Married or not married......!!!!

[Mike2006]

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Hello guys,
I really really really need help on this so please give me any feedback you can.
I'm 24 and starting pharmacy school this coming fall. I'm really intersted in this girl and would like to get married this summer. The only factor that is bothering me is that i'm sooo worried about pharmacy school. After all its "graduate school" and everyone tells me its hardcore studying. As far as my academic, i have a very high GPA. Most likely i'm going to Nevada and since its an accelerated program it bother me even more. On the other hand i really want to be married before i go to school. What do u guys suggest? am i out of my mind or its possible. 🙂
THANKS SOOOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!!

 

[Shovingit]

Hello guys,
I really really really need help on this so please give me any feedback you can.
I'm 24 and starting pharmacy school this coming fall. I'm really intersted in this girl and would like to get married this summer. The only factor that is bothering me is that i'm sooo worried about pharmacy school. After all its "graduate school" and everyone tells me its hardcore studying. As far as my academic, i have a very high GPA. Most likely i'm going to Nevada and since its an accelerated program it bother me even more. On the other hand i really want to be married before i go to school. What do u guys suggest? am i out of my mind or its possible. 🙂
THANKS SOOOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!!

I'm in a similar situation. My g/f and I have been together for 5+ yrs, and we want to get married "when the time is right." I don't know about being married while in school. She will be working as a teacher, which as we all know is not big bucks, definately not enough to support two people. I will take out loans, but I am worried about finances if we get married before I have other types of income. Before we had planned on waiting until after I get out of school, but 4 yrs is a long time. What do you guys think?

 

[pinkyrx]

I say if you're in love and you're sure that she is the right one, then go for it! I think being married in pharmacy school is a great thing.

 

[insipid1979]

If your spouse supports you financially while you are at pharmacy school and you end up getting a divorce down the road. Expect to pay a lot of money in alimony for a very long time. Just something to think about.

 

[alwaystired]

I am married in pharm. school. If you plan on marrying 100% then it is up to decide when. But to me, if you are sure, then why wait. Being married and in pharmacy school will be just as hard as dating in pharmacy school. Actually, dating may be worse, because you sig. other may start to wonder why you are always gone and what you are really doing. At least when you are married, they have that "security". They (hopefully) don't think your out shopping around for a replacement.

 

[freshbeatschris]

I am currently engaged. My fiance and I will be getting hitched during my summer break of 2008 - exactly halfway through my pharmacy education.

We are sitting here looking at the numbers right now, and I will actually save a bunch of money when we get married as he will put me on his health insurance.

He has been my greatest support throughout all of pre-pharmacy coursework. We are a bit older, however, so that probably makes a difference.

Chris

 

[highlyfavored]

I'm in a similar situation. My g/f and I have been together for 5+ yrs, and we want to get married "when the time is right." I don't know about being married while in school. She will be working as a teacher, which as we all know is not big bucks, definately not enough to support two people. I will take out loans, but I am worried about finances if we get married before I have other types of income. Before we had planned on waiting until after I get out of school, but 4 yrs is a long time. What do you guys think?

Personally, I think 9yrs is too long to date someone. I'm not sure how old you are, though. If you're in your early twenties then I suppose getting married in 4yrs would be a good age. So, what do you and your g/f consider "the right time" to be? I'm not in pharmacy school, but I can't see how being married in school would be any harder than being in a serious relationship. A teacher's salary isn't enough to pay all the bills, but I think it would be a big help. It would keep you from using your student loan for paying for rent, electric, and groceries. The debt from pharmacy school will be big enough without having to add everyday expenses b/c you used the loan to pay for school and all of the outside things.

 

[highlyfavored]

Hello guys,
I really really really need help on this so please give me any feedback you can.
I'm 24 and starting pharmacy school this coming fall. I'm really intersted in this girl and would like to get married this summer. The only factor that is bothering me is that i'm sooo worried about pharmacy school. After all its "graduate school" and everyone tells me its hardcore studying. As far as my academic, i have a very high GPA. Most likely i'm going to Nevada and since its an accelerated program it bother me even more. On the other hand i really want to be married before i go to school. What do u guys suggest? am i out of my mind or its possible. 🙂
THANKS SOOOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!!

