Med Students don't have time for a relationship?

[Brain Bucket]

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This snowballed quickly. I don't agree with any of the marriage bashing trollage. Also, no one's saying not to dump his ass if he's taking you for granted. In your case, he appears to be trying to get you to break it off with him. Just move on.

I'd still maintain that BJ + home cooked meal are both easy skills to acquire and one of simplest things you can do to help keep your man happy. Assuming you want him.

If I had a similar formula to make my girl a significantly happier person, I'd be on it without any qualms.

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[Brain Bucket]

Umm what?

Speak for youself dude. You can grow together with someone. When you get past 30 and have "grown as an individual" you will be set in your ways. Basically an old curmudgeon. Good luck trying to mesh with someone when you become so rigid in your old man ways. I prefer growing with somebody, because I know I will change from 30-35 and 35-40 and every five years after that. So whatever dude. PS I got the married the most carrying, friendly, gorgeous women who makes a buttload of money. The trick is you gotta nab em when they are young or you get left with the leftovers. Sorry. By the way if when you mean by complacent, you mean match in a competitive specialty in one of the most competitive locations, then cool.

Way to contradict yourself bro.

lol. I'm interested in what the girls have to say about this.

Fundamentally different worldview bro. If that is your thing, cool. But definitely not for me.

I look it like this. I am a resident making 50K a year with opportunity to moonlight and make a cool 10-25K a year extra starting next year. My wife makes 6 figures and we have plenty of disposable income. I want to be young and travel the world with my soulmate while I'm young and able to enjoy places better. Not when I'm an old dude, I mean sure I want to travel and spend money when I'm old too, but I want to do it during the best years of my life with someone I care about. Not some random chick that is in it for the $. I see no fulfillment in that. Maybe you do.

Son, a good marriage takes work. You're still in your honeymoon phase. When two people are working at that level, having a happy marriage isn't the easiest thing in the world. No such thing as a soulmate. You best learn that quickly or your "friendly, gorgeous women who makes a buttload of money" will be "carrying" away half your income, your home, and your kids - and that is the happier ending.

 

[Brain Bucket]

lol when I had a girlfriend I went down on her, made her the happiest girl in the world. It isn't a big deal. Doesn't make you less of a person. A girl who is willing to do it without you having to always prompt her will make a dude happy.

I'm pretty sure you're agreeing with me.

My girl enjoys it too (goes to sleep right after - in the middle of the day), but not at the same level as I do. I will sit for an hour afterward with a stupid smile on my face.There are things she appreciates more, and they appear to change pretty often.

 

[badasshairday]

Way to contradict yourself bro.

lol. I'm interested in what the girls have to say about this.



Son, a good marriage takes work. You're still in your honeymoon phase. When two people are working at that level, having a happy marriage isn't the easiest thing in the world. No such thing as a soulmate. You best learn that quickly or your "friendly, gorgeous women who makes a buttload of money" will be "carrying" away half your income, your home, and your kids - and that is the happier ending.

Sorry you feel that way. I've known my soulmate for 9 years, so marriage was just icing on the cake. The thing to success is having the will to work through problems, etc. It is about understanding and commitment. Plus she makes quite a bit more than me for now and has zero debt, so she can take half of my -200K. 🙂

 

[Brain Bucket]

Sorry you feel that way. I've known my soulmate for 9 years, so marriage was just icing on the cake. The thing to success is having the will to work through problems, etc. It is about understanding and commitment. Plus she makes quite a bit more than me for now and has zero debt, so she can take half of my -200K. 🙂

Those words pretty much negate the concept of a soulmate. We obviously have drastically different definitions.

edit: for now being the operative word.

 

[touchpause13]

Those words pretty much negate the concept of a soulmate. We obviously have drastically different definitions.

edit: for now being the operative word.

I don't understand what exactly your definition of soul mate is then? For me it's just the person I am supposed to be with. That doesn't mean the relationship is always easy or that it takes 0 work. All relationships take work understanding and compromise.

 

[Brain Bucket]

I don't understand what exactly your definition of soul mate is then? For me it's just the person I am supposed to be with. That doesn't mean the relationship is always easy or that it takes 0 work. All relationships take work understanding and compromise.

