Med Students don't have time for a relationship?

[Anastomoses]

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Ahhhh this thread is so sad/hilarious/delightful/depressing/expected

Can you all please just save this and re-read it in ten years when you're the disgusting, wrinkled, dried out, elderly age of 30?

some are incorrigible.

when you read the comments of studentpox...all you can think is...the girl who lands that was too dumb to do better.

 

[KnuxNole]

This simply isn't true. There's no such reality of 'the best women' being scooped up in their 20s. All people mature and perceive life more holistically and spiritually with age. No one is normal. Everyone has problems and insecurities. You're deluded yourself if you think there's a rush.

There's this idea with our Facebook generation that life is a checklist that needs to be ticked off at specific points---a woman in her 20s simply will not be mature enough to handle a marriage. If you want some generic girl who isn't ambitious and just wants to settle, you will get some mileage out of her in her 20s, but I can guarantee you that you'll over time fade away from one another

Same with males in their 20s. Some of them are BORING AS ****. Both genders are guilty of this haha.

I remember dating a cute guy, who was dull as can be. Dessert couldn't have come any faster haha. I'm not the most interesting guy in the world, but at least I have some conversational skills 😕

 

[KnuxNole]

I think most of us go through a ho phase at some point, some get more hoish than others haha. For me I really dont give a damn how many sexual partners someone has as long as they are clean.

I guess everyone is entitled to their own dealbreakers but seriously dude don't assume that they are universal.

Edit: however I do find it hypocritical that you don't hold yourself to the same standard as potential partners.

This I also find confusing. It's ok to request that your partner doesn't sleep around, and YOU yourself must do the same. Or else, you must never complain when people call you a walking glob of herpes and syphilis, and how Kim K. is way classier than you.

 

[KnuxNole]

i am all for having kids and a life together without getting married.
marriage is for gay people anyways

Not in the vast majority of states 😡

 

[DOPlzthx]

You guys left out the attractive girls that were quality and got scooped up early, got married young, but then their husbands died leaving them with tons of life insurance money, and now they are reaching 30.

 

[TheWeeIceMan]

You guys left out the attractive girls that were quality and got scooped up early, got married young, but then their husbands died leaving them with tons of life insurance money, and now they are reaching 30.

I'm not messing with some woman who may or may not have killed her husband for the insurance money.

 

[rodmichael82]

Premeds back to the preallo.

Any way I'm dating 2 chicks at the same time. There's plenty of time trust me.

 

[studentp0x]

I think most of us go through a ho phase at some point, some get more hoish than others haha. For me I really dont give a damn how many sexual partners someone has as long as they are clean.

I guess everyone is entitled to their own dealbreakers but seriously dude don't assume that they are universal.

Edit: however I do find it hypocritical that you don't hold yourself to the same standard as potential partners.

I've only talked to one or two guys who said they didn't care. And the majority of girls I've talked to say girls have a little bit of a "higher tolerance."

Question though, how many girls do you personally know who have had 20+ partners? 30+ ? 50+? I've known plenty, not a single one was even worth casual dating let alone anything more. If you think someone who's been with every dude is going to suddenly become 100% loyal, that somewhat goes against common sense. How do you go from so many different men to just one forever?

Lets not forget, what standards and self respect does a girl have when she lets every dude who comes onto her, have sex with her?

 

[studentp0x]

some are incorrigible.

when you read the comments of studentpox...all you can think is...the girl who lands that was too dumb to do better.

I'm in a relationship with an amazing girl. 🙂 you can assume what you like 🙂

 

[Member95042]

You'll have time, if you make time. Perhaps those people just have poor time management skills?

'No time in med school' is really just a lame excuse. I started dating a non-medical student during my first year and put in tons of effort, despite having a much more demanding work schedule than he did. Then near the end of my third year, when I started talking about match, he decided to tell me that he didn't want to be with someone who was going into a career with a such a hectic schedule after all....though somehow it took him 2 years to figure that out. Just goes to show that when your SO loses interest, they will say anything to get out of the relationship.

