Need for personal space

[OpalOnyx]

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I am wondering if I'm the only one who feels this way. My med school class is a very close knit group and everyone's pretty nice (which is great) but sometimes I feel kind of claustrophobic or boxed in by so many people and their opinions and the talking. It's a bit too close for comfort at times. I think I need to be better at setting boundaries and giving myself space from others. Anybody else been through this or have ideas/advice? I've enjoyed the summer off and was just thinking about this since second yr is about to start soon...

 

[aSagacious]

Don't attend lectures as often? Study on your own more frequently?

 

[OpalOnyx]

Don't attend lectures as often? Study on your own more frequently?

Dude I checked your md applicants thing. Mainly I was thinking who's this premed posting to my question and he's not even in med school yet. But I just wanted to say, your application looks really good and best of luck to you this year!

 

[aSagacious]

Dude I checked your md applicants thing. Mainly I was thinking who's this premed posting to my question and he's not even in med school yet. But I just wanted to say, your application looks really good and best of luck to you this year!

😳 Thanks much appreciated. I tend not to post in the allo forum for this reason, but your question seemed straightforward enough. 😛

 

[swamprat]

Don't attend lectures as often? Study on your own more frequently?

Why r u giving advice about something you know nothing about?

 

[PinkIvy08]

I think everyone feels like this at some point or a another, and to varying degrees. For me, I found that not going to class or campus helped a lot. I studied at places I knew only a few med students frequented. Things also got much better once we got pass the required labs. I vote for making my house my home - it's nice and comfy and a break from everyone else.

 

[aSagacious]

Why r u giving advice about something you know nothing about?

I'm sorry, I didn't know that only medical students knew how to interact with their peers. 🙄

 

[swamprat]

I'm sorry, I didn't know that only medical students knew how to interact with their peers. 🙄

Yeah cause your advice was ingenious the OP def never considered that before.

 

[aSagacious]

Yeah cause your advice was ingenious the OP def never considered that before.

No need to harass the lowly pre-med. To be fair, a medical student (PinkIvy) basically reiterated what I said (more articulately). It's not like I was being malicious or snarky.

 

[MrBigglesworth]

i would suggest maybe switching studying places every now and then. if there is an undergrad library, maybe try spreading your wings there.

 

[swamprat]

No need to harass the lowly pre-med. To be fair, a medical student (PinkIvy) basically reiterated what I said (more articulately). It's not like I was being malicious or snarky.

Yeah sorry I'm in a bad mood today.. theres no damn snacks in my apartment and I just went food shopping wtf was I thinking.. theres 3 hours of TV on tonight.

 

[brandonh4]

Yeah cause your advice was ingenious the OP def never considered that before.

I smell a jerk. You just had to belittle him - you couldn't do what everyone else did (ignore it)... you needed to make sure he knows he's an idiot. Can't wait to meet you in residency...

Anyways, OP, try not attending lectures as often. Or try studying on your own more frequently.

 

[aSagacious]

Yeah sorry I'm in a bad mood today.. theres no damn snacks in my apartment and I just went food shopping wtf was I thinking.. theres 3 hours of TV on tonight.

Ah, now here's a topic that I can give advice on. 😀 Inexpensive and tasty.

 

[swamprat]

Yeahh I prefer chips or popcorn or something so I can keep eating it.. I mean 1 granola bar and ur like ehh open another wrapper and eat another? Not as snacky of a food IMO.

I smell a jerk. You just had to belittle him - you couldn't do what everyone else did (ignore it)... you needed to make sure he knows he's an idiot. Can't wait to meet you in residency...

Anyways, OP, try not attending lectures as often. Or try studying on your own more frequently.

Did I say idiot?

 

[aSagacious]

I smell a jerk. You just had to belittle him - you couldn't do what everyone else did (ignore it)... you needed to make sure he knows he's an idiot.

Did I say idiot?

I assure you I'm not offended. I'm quite used to high-schoolers and college freshmen sharing their words of wisdom regarding med school admissions so I know the feeling... which is why I encourage everyone to refrain from pulling the trigger based on the title under someone's name.

To the OP, it is important to set social boundaries with your classmates. You should be able to have a professional relationship with someone without necessarily befriending them. In other words you needn't attend every weekly bar crawl with your classmates but on occasion it would be a kind gesture to participate in a social function in order to stay on good terms. The same could be said with group study sessions, etc.

 

[TheRunner]

I am wondering if I'm the only one who feels this way. My med school class is a very close knit group and everyone's pretty nice (which is great) but sometimes I feel kind of claustrophobic or boxed in by so many people and their opinions and the talking. It's a bit too close for comfort at times. I think I need to be better at setting boundaries and giving myself space from others. Anybody else been through this or have ideas/advice? I've enjoyed the summer off and was just thinking about this since second yr is about to start soon...

This really has nothing to do with medical school. Unfortunately, there are irritatingly talkative people all over the world. If people are talking to you too much and you would like for them to stop, just don't talk to them. Seriously. Practice emanating this "Go the F away" vibe. Grow a long beard. When people ask you a question, stare at them for 10 seconds prior to answering. I promise you people will leave you alone. Then you can do your own thing without the burden of social interaction.