Plato[edit source | editbeta]
In his dialogue The Symposium, Plato has Aristophanes present a story about soul mates. Aristophanes states that humans originally had four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces. He continues that there were three genders: man, woman and the "Androgynous". Each with two sets of genitalia with the Androgynous having both male and female genitalia. The men were children of the sun, the women were children of the earth and the Androgynous were children of the moon, which was born of the sun and earth. It is said that humans had great strength at the time and threatened to conquer the gods. The gods were then faced with the prospect of destroying the humans with lightning as they had done with the Titans but then they would lose the tributes given to the gods by humans. Zeus developed a creative solution by splitting humans in half as punishment for humanity's pride and doubling the number of humans who would give tribute to the gods. These split humans were in utter misery to the point where they would not eat and would perish so Apollo had sewn them up and reconstituted their bodies with the navel being the only remnant harkening back to their original form. Each human would then only have one set of genitalia and would forever long for his/her other half; the other half of his/her soul. It is said that when the two find each other, there is an unspoken understanding of one another, that they feel unified and would lay with each other in unity and would know no greater joy than that.[3]

 

[GadRads]

I am definitely not anti-marriage, but I don't buy the whole soulmate bullcrap. You just find people with whom you develop the most congeniality and working relationship, and this isn't limited to one person.

Plato[edit source | editbeta]
In his dialogue The Symposium, Plato has Aristophanes present a story about soul mates. Aristophanes states that humans originally had four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces. He continues that there were three genders: man, woman and the "Androgynous". Each with two sets of genitalia with the Androgynous having both male and female genitalia. The men were children of the sun, the women were children of the earth and the Androgynous were children of the moon, which was born of the sun and earth. It is said that humans had great strength at the time and threatened to conquer the gods. The gods were then faced with the prospect of destroying the humans with lightning as they had done with the Titans but then they would lose the tributes given to the gods by humans. Zeus developed a creative solution by splitting humans in half as punishment for humanity's pride and doubling the number of humans who would give tribute to the gods. These split humans were in utter misery to the point where they would not eat and would perish so Apollo had sewn them up and reconstituted their bodies with the navel being the only remnant harkening back to their original form. Each human would then only have one set of genitalia and would forever long for his/her other half; the other half of his/her soul. It is said that when the two find each other, there is an unspoken understanding of one another, that they feel unified and would lay with each other in unity and would know no greater joy than that.[3]

 

[DarkHorse7]

Im in clinicals now but I went through a pretty rough break up during my step1 prep and it totally turned me off relationships. I'm sure it would be a lot easier to date now & as a female i would prefer to date another med, except like somebody here already mentioned...everyone is already taken! lol The work that we do its emotionally draining and we have to take a lot of verbal abuse too...you cant blame us for wanting to be pampered. Think of it as an investment...PrideNeverDie def had a point...head & a home cooked meal sound perfect to me too!

 

[sak91]

I think it's hilarious that this thread is still going, even when I edited it.

 

[startswithb]

Don't try to start dating a resident. Unless seeing someone every 3 weeks for an hour is a relationship and you don't mind them falling asleep in the middle of conversations.

 

[studentp0x]

I don't know about you man, but for me, part of the nice aspects of having disposable income and a nice place is to get more and hotter women and to have more and more debauchery . You have your entire life to get married and live a boring life, why waste it during the best years of your life?

You'll need to be physically attractive and have an attractive personality (like anyone else) if you want to attract women.

The lifestyle you're seeking of (through money) is only attainable by making "arrangements" (sugar baby-sugar daddy 😀).

Keep in mind however, that among the richer guys, it's again the better looking ones who get the best looking chicks.

 

[Lolscan]

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Wrong. I got married AND divorced in med school. So you have time for both 😛

 

[scorm]

Wrong. I got married AND divorced in med school. So you have time for both 😛

lmao. details please.

 

[CDI]

lmao. details please.

She wanted to wait till marriage to have the sexuals. He married her. They had the sexuals. He divorced her. He has no income anyways, she can take half his debt if she wants.

 

[cbrons]

Depends. How hot are you on a scale of 0-10?

Key issue

 

[cbrons]

Right because bashing someone for being a pre med on a pre med forum is a true testament to your vast wealth of knowledge

Its not a premed forum plz return to preallo plz

 

[cbrons]

Don't try to start dating a resident. Unless seeing someone every 3 weeks for an hour is a relationship and you don't mind them falling asleep in the middle of conversations.