 

[514901]

I'm in a relationship with an amazing girl. 🙂 you can assume what you like 🙂

You're 20 years old, man. This is funny. I'm in my early 30s. You'll be laughing at what you said when you look back at how naive and ignorant you were at 20.

 

[touchpause13]

I've only talked to one or two guys who said they didn't care. And the majority of girls I've talked to say girls have a little bit of a "higher tolerance."

Question though, how many girls do you personally know who have had 20+ partners? 30+ ? 50+? I've known plenty, not a single one was even worth casual dating let alone anything more. If you think someone who's been with every dude is going to suddenly become 100% loyal, that somewhat goes against common sense. How do you go from so many different men to just one forever?

Lets not forget, what standards and self respect does a girl have when she lets every dude who comes onto her, have sex with her?

I know women in their late 30s with partner numbers > 100 who I think have plenty of standards and self respect. And I know virgins that I wouldn't trust as far as I cud throw em. Honestly I think the number of people you have screwed has little to no barring on who you are as a human being.

 

[CDI]

100+ = prostytoots.

 

[studentp0x]

You're 20 years old, man. This is funny. I'm in my early 30s. You'll be laughing at what you said when you look back at how naive and ignorant you were at 20.

So why is it when I talk to people in their 30s/40s we're always on the same page 😕 SDN is the only place I've ever seen any disagreement with what I'm saying.

Do you think we should all have 350 partners to avoid all temptation once in a "serious" relationship? 😕

I know women in their late 30s with partner numbers > 100 who I think have plenty of standards and self respect. And I know virgins that I wouldn't trust as far as I cud throw em. Honestly I think the number of people you have screwed has little to no barring on who you are as a human being.

No they don't lol. Clearly you have a different idea of what standards and self respect are, and I guess for you, letting a stranger into your body has no barring on that.

Having 100+ partners = you were drunk for a third of them = impaired judgement in the moment = high risk of transmission of STDs (unprotected sex). That's assuming you're overall responsible, half the people I know who sleep around tell me they barely use condoms ever.

 

[studentp0x]

100+ = prostytoots.

this

 

[evilbooyaa]

Having 100+ partners = you were drunk for a third of them = impaired judgement in the moment = high risk of transmission of STDs (unprotected sex). That's assuming you're overall responsible, half the people I know who sleep around tell me they barely use condoms ever.

LOL. Way to jump to multiple conclusions.

This thread has taken an unexpected turn. I find myself siding with the women on this one. I don't really care how many guys a girl's been with in the past before she met me. As long as she's clean and she's with only me when we're together, cool.

That being said, there are some sluts out there that I wouldn't really want to date. But I don't think it's a general rule that a girl needs to have < x number of partners for me to continue to find her attractive.

 

[CDI]

"Before we have the sexuals, you need to pass the 3H test...HIV, Hep, Herp. Otherwise I will restrain myself and walk out the door even though you're one of the hottest girls I've ever met."

Realistic. Sounds like every guy I know.

 

[studentp0x]

LOL. Way to jump to multiple conclusions.

This thread has taken an unexpected turn. I find myself siding with the women on this one. I don't really care how many guys a girl's been with in the past before she met me. As long as she's clean and she's with only me when we're together, cool.

That being said, there are some sluts out there that I wouldn't really want to date. But I don't think it's a general rule that a girl needs to have < x number of partners for me to continue to find her attractive.

Well I did quote a study on the last page that showed a strong link between number of partners and divorce. Do you have a link that contradicts that?

Anyway, in theory you're right. But it doesn't really work like that. You think someone who's had sex with lots of dudes and done stuff with many others will suddenly agree to be a "good girl" and cut her connections with all these guys/stop getting **** faced at the club/stop hanging out with guys, etc. ? All it takes is one argument or some episode of nymphomania for her to cheat on you. And it happens all the time.

It's largely a mentality.

