I'd say that your statistics seem a little off, and that you're ssample may be a bit biased. For example, there have not been any divorces in my class (where a significant # of people were married in year 1) over 4 years.sophiejane said:...not to be a downer, but the odds are really against you if you get married in your early 20s (something like 70% of these marriages fail, as I have been told by a psychotherapist). Add that to the odds against your marriage for being a medical student (four divorces so far in our class this year), and it doesn't look good.
I say this from experience--from that of my own as well as a good number of my friends and acquaintances. I would say of the people I know in my age group now (mid-30s), more than half are or have been divorced. Quite a few are on marriage #2.
There is a lot of growing and changing that happens in your 20s and it is very hard to make a new marriage work when you are that young and that busy. I know that at 22 you FEEL like you are grown up and know yourself and what's best for you, but it can be a tumultuous time--especially being a medical student on top of all that.
If you are older than your early to mid 20s, your odds are a little better, but I'd still say wait a few years if you can, or at least until residency-application time.
Thank You so much for your post.... I agree... Married for 7 years and we are definetly not the norm.... in any way.... further, I agree with most statements, yet I would like to say.... long term marriage is not about falling-in-love but rather choosing-to-love.... the man/woman you married will at some time be close to the most obnoxious person you have ever met.... Love, the kind that is patient, kind, non-envious, non-jealous, and sturdy is not something that is fallen into but rather build from the ashes of life...gioia said:Well, in defense of L'amore...
I have been married 13 years and married young. I love my spouse and I love my life.
Certainly, statistics abound. However, are you the mean - are you average? Or are you an outlier?
Statistics in some areas are meaningless to me because I'm not 'average'. Statistics are merely indicators.
Your criteria should be your own knowledge of yourself; your motivations; your personality; and whether you can play board games with each other without getting into a fight...
Choosing to love is great if both of you choose it. Problem is, that's not always the case.Goofyone said:That's beautiful, just beautiful.
My fiancee is just finishing his first year at LECOM in their PBL program. Considering this is the only summer he'll have off, we would have preferred to have gotten married this summer. Since we were unable to do so, we've decided to get married during the 4-week period he'll have off during his clinical rotations in the 3rd year.daact said:i am currently in a serioius relationship right now..and i am going to start DO school in August (2004)...when do you think is the right year in medical school to get married? thanks