MY Shadowing Experience

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[PinknGreenMD]

I thought you said....

Clearly you did find it aggravating, but maybe it gave you a little perspective. Yes, I would consider a forum where people think twice before posting self-serving threads a better place.

You're welcome to the last word, if you want it.

Well.. Here it is:

There was no point in anyone responding with such negativity in the first place. This board is supposed to help others and inspire others, not degrade others and put others down. We are all working towards the same goal of becoming a healthcare professional in whatever field we choose.

There is no need to consistently take a positive thread and try to misconstrue it to something totally different. If someone reads a thread and takes away from it that the other person is "bragging" that only means that person is insecure.

I am not responsible for holding someones hand and helping them be less insecure, thats what their mother is for. I am here as a peer to share my stories, read your stories and learn to make myself a better applicant based on others experiences.

If you are here to just deter other away from posting (which is what you all do every single time you HARASS people that posts things) then you all are MISERABLE MISERABLE people that need to take a step back and look in the "pretty" mirror and re-evaluate YOURSELF instead of trying to call out others.

That is NOT your job. YOU are NOT hired to do that.You are not being PAID to HARASS others. If you dont like a post, you dont HAVE to respond. Nobody can force you to not respond but if you do, you should, as a human being, want to lift up and encourage others instead of putting them down.

Hopefully all of you insecure little ones are not like this in real life..This is ONLY a message board for pete's sake. read a bible or SOMETHING to relieve stress if you are that upset about it.

 

[VisionaryTics]

I thought you said....

It wasn't a word, it was a picture. Maybe you should spend more time in class and less time shadowing.

 

[PinknGreenMD]

It wasn't a word, it was a picture. Maybe you should spend more time in class and less time shadowing.

OOH BUURRN..

And you are a medical student, posting on a pre-med forum and telling a pre-med student to not shadow? And that is productive and encouraging how??

Way to go Med Student you provide a not so GREAT example of how we should all strive to mentor others.

Why are you not reading your powerpoint slides or studying or something.

You should help to encourage others how they could also gain valuable shadow opportunities and give pointers to those wanting to go to medical school instead of saying not to shadow and participating in bashing others.

 

[Doctor Strange]

Admittedly, this board can be caustic at times, but take a step back and look at what you wrote. Several people have pointed out that it seems like you are bragging instead of making a meaningful contribution to the board. While you may not think that you are, you are getting feedback and criticism that you are simply ignoring and are instead justifying your point of view by labeling everyone else as insecure and jealous.

It's like talking about how you aced an exam in front of your friends and trying to make it seem "okay" by saying that you hope it inspires them to do better. Your intentions may be good, but you're unintentionally coming off as a humble brag. An attitude like this gets you eaten alive in medical school and especially when it comes to evals during rotations. Nobody likes a humble brag, even if it may not be on purpose.

Take the feedback you've gotten and tone it down a bit.

 

[PinknGreenMD]

......... Several people have pointed out that it seems like you are bragging instead of making a meaningful contribution to the board....

I appreciate your concern, your tactful response and your clarity on the post. And for that I thank you.

However, these "Several People" as you have mentioned are people that CONSISTENTLY HARRASSES people on this board. If someone posts something they dont like, they turn it around and make the ENTIRE thread negative on purpose. Its so silly and so not what the SDN was intended for. I swear it used to be soo much encouragement but now it seems these people are looking for anything to try to put someone down for and I wont take it. Im not in control of how someone else takes something that someone has said. They can either take it negatively or positively .. they can think the person is bragging or just telling about an experience. The way they take it is up to them. But if they always think someone is bragging that is a mental thing that I have no control over. They have to handle those things within themselves.

Thank you for your kind words and suggestions 😍 (not fake)

 

[VisionaryTics]

OOH BUURRN..

And you are a medical student, posting on a pre-med forum and telling a pre-med student to not shadow? And that is productive and encouraging how??

Way to go Med Student you provide a not so GREAT example of how we should all strive to mentor others.

Why are you not reading your powerpoint slides or studying or something.

You should help to encourage others how they could also gain valuable shadow opportunities and give pointers to those wanting to go to medical school instead of saying not to shadow and participating in bashing others.

This is not productive or encouraging to me. This is not what SDN should be for.