I think this thread has some of those guys who are always commenting on girls facebook pictures telling them how beautiful they are. Typical.

 

[tantacles]

So why is it when I talk to people in their 30s/40s we're always on the same page 😕 SDN is the only place I've ever seen any disagreement with what I'm saying.

Do you think we should all have 350 partners to avoid all temptation once in a "serious" relationship? 😕



No they don't lol. Clearly you have a different idea of what standards and self respect are, and I guess for you, letting a stranger into your body has no barring on that.

Having 100+ partners = you were drunk for a third of them = impaired judgement in the moment = high risk of transmission of STDs (unprotected sex). That's assuming you're overall responsible, half the people I know who sleep around tell me they barely use condoms ever.

:troll::troll::troll::troll:
:troll::troll::troll::troll:

 

[evilbooyaa]

Well I did quote a study on the last page that showed a strong link between number of partners and divorce. Do you have a link that contradicts that?

I wasn't defending the divorce argument. I do agree with you that a girl who has a history of promiscuity who hasn't changed her outlook or personality may be less likely to then stay in a monogamous relationship.

You think someone who's had sex with lots of dudes and done stuff with many others will suddenly agree to be a "good girl" and cut her connections with all these guys/stop getting **** faced at the club/stop hanging out with guys, etc.

Depends on if she still has the same personality or she's changed as a person as a result of her experiences.

All it takes is one argument or some episode of nymphomania for her to cheat on you. And it happens all the time.

It's largely a mentality.

True for some girls. Like I said, I don't think you can generalize all girls who have 10+ lifetime partners (or whatever your cut off is) into the same category.

I think this thread has some of those guys who are always commenting on girls facebook pictures telling them how beautiful they are. Typical.

I don't know if you're talking about me, but you couldn't be farther from the truth. I specifically avoid "fishing for compliment" girls. This last line either shows you to be extremely bitter or a troll.

Anyways, this is going to be the last serious response from me. Keep on keepin' on. Judge people however you like, just don't speak for anyone but yourself when you spout off your beliefs.

 

[Anastomoses]

this is hilarious. the number of partners thing is so unimportant and individual. I am not attracted to guys who have put their wee wee just about anywhere it fits. Like it seriously turns my stomach. But some girls don't care that much.

To each their own.

But the idea that some of you try to suggest "women over 30" are insane or specifically hobags if they are alive and single is just obnoxiously stupid and insecure.

 

[tantacles]

I wasn't defending the divorce argument. I do agree with you that a guy who has a history of promiscuity who hasn't changed his outlook or personality may be less likely to then stay in a monogamous relationship.



Depends on if he still has the same personality or he's changed as a person as a result of his experiences.



True for some guys. Like I said, I don't think you can generalize all guys who have 10+ lifetime partners (or whatever your cut off is) into the same category.


Anyways, this is going to be the last serious response from me. Keep on keepin' on. Judge people however you like, just don't speak for anyone but yourself when you spout off your beliefs.

ftfy, since this whole post, including yours, comes off as just as misogynistic as his does. In a hetero sexual encounter, it takes two to tango.

 

[evilbooyaa]

ftfy, since this whole post, including yours, comes off as just as misogynistic as his does. In a hetero sexual encounter, it takes two to tango.

Regardless of whether an encounter is homo or heterosexual, it takes two to tango. Not sure the point you're making there.

Anyway, I agree with your edits to my post. I am not holding women to a higher (or double) standard. I'm all for equality. I was only speaking from a perspective that I can personally discuss, which is a guy who likes women. I cannot speak for what traits women see as important in a guy. Which is why posts from Anastomoses are helpful to see that (some) women see male promiscuity as a stomach pain-inducing negative.

Why is it that every single thing is ever said on these forums comes off as misogynistic to someone? That term is thrown about much too often.

 

[yehhhboiii]

Regardless of whether an encounter is homo or heterosexual, it takes two to tango. Not sure the point you're making there.

