Men in OB/GYN

[lilnoelle]

do you think males give worse advice?

or does it all come down to not wanting a man touching your privates....

Ha, and would that be bad if I wanted only my husband to touch my "privates" if I could help it?

No, I don't think men give worse advice, but as a female, personally, I prefer a female physician because she can identify with me more. I know there is not exactly a friendship between physicians and their patients, but I feel like I can have more of a relationship with a female physician than I can a male physician. I certainly wouldn't say that men shouldn't be obstetricians, in fact I voted that they can and should. I, however, prefer to have a female physician.

 

[Kiroro]

I totally believe that many male OBGYNs are just as good as (or maybe even better than) female ones. But personally, I just don't think I'll ever choose a male doc to do my pelvic exam if I could choose a female doc.

It's not that I don't think male docs are not gentle enough or don't understand about women... I just get the feeling that male OBGYNs may judge my genital and think "hmmm... hers don't look as good as that 18 year old patient's of mine." Whereas I'm sure female docs won't judge my girl part like that. 😛

Seriously though… too many men has this idea of "how a woman's body should look". You know… many expect us to be slim as models and yet have D cups…That's not gonna happen!! That's why I feel uncomfortable with male OBGYNs. Who knows what "ideal genital" they are comparing mine to?

 

[45408]

It's not that I don't think male docs are not gentle enough or don't understand about women... I just get the feeling that male OBGYNs may judge my genital and think "hmmm... hers don't look as good as that 18 year old patient's of mine." Whereas I'm sure female docs won't judge my girl part like that. 😛

Seriously though… too many men has this idea of "how a woman's body should look". You know… many expect us to be slim as models and yet have D cups…That's not gonna happen!! That's why I feel uncomfortable with male OBGYNs. Who knows what "ideal genital" they are comparing mine to?

I rather doubt that a female urologist is looking at one patient, going "Mmm, this guy is hung like a horse. Ooo la la!" Most of your docs are going to be married or in a stable relationship, and they've seen a thousand patients and their genitals. Again, I have no problem with patients preferring one gender or another (I like having a male PCP), but I don't like the misconception that an OB/GYN is going to be eyeballing up his patients like they're sex objects.


but for the record, quality > quantity 😉

 

[YouDontKnowJack]

It's not that I don't think male docs are not gentle enough or don't understand about women... I just get the feeling that male OBGYNs may judge my genital and think "hmmm... hers don't look as good as that 18 year old patient's of mine." Whereas I'm sure female docs won’t judge my girl part like that. 😛

haha. i love what you guys think.

no. if i were an obgyn, i wouldn't like big flappy p*ssylips. Or humongous clitorises. I'd turn you away and point to the sign on my door that says "17 year old cheerleaders ONLY".

 

[Jiminy Cricket]

Why not a good physician is a good physician or stick to your territory?

it really depends on if he snickers or not after saying the word 'vagina'.

 

[Leukocyte]

.. I just get the feeling that male OBGYNs may judge my genital and think "hmmm... hers don't look as good as that 18 year old patient's of mine." Whereas I'm sure female docs won't judge my girl part like that. 😛

What if the female doc is a LESBIAN? Are you going to ask your female doc about her sexual orientation before you choose her?🙄

Doctors deal with PATHOLOGY, and the "fabulous" vagina is just another organ...after the Zillionth pelvic.

"No, I will not go to a female or gay Urologist because she will look at my penis and laugh about how small it is."...

...According to Calos Mencia, "this is ded-de-de"!!!!!🙄 🙄 🙄

 

[45408]

"No, I will not go to a female or gay Urologist because she will look at my penis and laugh about how small it is."...

Ah, but now you're just being homophobic and misogynistic. 🙄

 

[Leukocyte]

Ah, but now you're just being homophobic and misogynistic. 🙄

Did you catch my sarcasm?

This thread deserves this song...please click on the link:


http://www.carlosmencia.com/content/videos.php?id=66

 

[45408]

Did you catch my sarcasm?

😉 did you catch mine?

 

[FenderHM]

this thread has officially convinced me not to go into Ob/Gyn, thanks for the help

 

[DoctorFunk]

this thread has officially convinced me not to go into Ob/Gyn, thanks for the help

The Lifestyle specialties are calling you. Give in to the Dark Side, it is your destiny.

 

[MDDOWhatever]

Smells like a troll. Take a look at his other posts, and then he came and found this thread, a week after people stopped responding.

WTF are you talking about, prowler? I don't remember the specifics, but looking at the dates, it looks like I responded to that specific post a few hours after it was posted. I don't think I've ever responded to a post on this or any other forum that was more than halfway down the page. However, since I do actually have a family and med school, I don't spend every hour of every day drooling on my keyboard reading and immediately responding to posts at SDN... evidently unlike some people such as yourself?

