Hi! I had to smile when I read the line in which you wonder "if people actually have the time to go out and meet people." I found it entertaining because I remember fearing the same thing before I started residency a year and a half ago. I remember going to a movie with some friends in June before I started my program and thinking that it was the last movie I would see in a crazy long time! I remember thinking that I would probably only have time to do fun things on my vacation time, but that is really not the case. I know it varies quite a lot depending on the program you join, but I'm a peds resident and I have quite a bit of free time. Much more than I imagined anyhow.
Some months (like inpatient service) are busier than others, of course, but I always have at least one day per week free and one completely free weekend per month. Basically, I work one Friday, one Saturday, and one Sunday call during the month and have one weekend totally without any call. Plus as an intern we get three weeks of vacation plus a week at either Christmas or New Year's and as second and third years the vacation time increases to four weeks per year, plus time at the holidays.
Also, in response to your comment about dating people from other professions... it can be both good and bad. I have done both. It's refreshing to date people outside of medicine because they help bring other interests and a different spin on life. On the other hand, fellow residents definitely understand your life better and can be more empathetic when you hate your current rotation or you had a horrible day. People outside medicine generally don't understand what you are going through as well and tend to put more pressure on you for time and energy that you don't always have to give to the relationship, depending on your work load and hours that particular month.
Whatever you do... choose someone who has a comparable education level and a lot of patience.
And don't worry... there will be time for fun... and love
... in residency! I'm still hopeful!
Best of luck,
CC