good excuse not to do anything wedding related😉

I've seen my classmates do things like get married/ divorced/ bearing children during rotations that I did not have time to sleep and feed myself much less plan/ fight/ make babies during. I imagine this does not much change during residency, though I imagine it gets harder. And the previous post is right; the first year of marriage is hard in itself; lots of adjustment.

 

[butrfly2204]

My husband and I just got married as MSIVs. We successfully couples matched into IM and Psych and things couldn't be better. Now we just need to figure out how to be new parents to our "honeymoon baby" that we currently have cookin' in the oven 😳

 

[deuist]

Getting married in two weeks myself---and I'm a general surgery intern. It's doable, and we will be splitting the wedding and honeymoon across different years.

 

[TopsyKrett]

my husband and i just got married as msivs. We successfully couples matched into im and psych and things couldn't be better. Now we just need to figure out how to be new parents to our "honeymoon baby" that we currently have cookin' in the oven 😳

congrats!!!