mention that boyfriend also goes to same med school?

[kiwi09]

This might sound slightly silly/irrelevant but I have my first med school interview coming up next week at the same institution I attended undergrad. Because of this, a heavy percentage of the incoming class is from the undergrad institution, many of whom I know well, including my boyfriend.

I'm just not sure if when asked "why this school" I should mention him, he thinks I should (in addition to other reasons) because it lends a certain definitive reason to why I want to go there since we've been dating for awhile. Again this might sound insipid, but I think mentioning him might give interviewers the wrong impression in that he's a major reason for attending the school, not the specific school itself. I just dont know if mentioning him would be an asset or a hit.

Any speculative advice would be much appreciated 🙂

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[caseofthemndays]

If he was a husband I'd say go for it. Boyfriend? It has less of a serious connotation. Maybe you could say you have a "great support network here at X school"

 

[Poliscidoc]

If he was a husband I'd say go for it. Boyfriend? It has less of a serious connotation. Maybe you could say you have a "great support network here at X school"

+1 agree

 

[Stratego]

I've heard of instances where using the word 'fiancee' helped, but 'boyfriend' won't help you. Having a great support system at the school is a good reason, but you should have more of an explanation than that. Bring in the school's mission, your personal interests, curriculum type, sudent-friendly faculty, ties to that part of the country/state, a researcher you'd like to stay with through med school, etc.

 

[flip26]

Just say you have "close friends" at the school and leave it at that...

 

[Kneige]

Hmm..I was in a similar predicament. Fiance's part of the reason why I want to stay in the same city. I ended up deciding to be honest and mention if it came up. But it didn't even though I was wearing the ring and all. I decided to mention him cuz being in a committed relationship would let the interviewer know somehow that you have a good support system. At another school, I said it explicitly- that I will be fine in med school cuz I have a fiance who is very supportive. The interviewer congratulated me and I was accepted =) Best of luck!

 

[Medmon]

I wouldn't personally think it plays that big of a role. If they arent going to accept you, saying your fiance/boyfriend is there won't change their mind unless you are (maybe) right on the cusp. If they are going to accept you, its icing on the cake I guess?

 

[njbmd]

If he was a husband I'd say go for it. Boyfriend? It has less of a serious connotation. Maybe you could say you have a "great support network here at X school"

I've heard of instances where using the word 'fiancee' helped, but 'boyfriend' won't help you. Having a great support system at the school is a good reason, but you should have more of an explanation than that. Bring in the school's mission, your personal interests, curriculum type, sudent-friendly faculty, ties to that part of the country/state, a researcher you'd like to stay with through med school, etc.

This is the best that you can hope for in terms of answer for this question. Personally, I wouldn't let the word "boyfriend" come into the conversation during an interview. You will come off as a "flake".

Just say you have "close friends" at the school and leave it at that...

I would not mention "friends" at the school but as Stratego pointed out above, you need to flesh out your reason for attending the school more than your social needs.

 

[JJMrK]

IMO, it's a pretty reasonable thing to add to a list of reasons that you'd like to attend the school. It should probably be the last thing on this list, too.

 

[learnmdabc]

After listing the other reasons...tagging on a "And it doesn't hurt that my boyfriend goes here..." I think that's reasonable.

 

[MacVA]

I wonder if a "my fiancee is a resident at your med school" would work... 🙄

 

[kami333]

This is the best that you can hope for in terms of answer for this question. Personally, I wouldn't let the word "boyfriend" come into the conversation during an interview. You will come off as a "flake"

I've started referring to my girlfriend as "partner" instead because of that reason.

 

[J ROD]

I would not mention it. It is not their business and I would hope there are other things at the school that interest you...besides the "boyfriend"!

 

[flip26]

I would not mention "friends" at the school but as Stratego pointed out above, you need to flesh out your reason for attending the school more than your social needs.

My reply was not meant as the only thing one would mention in response to the question "Why our school?" But I see no harm in mentioning that you know people in the school, but I would never play the "boyfriend" card thinking that would help the cause...

 

[mmmcdowe]

I would only consider saying this if it is a long term relationship (like maybe a couple years or more) and if you are seriously considering marriage or a similar partnership.

 

[FIREitUP]

I would only consider saying this if it is a long term relationship (like maybe a couple years or more) and if you are seriously considering marriage or a similar partnership.

👍 make sure you express its a serious relationship.

 

[caseofthemndays]

good reason to get him to propose to you... 😉

 

[zetabetazeta]

good reason to get him to propose to you... 😉

👍

 

[kami333]

good reason to get him to propose to you... 😉

I'd say the opposite, it's a terrible reason. It should be for personal reasons, not to fulfill some arbitrary societal expectation.

For reference, my gf and I have joint bank accounts, joint credit cards, have each others POAs, and am moving together 2000miles since her PI transferred, and we still see no reason to get married just because we're "expected" to.

 

[Shinobiz11]

In my opinion,DO NOT mention your boyfriend. What sense does it make to say "I want to stay at this school because my boyfriend still goes here.", then what happens when you break-up (not saying you will 🙂 ) then what will your reason be for staying here. Just a thought I had,doesn't mean anything.

 

[bannie22]

i like how in american society boyfriend/girlfriend is something very trivial 🙂

 

[kiwi09]

thanks for everyone's feedback! yes, i mean we've been dating for 3 years so regardless its not trivial, but I think I agree with many of you, it may be better not to mention it explicitly. I agree, if he's mad about it, he can just propose (haha kidding!)

thanks again!

 

[OpalOnyx]

i like how in american society boyfriend/girlfriend is something very trivial 🙂

hahaha we can blame the short-lived ones that set the standard 😛

 

[red10]

thanks for everyone's feedback! yes, i mean we've been dating for 3 years so regardless its not trivial, but I think I agree with many of you, it may be better not to mention it explicitly. I agree, if he's mad about it, he can just propose (haha kidding!)

thanks again!

I'm probably going to mention being in a serious 4 year relationship in my "what ties to the state do you have" question on a secondary. It's mostly because I have no other real ties to that specific state other than my boyfriend hopes to get his PhD there. I intend to word it very very carefully though because my interest is in the school itself not just it's proximity to my bf.

 

[Sammich117]

I agree with those who are saying it's best to leave out. Some people could take it as you wanting to go there for the wrong reasons. Fiance/husband would be a different story. I would focus on the other reasons you like the place and really, really show them you want their school.

 

[dukemed22]

In what way would you want to bring this up? I mean, I wouldn't say something like "this school is my top choice because my boyfriend goes here" or whetever. But you could definitely say something along the lines of "I have some very close friends that go here, and they have told me a lot about (some unique aspects of the school), which I am really interested in..." This could show that you've really tried to get to know the school or whatnot...

 

[LizzyM]

In what way would you want to bring this up? I mean, I wouldn't say something like "this school is my top choice because my boyfriend goes here" or whetever. But you could definitely say something along the lines of "I have some very close friends that go here, and they have told me a lot about (some unique aspects of the school), which I am really interested in..." This could show that you've really tried to get to know the school or whatnot...

👍