Anyway, I agree with your edits to my post. I am not holding women to a higher (or double) standard. I'm all for equality. I was only speaking from a perspective that I can personally discuss, which is a guy who likes women. I cannot speak for what traits women see as important in a guy. Which is why posts from Anastomoses are helpful to see that (some) women see male promiscuity as a stomach pain-inducing negative.

Why is it that every single thing is ever said on these forums comes off as misogynistic to someone? That term is thrown about much too often.

most of the posts aren't even misogynistic, it's just a phenomenon that occurred recently when a few posters realized that they could get attention by bringing up gender issues at every single opportunity

 

[touchpause13]

most of the posts aren't even misogynistic, it's just a phenomenon that occurred recently when a few posters realized that they could get attention by bringing up gender issues at every single opportunity

I see ur point. Some posts are not necessarily misogynistic but certainly there is a lot of slut shaming going on. Clearly I have different standards for women than studentp0x does, which is fine we all get our dealbreakers. But his need to degrade women based off of arbitrary numbers is douchey at best and sexist at worst.

 

[514901]

So basically some people think women like enjoy sex are 'sluts' and instead prefer frigid, boring women.

 

[touchpause13]

So basically some people think women like enjoy sex are 'sluts' and instead prefer frigid, boring women.

How about we just stop judging people based off of how many sexual partners they have had.

 

[514901]

How about we just stop judging people based off of how many sexual partners they have had.

It's a sad double standard. We should be applauding women who like to enjoy life and to have sex. All those female high school teachers in America who bang their male students are heros, not criminals.

 

[studentp0x]

I see ur point. Some posts are not necessarily misogynistic but certainly there is a lot of slut shaming going on. Clearly I have different standards for women than studentp0x does, which is fine we all get our dealbreakers. But his need to degrade women based off of arbitrary numbers is douchey at best and sexist at worst.

Whether you're a man or woman, your dating value will decrease the more partners you have. On a wide scale. On a global scale, it's more so for women and to an extreme extent.

Men want to bang lots of chicks so they feel like they accomplished something. Women do it for self esteem issues. This is something I've heard from SO many people endlessly (more from women actually than men 🙂 ).

So basically some people think women like enjoy sex are 'sluts' and instead prefer frigid, boring women.

lolwot

so if you have a high sex drive, you need to bang randoms every day? Surely, being in a relationship or having a FWB won't satisfy a woman 🙄 .

Aside from chicks with low sex drives, any inexp or "boring" girl can be changed slowly to a man's "liking" over time in a relationship. If you can't do that, you're a terrible lover/partner.

 

[studentp0x]

It's a sad double standard. We should be applauding women who like to enjoy life and to have sex. All those female high school teachers in America who bang their male students are heros, not criminals.

How about applauding those male teachers who bang female student. 😛 oh wait...


Anyway, we have the most sexually promiscious society but at the same time have the highest divorce rates as well. Why is that? 😉

Overall, seems like most people in this thread have had minimal female interaction in their life. Same guys who come on the bb.com misc and make threads every day about how their GF cheated on them with 4 guys or whatever. Then wonder what the problem was. 🙄

 

[514901]

Whether you're a man or woman, your dating value will decrease the more partners you have. On a wide scale. On a global scale, it's more so for women and to an extreme extent.

Men want to bang lots of chicks so they feel like they accomplished something. Women do it for self esteem issues. This is something I've heard from SO many people endlessly (more from women actually than men 🙂 ).





lolwot

so if you have a high sex drive, you need to bang randoms every day? Surely, being in a relationship or having a FWB won't satisfy a woman 🙄 .

Aside from chicks with low sex drives, any inexp or "boring" girl can be changed slowly to a man's "liking" over time in a relationship. If you can't do that, you're a terrible lover/partner.

Put it like this---people who are serial daters are a lot worse than people who enjoy sex. Some girl who has always been in a relationship since High school has a lot more problems than a woman who is single and likes to have fun.

