I've been through most of the posts in this forum, and I've noticed that most of the posters here are wives, but I thought I'd start a thread & see if anyone might have some input. I will be starting med school this fall, & my husband and I will be moving to Southern California in order for me to do so. However, I worry about what it will be like for him being that I will be gone a lot and in the first two years of our marriage I have handled a lot of the day to day operations for our home (grocery shopping, paying the bills, cleaning house, etc.), which is not to say that he doesn't help out, but merely to say I willingly do a majority because I tend to be sort of particular about how things are done. I know that I'm going to have to let go of some of that particularity (beggars can't be choosers) but I was wondering if any of you have any experience with this situation, and how you coped. Did the balance shift in household work, and if so, how did that go over? Any information would be helpful as I would like to know what I'm committing both of us to. Thanks.