I was falling asleep in convos with girlfriends long before i was busy/tired. Not sure if uve noticed but chicks rarely have important things to say

 

[Anastomoses]

I was falling asleep in convos with girlfriends long before i was busy/tired. Not sure if uve noticed but chicks rarely have important things to say

you can tell this guy's a catch

 

[PrideNeverDie]

you can tell this guy's a catch

now that is a misogynistic statement

 

[sjv]

She wanted to wait till marriage to have the sexuals. He married her. They had the sexuals. He divorced her. He has no income anyways, she can take half his debt if she wants.

👍

 

[514901]

you can tell this guy's a catch

he's right, though. You're not going to be having intense, deep conversations with women in their 20s. If you want to meet interesting women they are generally going to be well into their 30s and carrying legitimate baggage, but that's just how life works. Women in their 20s are perfectly fine if you just want sex and/or are fixated on 'being in a relationship' (whatever that means). Most couples just hold hands etc and never actually have conversations and then do the double dating-group hangouts thing to try to create any form of interest. It's bizarre as hell.

 

[CDI]

he's right, though. You're not going to be having intense, deep conversations with women in their 20s. If you want to meet interesting women they are generally going to be well into their 30s and carrying legitimate baggage, but that's just how life works. Women in their 20s are perfectly fine if you just want sex and/or are fixated on 'being in a relationship' (whatever that means). Most couples just hold hands etc and never actually have conversations and then do the double dating-group hangouts thing to try to create any form of interest. It's bizarre as hell.

All the good wimenz are scooped up by the time they hit their 30s. The bat**** crazy:normal ratio becomes quite overwhelming later on.

Probably even more truth if the girl is in medicine, where that's all she did in her 20s.

 

[as1212559]

Why do med students have no concept of perspective.

Preach brah. I always see med students posting the dumbest stuff..

I don't know about you man, but for me, part of the nice aspects of having disposable income and a nice place is to get more and hotter women and to have more and more debauchery . You have your entire life to get married and live a boring life.

Also m8, this may come as a surprise to you, but you appear to have been dating the wrong chicks..

 

[Anastomoses]

All the good wimenz are scooped up by the time they hit their 30s. The bat**** crazy:normal ratio becomes quite overwhelming later on.

Probably even more truth if the girl is in medicine, where that's all she did in her 20s.

Are you insane? Tell me about these bright sensible hot guys who aren't crazy and insecure. Pshh. The ratio of crap/unstable males to crap females has to be very close. And I doubt it even skews in the direction of females.

Also m8, this may come as a surprise to you, but you appear to have been dating the wrong chicks..

No. He's not dating the wrong chicks. He's the wrong chick. Some people are just dysfunctional.

 

[Anastomoses]

now that is a misogynistic statement

you're kind of a ditz. No misandry intended.

 

[CDI]

Are you insane? Tell me about these bright sensible hot guys who aren't crazy and insecure. Pshh. The ratio of crap/unstable males to crap females has to be very close. And I doubt it even skews in the direction of females.

My theory holds true for the ladies cause more of them marry older dudes, than the other way around. If she's hot but single at 30 = bat****, run the other way. Fact of life.

I'd say it varies based on diff cultures though.

 

[studentp0x]

My theory holds true for the ladies cause more of them marry older dudes, than the other way around. If she's hot but single at 30 = bat****, run the other way. Fact of life.

I'd say it varies based on diff cultures though.

Definitely if someone is single at 30, she's either got major issues (most likely) or shes asexual (not very likely, but either way, you don't wanna date or marry a prude lol).

Any hot girl at an older age who's single sort of raises me questions like... has she been an escort before? had 30+ partners? etc. maybe its just me though 🙂 but valid questions nonetheless.

 

[touchpause13]

So if you're a woman in your 20s you're dumb and if you're a woman in your 30s you're crazy? Wtf

 

[514901]

All the good wimenz are scooped up by the time they hit their 30s. The bat**** crazy:normal ratio becomes quite overwhelming later on.

Probably even more truth if the girl is in medicine, where that's all she did in her 20s.

This simply isn't true. There's no such reality of 'the best women' being scooped up in their 20s. All people mature and perceive life more holistically and spiritually with age. No one is normal. Everyone has problems and insecurities. You're deluded yourself if you think there's a rush.

There's this idea with our Facebook generation that life is a checklist that needs to be ticked off at specific points---a woman in her 20s simply will not be mature enough to handle a marriage. If you want some generic girl who isn't ambitious and just wants to settle, you will get some mileage out of her in her 20s, but I can guarantee you that you'll over time fade away from one another

 

[514901]

Definitely if someone is single at 30, she's either got major issues (most likely) or shes asexual (not very likely, but either way, you don't wanna date or marry a prude lol).