 

[studentp0x]

Put it like this---people who are serial daters are a lot worse than people who enjoy sex. Some girl who has always been in a relationship since High school has a lot more problems than a woman who is single and likes to have fun.

I'm unaware of any girls who stay strictly single and have never heard of such thing. Hence why I'm saying the guys in here definitely haven't known many females in their life. 🙂

Even girls who are/were the biggest party girls (which btw is virtually guaranteed that you'll be taken advantage at some point, almost for sure more than once) have a list of boyfriends they've had.

It's not black and white.

 

[KnuxNole]

What is going on in this topic I dont even...

I think we all need a sex orgy to fix everything 😀

 

[touchpause13]

What is going on in this topic I dont even...

I think we all need a sex orgy to fix everything 😀

This topic makes my brain hurt.

Ive never had any problems with girls who had multiple partners. **** they usually are more knowledgeable about their likes and dislikes. Not like either is superior to the other IMO. Different strokes for different folks... if you know what I mean

 

[tantacles]

Regardless of whether an encounter is homo or heterosexual, it takes two to tango. Not sure the point you're making there.

Anyway, I agree with your edits to my post. I am not holding women to a higher (or double) standard. I'm all for equality. I was only speaking from a perspective that I can personally discuss, which is a guy who likes women. I cannot speak for what traits women see as important in a guy. Which is why posts from Anastomoses are helpful to see that (some) women see male promiscuity as a stomach pain-inducing negative.

Why is it that every single thing is ever said on these forums comes off as misogynistic to someone? That term is thrown about much too often.

There wasn't any juxtaposition between hetero and homosexual here; for every woman that sleeps with a man, there is a man who sleeps with a woman. This thread tends to focus on the woman, and that's what I was getting at.

And they come off as misogynistic because largely, the sentiments about problems dating "slutty" or promiscuous women are, in fact, misogynistic. I've never once seen a woman come on to this forum and insist that all slutty men aren't going to be faithful; this seems to be an issue that both sexes face but that mainly men seem to be vocalizing, which means that perhaps such men should seek out the partner they'd like and stop.

Why did I appeal to you personally? Well, it appears you have a brain and aren't a sexist piece of feces. I tend to ignore trolls and appeal to people who are feeding them; right now, that's you.

 

[studentp0x]

There wasn't any juxtaposition between hetero and homosexual here; for every woman that sleeps with a man, there is a man who sleeps with a woman. This thread tends to focus on the woman, and that's what I was getting at.

And they come off as misogynistic because largely, the sentiments about problems dating "slutty" or promiscuous women are, in fact, misogynistic. I've never once seen a woman come on to this forum and insist that all slutty men aren't going to be faithful; this seems to be an issue that both sexes face but that mainly men seem to be vocalizing, which means that perhaps such men should seek out the partner they'd like and stop.

Why did I appeal to you personally? Well, it appears you have a brain and aren't a sexist piece of feces. I tend to ignore trolls and appeal to people who are feeding them; right now, that's you.

For one thing, there's more men than women on this forum. Second, very few women get involved in these discussions and when they do.. they agree with the vice versa of what's been said here (see above). Third, when a guy talks to other guys, they're going to talk about women not men. As a fourth note, I've had girls tell me anything above 7-8 partners is gross for a girl and anything above 10-11 for men.

 

[touchpause13]

For one thing, there's more men than women on this forum. Second, very few women get involved in these discussions and when they do.. they agree with the vice versa of what's been said here (see above). Third, when a guy talks to other guys, they're going to talk about women not men. As a fourth note, I've had girls tell me anything above 7-8 partners is gross for a girl and anything above 10-11 for men.

1. How is that relevant?
2. So what?
3. That's a heteronormative stereotype
4. N= what? 2 or 3? You realize your anecdotal evidence means nothing right

 

[studentp0x]

1. How is that relevant?
2. So what?
3. That's a heteronormative stereotype
4. N= what? 2 or 3? You realize your anecdotal evidence means nothing right

1. If your logic is poor enough that you can't link the number of men to discussion topics, then how are you planning on having any shot on doing well on the mcat?