Let me get this straight, you actually went and looked to see all my other posts (oh, and such a multitude it is...what, maybe 12 or so?) out of context to make some determination that I'm a troll?

Dude, get a life. If you spend that much time in front of your PC, you probably are grossly overweight, so maybe try exercise? Just a suggestion.

 

[DoctorFunk]

Dude, get a life. If you spend that much time in front of your PC, you probably are grossly overweight, so maybe try exercise? Just a suggestion.

If it looks like a troll, smells like a troll, and calls you fat in a thread not named "Overweight Med Students," then it's probably a troll.

Or, you know, just an ass. One of the two.

 

[MDDOWhatever]

If it looks like a troll, smells like a troll, and calls you fat in a thread not named "Overweight Med Students," then it's probably a troll.

Or, you know, just an ass. One of the two.

Ok, hijacking this thread now for one post, but you started it, so whine away if you dont like it.

What if "it" responds to a post directly in a thread? Is that a troll? Is that why you don't respond directly, but sit on the sidelines, taking a quote out of context that was directly related to something Prowler said about ME? I guess if the only way to not be a "troll" ("oh no! not that! my world will now collapse because some ****** on a forum called me a troll") is to quote out of context and not either directly respond or STFU, then guilty as charged. That would make me a troll.

Maybe we should define "troll:" 1) It can be a person who posts to inflame and incite.... OR 2) a person who is addicted to a forum (as in "trolling" the forums).
I'd say with the latter definition, your 1k posts and prowler's 4.7K posts definitely have me beat in the troll dept. In fact, I don't see how anyone could even have 4.7 posts here. Over, say, 5 years thats what? About 3 posts per day? Sorry, but that's sadly pathetic.

I wouldn't even be surprised if you're actually prowler with a different login to keep the number of total posts from 5700 (adding in your extra 1k) down to only 4700, and appear to give him/you some type of validity for those double-team agreements. Well done. You rock and are oh-so-non-trollish now in my book. And that matters. No really, it does.

 

[DoctorFunk]

Ok, hijacking this thread now for one post, but you started it, so whine away if you dont like it.

blahblahblahblahetcetcetc

Congratulations. You just spent more time writing up a defense of your nontrolling behavior (even though being accused of trolling doesn't matter, in your words) than I have spent in composing my oh-so-pathetic 1K posts over the last 3 years. I applaud you, good sir.

Now, back to your regularly scheduled program. Assertion: OB/Gyn is a bad field because of their increasing malpractice insurance rates. Discuss.

 

[Leukocyte]

WTF are you talking about, prowler? I don't remember the specifics, but looking at the dates, it looks like I responded to that specific post a few hours after it was posted. I don't think I've ever responded to a post on this or any other forum that was more than halfway down the page. However, since I do actually have a family and med school, I don't spend every hour of every day drooling on my keyboard reading and immediately responding to posts at SDN... evidently unlike some people such as yourself?

Let me get this straight, you actually went and looked to see all my other posts (oh, and such a multitude it is...what, maybe 12 or so?) out of context to make some determination that I'm a troll?

Dude, get a life. If you spend that much time in front of your PC, you probably are grossly overweight, so maybe try exercise? Just a suggestion.

Prowler was not refering to you. He was talking about the other dude...check his closed thread in the Ob/Gyn forum.

 

[trustwomen]

I rather doubt that a female urologist is looking at one patient, going "Mmm, this guy is hung like a horse. Ooo la la!" Most of your docs are going to be married or in a stable relationship, and they've seen a thousand patients and their genitals. Again, I have no problem with patients preferring one gender or another (I like having a male PCP), but I don't like the misconception that an OB/GYN is going to be eyeballing up his patients like they're sex objects.

Tip for all you aspiring male gynecologists: when examining a patient (with no nurse present, to boot), please refrain from saying "just relax, baby" when she tenses up at the speculum insert.

This actually happened to me. The guy wasn't being especially creepy, but it was still... the wrong thing to say.

 

[YouDontKnowJack]

Tip for all you aspiring male gynecologists: when examining a patient (with no nurse present, to boot), please refrain from saying "just relax, baby" when she tenses up at the speculum insert.

This actually happened to me. The guy wasn't being especially creepy, but it was still... the wrong thing to say.

👍

did it make you emotionally uncomfortable? can you sue him for that?

 

[trustwomen]

👍

did it make you emotionally uncomfortable? can you sue him for that?

It did make me somewhat uncomfortable (mostly I felt patronized, not creeped out - he wasn't being lascivious, just a little too casual). Of course it would be ridiculous to sue him. (I'm assuming that was a joke? I'm Canadian, you see - we never sue and we often don't get jokes.)