Any hot girl at an older age who's single sort of raises me questions like... has she been an escort before? had 30+ partners? etc. maybe its just me though 🙂 but valid questions nonetheless.

Or maybe she just wants to enjoy her life? You'd need to be pretty lame to be settled down and married in your 20s.

if she's hot, why would she settle down when she knows she can enjoy the dating scene and single life?

 

[touchpause13]

Or maybe she just wants to enjoy her life? You'd need to be pretty lame to be settled down and married in your 20s.

if she's hot, why would she settle down when she knows she can enjoy the dating scene and single life?

Idk maybe cuz she freakin wants to? So much judgment goin on here.

 

[cbrons]

You'd need to be pretty lame to be settled down and married in your 20s.

Shots fired. D: i aint lame.

 

[touchpause13]

Shots fired. D: i aint lame.

I know right im not lame either

 

[CDI]

This simply isn't true. There's no such reality of 'the best women' being scooped up in their 20s. All people mature and perceive life more holistically and spiritually with age. No one is normal. Everyone has problems and insecurities. You're deluded yourself if you think there's a rush.

There's this idea with our Facebook generation that life is a checklist that needs to be ticked off at specific points---a woman in her 20s simply will not be mature enough to handle a marriage. If you want some generic girl who isn't ambitious and just wants to settle, you will get some mileage out of her in her 20s, but I can guarantee you that you'll over time fade away from one another

The best players are always picked first, everywhere in life.

 

[CDI]

Or maybe she just wants to enjoy her life? You'd need to be pretty lame to be settled down and married in your 20s.

if she's hot, why would she settle down when she knows she can enjoy the dating scene and single life?

If a person was so "lame" how are they attractive to others? How are they capable of having someone want too spend the rest of their lives with them?

GTFO with that lameness.

Haha, a woman hitting her 30s "enjoying the dating scene and single life"...good one.

 

[yehhhboiii]

Or maybe she just wants to enjoy her life? You'd need to be pretty lame to be settled down and married in your 20s.

if she's hot, why would she settle down when she knows she can enjoy the dating scene and single life?

because women have a biological clock and once they're in their mid-late thirties, they know that time's running out. there's only so much time you can spend on the carousel before you start to worry that you're going to spend the rest of your life alone and childless. when you're older, you don't really feel like going out til 3 am and trying to get drinks from guys. also men will be going for the younger, hotter girls and it's harder to compete as you age

 

[pdxhopeful]

Over 30, not married or childed and not the least bothered by either . I'll adopt if I want to raise a child, and as far as getting married goes... I'm very satisfied with my life as it is - good friends, good family, good lifestyle, on my way to a great career. It'd have to be a one in a billion relationship to make it worth the trouble and even then I'm not sure I'd want the institution part of it. Not knocking those who want diffent things out of life, but I'd appreciate the same consideration.

 

[studentp0x]

Or maybe she just wants to enjoy her life? You'd need to be pretty lame to be settled down and married in your 20s.

if she's hot, why would she settle down when she knows she can enjoy the dating scene and single life?

Do you want to marry someone who's had 30+ partners? Personally it's an issue for me if the girl is above ~5 (yaya, many lie, but just for the sake of conversation).

Though of course you're right, that is why the majority of hot girls in their late 20s to early 30s are single.

 

[studentp0x]

because women have a biological clock and once they're in their mid-late thirties, they know that time's running out. there's only so much time you can spend on the carousel before you start to worry that you're going to spend the rest of your life alone and childless. when you're older, you don't really feel like going out til 3 am and trying to get drinks from guys. also men will be going for the younger, hotter girls and it's harder to compete as you age

yea they'll pick up the beta guy just in time before they gain the major weight, after going through 50 alphas during their 20s... 😀

 

[Brain Bucket]

Do you want to marry someone who's had 30+ partners? Personally it's an issue for me if the girl is above ~5 (yaya, many lie, but just for the sake of conversation).

...😕

 

[514901]

Do you want to marry someone who's had 30+ partners? Personally it's an issue for me if the girl is above ~5 (yaya, many lie, but just for the sake of conversation).

Though of course you're right, that is why the majority of hot girls in their late 20s to early 30s are single.