I say go for it. 😀 Even if you are not married and continue this serious relationship you will still have to balance it with studying.

 

[vafcarrot]

My husband has helped me a TON while in pharmacy school. But, we were married for two years while I was in undergrad, and we had a lot to learn about each other since it was our first time livign together, so it wasn't all roses and flowers. And undergrad and pharmacy school are two completely two different things. so, take those things into consideration

 

[DownonthePharm]

You probably wont be eligable for as much financial assistance being married especially if your spouse isnt in school also. But, there are always loans.

I got married last November and both myself and my husband are going back to school. We are looking ahead at some hard times, but we are facing them together. If your spouse is really on board with you, as far as emotionally supporting your goals they can one of your best allies. But the reverse is also true, anyone who is clingy, crazy or self-involved is going to just get more so when faced with the time and financial commitments you have to give school.

If you've been dating for a while and think shes the one, then get married. But make sure she knows what shes getting into. Explain the curiculum and other requirements to her, let her know your fears and let her make the decision to get married now or later. Its not the same as a romantic surprise proposal, but in the long term it makes a lot more sense.

But I do highly recommend putting off having children....

 

[Mike2006]

WOW... u guys are great thanks soooo much!!!!!!!!!
I really really appriciate it.
I have spoken with her and eventhough she is a child development major. She understands how the circulum is and she is "ok" with it. My problem is with myself, will i be able to handle school and a wife? Will i have enough time for her, after all i've never been to a graduate school or an undergrad only a comunity college but as i said i did very good academicly and i was always the top 5% of the class. Financialy also concerns me, i feel that my loans is gone get doubled and that means i have to pay back double. She says she will get a job but how much help does a 9 $/hr work for let say 30 hours aweek make? I belive if my loans personaly for Nevada with everyhting is gone be ~ $110,000 with her it will at least go up to $190,000 or somewhere like that. Send me replies....!
Thanks guys....!

 

[sdn1977]

WOW... u guys are great thanks soooo much!!!!!!!!!
I really really appriciate it.
I have spoken with her and eventhough she is a child development major. She understands how the circulum is and she is "ok" with it. My problem is with myself, will i be able to handle school and a wife? Will i have enough time for her, after all i've never been to a graduate school or an undergrad only a comunity college but as i said i did very good academicly and i was always the top 5% of the class. Financialy also concerns me, i feel that my loans is gone get doubled and that means i have to pay back double. She says she will get a job but how much help does a 9 $/hr work for let say 30 hours aweek make? I belive if my loans personaly for Nevada with everyhting is gone be ~ $110,000 with her it will at least go up to $190,000 or somewhere like that. Send me replies....!
Thanks guys....!

Mike,
First - congratulations on your acceptance! Also, congratulations on finding someone who makes you want to share your life with. I'll give you my perspective as a pharmacist, spouse & parent of someone your age who I also gave similar advice to! (Sorry in advance if I sound like a preechy parent!)

You are about to embark on an education which will endure all of your career. You can let your education become your life......or become PART of your life. As a pharmacist, you'll have to continue to learn, read, take classes, go to conferences - all of which will take away time from your family. But, your wife will have to do the same to stay fulfilled in her career as well. You both will need to learn to balance your career (education now) and your family life to allow each of you to bring the most you can to the relationship you make permanent.

You already know you can handle the academics. As far as you being able to "handle" a wife??? Well....she will be no different as a wife than she is now as your significant other. Can you "handle" her - can you give each other space, help ease the other's stress, find laughter, happiness in being together? The only difference is how you rely on each other and help each other thru stressful situations - and in the course of a marriage (mine is 30yrs old now 😱 ) if this is the most difficult thing you ever must endure in your marriage, you will be very blessed!

Money & debt is an issue you must discuss in depth! Both of you must be completely aware of how much debt you will accrue, how long it will take you to pay it back and the rewards associated with the debt (Your rewards will not just be a career, it will be knowledge you were one of a select few who accomplished graduate school. HER reward from YOUR debt is enjoying the fruits of your career - less of a personal accomplishment from her point of view perhaps.) However, realize, whether you marry now or not, the debt will still be there as long as you plan to attend pharmacy school. None of this debt, however, will be anything like the debt you'll accrue as your marriage progresses - homes, cars, children & children's education will all accrue more debt than what you are looking at right now.