 

[Droopy Snoopy]

WTF are you talking about, prowler? I don't remember the specifics, but looking at the dates, it looks like I responded to that specific post a few hours after it was posted. I don't think I've ever responded to a post on this or any other forum that was more than halfway down the page. However, since I do actually have a family and med school, I don't spend every hour of every day drooling on my keyboard reading and immediately responding to posts at SDN... evidently unlike some people such as yourself?
Let me get this straight, you actually went and looked to see all my other posts (oh, and such a multitude it is...what, maybe 12 or so?) out of context to make some determination that I'm a troll?
Dude, get a life. If you spend that much time in front of your PC, you probably are grossly overweight, so maybe try exercise? Just a suggestion.

Yeah, looks like he was talking about phobiaman or whatever and clicked on the wrong "quote" button. Way to overreact, though. I think it's written into the SDN bylaws somewhere that any thread over 50 replies will necessarily degenerate into this kind of thing, so no big deal. As far as the OB biz goes, the page linked below has a bunch of abstracts related to the issue. It seems that most patients don't have a preference, but when they do it is for a female OB, primarily due to the aforementioned expectation of empathy. Another factor seems to be experience. Since the longstanding "default" experienced, reputable physician is male owing to the fact that medicine is an historically male profession (http://www.ama-assn.org/ama1/pub/upload/images/373/internettable.gif), the end result is a nice balance and neither gender starving for clients. So it's maybe not as big an issue as it's popularly made out to be.

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/457787

 

[45408]

WTF are you talking about, prowler? I don't remember the specifics, but looking at the dates, it looks like I responded to that specific post a few hours after it was posted. I don't think I've ever responded to a post on this or any other forum that was more than halfway down the page. However, since I do actually have a family and med school, I don't spend every hour of every day drooling on my keyboard reading and immediately responding to posts at SDN... evidently unlike some people such as yourself?

Let me get this straight, you actually went and looked to see all my other posts (oh, and such a multitude it is...what, maybe 12 or so?) out of context to make some determination that I'm a troll?

Dude, get a life. If you spend that much time in front of your PC, you probably are grossly overweight, so maybe try exercise? Just a suggestion.

Ok, hijacking this thread now for one post, but you started it, so whine away if you dont like it.

What if "it" responds to a post directly in a thread? Is that a troll? Is that why you don't respond directly, but sit on the sidelines, taking a quote out of context that was directly related to something Prowler said about ME? I guess if the only way to not be a "troll" ("oh no! not that! my world will now collapse because some ****** on a forum called me a troll") is to quote out of context and not either directly respond or STFU, then guilty as charged. That would make me a troll.

Maybe we should define "troll:" 1) It can be a person who posts to inflame and incite.... OR 2) a person who is addicted to a forum (as in "trolling" the forums).
I'd say with the latter definition, your 1k posts and prowler's 4.7K posts definitely have me beat in the troll dept. In fact, I don't see how anyone could even have 4.7 posts here. Over, say, 5 years thats what? About 3 posts per day? Sorry, but that's sadly pathetic.

I wouldn't even be surprised if you're actually prowler with a different login to keep the number of total posts from 5700 (adding in your extra 1k) down to only 4700, and appear to give him/you some type of validity for those double-team agreements. Well done. You rock and are oh-so-non-trollish now in my book. And that matters. No really, it does.

Who pissed in your Cheerios today? I WAS AGREEING WITH YOU. I was saying mrphobiaman seems like a troll. I can't see why my post count concerns you so much (and no, DoctorFunk is an M2 at my school - feel free to browse through our MCW class thread and discern that for yourself). I'm not sure how 5 posts a day would take up "every hour of my day drooling on the keyboard" and therefore, I must be obese. God forbid I take study breaks from anatomy lab and biochemistry.

 

[MDDOWhatever]

Who pissed in your Cheerios today? I WAS AGREEING WITH YOU. I was saying mrphobiaman seems like a troll. I can't see why my post count concerns you so much (and no, DoctorFunk is an M2 at my school - feel free to browse through our MCW class thread and discern that for yourself). I'm not sure how 5 posts a day would take up "every hour of my day drooling on the keyboard" and therefore, I must be obese. God forbid I take study breaks from anatomy lab and biochemistry.

Sorry. LOL. You kinda did quote me there though, so I thought you were talking to me. My bad, and I'm disengaging the photon torpedoes now. 🙂

My apologies sincerely submitted to you and DoctorFunk.

 

[45408]

Sorry. LOL. You kinda did quote me there though, so I thought you were talking to me. My bad, and I'm disengaging the photon torpedoes now. 🙂

My apologies sincerely submitted to you and DoctorFunk.

I've had bad experiences with photon torpedoes. 😳

I quoted you to agree that his name was aptly chosen (phobiaman) but that he seemed like a troll as well. Carry on.