2. See above

3. Gay men are a strong minority, sorry

4. Go tell your next prospect gf that you have 25 kills and see what happens 🙂

 

[touchpause13]

Cute. Go right to the mcat score.

Like I've said before Im already married but id have no problem if I was single and a girl I liked had 25 partners as long as shes clean (plus is smart, pretty, has similiar interests etc)

 

[studentp0x]

Cute. Go right to the mcat score.

Like I've said before Im already married but id have no problem if I was single and a girl I liked had 25 partners as long as shes clean (plus is smart, pretty, has similiar interests etc)

Well it's basic common sense a place with more men will have more female related discussion in terms of this topic 🙂 .

And that's cool, I said that I personally wouldn't be comfortable with someone who's had more than 5-6 🙂 . And that I also think someone's who's had so many partners is very likely to cheat. Given her obvious strong male interaction (which she won't cut to zero when she starts dating you).

The cleanliness is an issue too, are you going to get her tested now and again in a couple months just to be 100% sure? Would you be paranoid of going down on her given hpv-16 risks and oral cancer in men?

 

[touchpause13]

Well it's basic common sense a place with more men will have more female related discussion in terms of this topic 🙂 .

And that's cool, I said that I personally wouldn't be comfortable with someone who's had more than 5-6 🙂 . And that I also think someone's who's had so many partners is very likely to cheat. Given her obvious strong male interaction (which she won't cut to zero when she starts dating you).

The cleanliness is an issue too, are you going to get her tested now and again in a couple months just to be 100% sure? Would you be paranoid of going down on her given hpv-16 risks and oral cancer in men?

Ooo you mean previous partners with men?

No. No no no.

Yes I realize this makes me a terrible hypocrite but I don't tend to go for bi girls.

 

[studentp0x]

Ooo you mean previous partners with men?

No. No no no.

Yes I realize this makes me a terrible hypocrite but I don't tend to go for bi girls.

Wat

 

[KnuxNole]

Wat

She's a female who likes females and is married to a man. Nothing out of the ordinary really.

 

[touchpause13]

Wat

I'm just not as attracted to them! They are usually too femme for me.

25 female partners I have 0 issue with. 25 male partners then me? Yeah I would be hard pressed to go for that. I don't want to be anyone's experiment.

 

[KnuxNole]

1. If your logic is poor enough that you can't link the number of men to discussion topics, then how are you planning on having any shot on doing well on the mcat?

2. See above

3. Gay men are a strong minority, sorry

4. Go tell your next prospect gf that you have 25 kills and see what happens 🙂

Only about 10%, so maybe not that small haha

 

[touchpause13]

She's a female who likes females and is married to a man. Nothing out of the ordinary really.

That is correct.

 

[studentp0x]

Only about 10%, so maybe not that small haha

I don't think so 🙂

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_sexual_orientation

More like 5% at most, 3-4%high end estimate.

1.7% of USA population identified themselves as gay or lesbian...

 

[touchpause13]

I don't think so 🙂

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_sexual_orientation

More like 5% at most, 3-4%high end estimate.

1.7% of USA population identified themselves as gay or lesbian...

Yeah you are correct. Id say closer to 5% because of ppl in the closet

 

[KnuxNole]

Yeah, closeted people make these statistics a HUGE gray area. And not even closeted people, but people who haven't disclosed their sexuality to people. After all, you can walk down the street and not know if anyone is gay/straight just by looking at them. It's a huge hidden minority.

 

[touchpause13]

Yeah, closeted people make these statistics a HUGE gray area. And not even closeted people, but people who haven't disclosed their sexuality to people. After all, you can walk down the street and not know if anyone is gay/straight just by looking at them. It's a huge hidden minority.

That's why they really should have other gay ppl doing these studies. We can pick out each other in ways that straight people cant, or at least havent learned how to.

But yeah it's still pretty impossible to get accurate numbers with this type of thing