i am currently in a serioius relationship right now..and i am going to start DO school in August (2004)...when do you think is the right year in medical school to get married? thanks
sophiejane said:...not to be a downer, but the odds are really against you if you get married in your early 20s (something like 70% of these marriages fail, as I have been told by a psychotherapist). Add that to the odds against your marriage for being a medical student (four divorces so far in our class this year), and it doesn't look good.
I say this from experience--from that of my own as well as a good number of my friends and acquaintances. I would say of the people I know in my age group now (mid-30s), more than half are or have been divorced. Quite a few are on marriage #2.
There is a lot of growing and changing that happens in your 20s and it is very hard to make a new marriage work when you are that young and that busy. I know that at 22 you FEEL like you are grown up and know yourself and what's best for you, but it can be a tumultuous time--especially being a medical student on top of all that.
If you are older than your early to mid 20s, your odds are a little better, but I'd still say wait a few years if you can, or at least until residency-application time.
Good luck.
gioia said:Well, in defense of L'amore...
I have been married 13 years and married young. I love my spouse and I love my life.
Certainly, statistics abound. However, are you the mean - are you average? Or are you an outlier?
Statistics in some areas are meaningless to me because I'm not 'average'. Statistics are merely indicators.
Your criteria should be your own knowledge of yourself; your motivations; your personality; and whether you can play board games with each other without getting into a fight...
DrDad said:.... long term marriage is not about falling-in-love but rather choosing-to-love....
Goofyone said:That's beautiful, just beautiful.
daact said:i am currently in a serioius relationship right now..and i am going to start DO school in August (2004)...when do you think is the right year in medical school to get married? thanks