I would because it means she will know she likes and she won't be forever wondering what could have been...on the other hand some girl with very few sexual partners (less than 10 or so) is more likely to eventually act out on her BBC fantasy or to be patrolling craigslist while you're out doing some 14 hour shift

 

[Kahreek]

i am all for having kids and a life together without getting married.
marriage is for gay people anyways

 

[studentp0x]

I would because it means she will know she likes and she won't be forever wondering what could have been...on the other hand some girl with very few sexual partners (less than 10 or so) is more likely to eventually act out on her BBC fantasy or to be patrolling craigslist while you're out doing some 14 hour shift

lol less than 10 or so is considered very few? 😕

this study fully contradicts what you said.

http://socialpathology.blogspot.ca/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html

The logic that you need to get laid by over 40 dudes just so won't have temptations later is ridiculous... so you go from a partner every couple months to having just your husband for the next 40 years? If she has a bbc fantasy or wants to hit up ashley madison, she will. Whether she's had 2 or 20 partners won't change that.

 

[514901]

lol less than 10 or so is considered very few? 😕

this study fully contradicts what you said.

http://socialpathology.blogspot.ca/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html

The logic that you need to get laid by over 40 dudes just so won't have temptations later is ridiculous... so you go from a partner every couple months to having just your husband for the next 40 years? If she has a bbc fantasy or wants to hit up ashley madison, she will. Whether she's had 2 or 20 partners won't change that.

I'm just going off personal observations and experiences. It's the ones who marry young that invariably divorce before 40. While the ones who marry later have gotten everything out of their system and have their focus down. I generally have more than 10 partners a year, so for a woman to have 10 partners by 30 isn't exactly a huge deal. And you may not have heard but women in their 30s these days routinely give successful birth to healthy babies .

 

[studentp0x]

I'm just going off personal observations and experiences. It's the ones who marry young that invariably divorce before 40. While the ones who marry later have gotten everything out of their system and have their focus down. I generally have more than 10 partners a year, so for a woman to have 10 partners by 30 isn't exactly a huge deal. And you may not have heard but women in their 30s these days routinely give successful birth to healthy babies .

I see what you're saying, but I don't think a girl needs to get nailed by every dude who hits on her along with getting gangbanged every weekend just so she won't be tempted to cheat on her husband. It actually makes no sense at all that someone will go from SO many partners to JUST one, suddenly.
But yes, if you marry a virgin or someone with 1-2 partners, there's a risk she'll wonder what other men are like. Hence you need a balance, and personally for me.. anything above 5-6 I find gross.

I've had 9 partners and I'm 20, I wouldn't date a girl who's had more than 5-6. But I'm in a long term relationship, so not something I'm concerned with at the moment.


The reality is though, you won't find many quality hot girls past 25. You'll certainly find gold diggers, ex-hookers, porn girls, random low-class women, etc. But definitely not many quality women.

 

[TheWeeIceMan]

I see what you're saying, but I don't think a girl needs to get nailed by every dude who hits on her along with getting gangbanged every weekend just so she won't be tempted to cheat on her husband. It actually makes no sense at all that someone will go from SO many partners to JUST one, suddenly.
But yes, if you marry a virgin or someone with 1-2 partners, there's a risk she'll wonder what other men are like. Hence you need a balance, and personally for me.. anything above 5-6 I find gross.

I've had 9 partners and I'm 20, I wouldn't date a girl who's had more than 5-6. But I'm in a long term relationship, so not something I'm concerned with at the moment.


The reality is though, you won't find many quality hot girls past 25. You'll certainly find gold diggers, ex-hookers, porn girls, random low-class women, etc. But definitely not many quality women.

There is actually some wiggle room between <5 partners and getting gangbanged every weekend.

@ the bolded, bro.....

 

[studentp0x]

There is actually some wiggle room between <5 partners and getting gangbanged every weekend.

@ the bolded, bro.....

Was only semi srs on that one but having lots of casual sex in the long term isn't really something I'd see as a positive in a girl 🙂 (a big negative lol)

 

[touchpause13]

Was only semi srs on that one but having lots of casual sex in the long term isn't really something I'd see as a positive in a girl 🙂 (a big negative lol)

I think most of us go through a ho phase at some point, some get more hoish than others haha. For me I really dont give a damn how many sexual partners someone has as long as they are clean.

I guess everyone is entitled to their own dealbreakers but seriously dude don't assume that they are universal.

Edit: however I do find it hypocritical that you don't hold yourself to the same standard as potential partners.

 

[okokok]

Ahhhh this thread is so sad/hilarious/delightful/depressing/expected

Can you all please just save this and re-read it in ten years when you're the disgusting, wrinkled, dried out, elderly age of 30?