If you were my son, I'd tell you to share your feelings with your SO and decide as a couple how deeply you want to jump. At some point, there is no logical & "right" answer remaining. You must search your heart & decide if you love each other enough to make the sacrifices you might have to make. Good luck & have fun!

 

[Mike2006]

Mike,
First - congratulations on your acceptance! Also, congratulations on finding someone who makes you want to share your life with. I'll give you my perspective as a pharmacist, spouse & parent of someone your age who I also gave similar advice to! (Sorry in advance if I sound like a preechy parent!)

You are about to embark on an education which will endure all of your career. You can let your education become your life......or become PART of your life. As a pharmacist, you'll have to continue to learn, read, take classes, go to conferences - all of which will take away time from your family. But, your wife will have to do the same to stay fulfilled in her career as well. You both will need to learn to balance your career (education now) and your family life to allow each of you to bring the most you can to the relationship you make permanent.

You already know you can handle the academics. As far as you being able to "handle" a wife??? Well....she will be no different as a wife than she is now as your significant other. Can you "handle" her - can you give each other space, help ease the other's stress, find laughter, happiness in being together? The only difference is how you rely on each other and help each other thru stressful situations - and in the course of a marriage (mine is 30yrs old now 😱 ) if this is the most difficult thing you ever must endure in your marriage, you will be very blessed!

Money & debt is an issue you must discuss in depth! Both of you must be completely aware of how much debt you will accrue, how long it will take you to pay it back and the rewards associated with the debt (Your rewards will not just be a career, it will be knowledge you were one of a select few who accomplished graduate school. HER reward from YOUR debt is enjoying the fruits of your career - less of a personal accomplishment from her point of view perhaps.) However, realize, whether you marry now or not, the debt will still be there as long as you plan to attend pharmacy school. None of this debt, however, will be anything like the debt you'll accrue as your marriage progresses - homes, cars, children & children's education will all accrue more debt than what you are looking at right now.

If you were my son, I'd tell you to share your feelings with your SO and decide as a couple how deeply you want to jump. At some point, there is no logical & "right" answer remaining. You must search your heart & decide if you love each other enough to make the sacrifices you might have to make. Good luck & have fun!

Wow... wow.... i'm seriously speechless!
You must be a great mother and a the greatest wife! 😳
THANKS SOOO SOOO SOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!

 

[cangelilli]

I have been married for almost 3 years now, throughout half of my undergrad education. My husband went back to school also so the financial aid part is to our benefit. I think that it has been fine being married while in school, you have someone else there to help you out and support you through it all. Good luck and congrats!!

 

[Vahshi]

Do it!
Life doesnt start after pharmacy school, life is you, now, right here.

 

[WVUPharm2007]

I'm married to a P-1. She gets my nerdy pharmacy jokes and we'll be making $200,000+ after she graduates in 2009. It's been great so far and should be better in the future.

 

[nikkai]

I'll be married in June.

A former professor told me: "Marriage can be the best thing in the world or the worst thing in the world for graduate school."

Meaning it all depends on how supportive your spouse is of your situation and how much they know of your situation. In addition, it is obviously going to take extra effort on your part.

With that being said, I agree with the above, dating in school vs marriage, it's all about how much you love the person. Why wait? You'll be just as poor if you're single, you'll just be poor and lonely. =)

 

[AGAM]

Wow... wow.... i'm seriously speechless!
You must be a great mother and a the greatest wife! 😳
THANKS SOOO SOOO SOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!

i think being married will take off all the stress of not seeing your loved as much as you used to since you'll be living together you know she's always there for you !🙂

 

[Poland]

i think being married will take off all the stress of not seeing your loved as much as you used to since you'll be living together you know she's always there for you !🙂

I totally agree with this. It can be great sometimes. It can also take you away from the world of study and books and just give you something else to think about!

I am not married to a future pharmacy student, bet that is interesting.