😍😍😍😍😍

 

[PinknGreenMD]

There was no point in anyone responding with such negativity in the first place. This board is supposed to help others and inspire others, not degrade others and put others down. We are all working towards the same goal of becoming a healthcare professional in whatever field we choose.

There is no need to consistently take a positive thread and try to misconstrue it to something totally different. If someone reads a thread and takes away from it that the other person is "bragging" that only means that person is insecure.

I am not responsible for holding someones hand and helping them be less insecure, thats what their mother is for. I am here as a peer to share my stories, read your stories and learn to make myself a better applicant based on others experiences.

If you are here to just deter other away from posting (which is what you all do every single time you HARASS people that posts things) then you all are MISERABLE MISERABLE people that need to take a step back and look in the "pretty" mirror and re-evaluate YOURSELF instead of trying to call out others.

That is NOT your job. YOU are NOT hired to do that.You are not being PAID to HARASS others. If you dont like a post, you dont HAVE to respond. Nobody can force you to not respond but if you do, you should, as a human being, want to lift up and encourage others instead of putting them down.

Hopefully all of you insecure little ones are not like this in real life..This is ONLY a message board for pete's sake. read a bible or SOMETHING to relieve stress if you are that upset about it.

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[Doctor Strange]

I appreciate your concern, your tactful response and your clarity on the post. And for that I thank you.

However, these "Several People" as you have mentioned are people that CONSISTENTLY HARRASSES people on this board. If someone posts something they dont like, they turn it around and make the ENTIRE thread negative on purpose. Its so silly and so not what the SDN was intended for. I swear it used to be soo much encouragement but now it seems these people are looking for anything to try to put someone down for and I wont take it. Im not in control of how someone else takes something that someone has said. They can either take it negatively or positively .. they can think the person is bragging or just telling about an experience. The way they take it is up to them. But if they always think someone is bragging that is a mental thing that I have no control over. They have to handle those things within themselves.

Thank you for your kind words and suggestions 😍 (not fake)

In today's word of memes, Reddit, 9gag, and the like, this is what you should more or less expect. This is what internet culture has become, and there's no use in trying to change it or other people. Do keep in mind that the vast majority of users on this board are not *******s in real life and are not out to personally attack you or bring you down. It's just very easy to fall into the habit of coming up with a sarcastic comment to criticize something you find objectionable. We are all guilty of this at one point or another.

The best thing to do is take the humble route, because you're never going to win an internet squabble. Never. Ever. Ever. Look past the sarcasm and negativity, accept that you may have erred, and, most importantly, don't start attacking others in retaliation. In their eyes, you've turned something that was meant to be a light sarcastic jab at a post they found silly into a personal attack on their character.

It's the internet. It's life. Live and learn.

Etc. etc. etc.

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[kyamh]

Im not in control of how someone else takes something that someone has said. They can either take it negatively or positively .. they can think the person is bragging or just telling about an experience. The way they take it is up to them. But if they always think someone is bragging that is a mental thing that I have no control over. They have to handle those things within themselves.

I have stayed out of this, pretty amusing exchange, but I need to make something clear.

OP, out of everything said on this thread, I think the part that I quoted is the most misguided.

You live in a society of other people. Moreover, you are looking to enter a service profession where you have to work with and communicate with people every day. In order to succeed, you need to change your attitude. Sure, you may not have meant something or maybe someone misunderstood your words. The answer is not to get defensive or to blame others.

As an adult, it is your responsibility to manage the responses of others to the things you do and say. While you have no control over what someone may think as a result of something you said, the appropriate response is to take ownership of what you are at fault for - not communicating effectively. If someone misunderstood you then it is their job to try and see your perspective in the future but it is likewise your job to change the way you communicate such that you are clear in the future.

If your patients misunderstand you, it's not going to be their fault, it will be your fault for not communicating well.

To bring up an age-old example: if you upset someone, you don't apologize for the fact that they are upset or that they are 'touchy', you apologize for the fact that what you said upset them. Even if you didn't mean to upset anyone, it's still your fault that you did. Learn from it.

 

[Ismet]

Closing thread.

Feel free to use the "ignore user" function for those users who bother you. Click on their user name next to the post and select the "ignore user" option. This will hide their posts from your view.