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[MommyMedStudent]

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Hey all! I am a 30 yr old student with two kids that I homeschool. I am in my 2nd yr of undergrad going full time. I am undeclared for my major but I do want to go on to medical school after I get said degree. I just recently took Bio I and got a D in lab =O( I have gotten all A's and B's to this point. It has really given my confidence a blow. I would just like a support group of other mom's that are facing the same challenges as me, balancing husband, school, and kids.

Thanks! 😀
Samantha

 

[BuSyDaZe]

Hey all! I am a 30 yr old student with two kids that I homeschool. I am in my 2nd yr of undergrad going full time. I am undeclared for my major but I do want to go on to medical school after I get said degree. I just recently took Bio I and got a D in lab =O( I have gotten all A's and B's to this point. It has really given my confidence a blow. I would just like a support group of other mom's that are facing the same challenges as me, balancing husband, school, and kids.

Thanks! 😀
Samantha

Hi Samantha and welcome! 😀

I totally understand the difficulty of balancing life as a mom, wife, student, work, etc. I went through many of the same dilemmas as well. I did not always get the best grades I knew I was capable of. I would say to try and figure out what works for you and your family, and find ways to balance your daily tasks while keeping your sanity intact. Whether it be with a daily log or seeking outside help with course or housework. I stayed home for a while when my kids were first born and did everything myself. So when I went back to school to complete undergrad, I had a difficult time adjusting to the feeling of having to seek outside help. I sometimes felt like I wasn't doing my best. I had to realize it was okay to seek tutoring or allow family to help out with the kids. Women sometimes take on the role of trying to be a sort of superwoman, all the while forgetting to take care of herself as well. Don't get too stressed out and worry too much about that grade (I know it's easier said than done, but I have been there. It shall too pass.) Just try to do your very best from here on out and look into tutoring, a study partner or help from the professor. Much success and I'm here if you need me.🙂

 

[Prncssbuttercup]

Ugh, don't have kids, but I've had a D, or two... 😉 Retake the course as soon as it's feasible. Find out where you went wrong with the studying, you said you had As/Bs til that point, did you feel that you didn't need to study for this course?? Not trying to be harsh, just trying to figure out what went wrong... At any rate, there are plenty of parents on here, moms and dads both... So you should be able to find people to give you a boost when you need it 😉 There are plenty of people on here who can support you, not just moms... 😉

 

[BuSyDaZe]

Ditto, this is a very supportive and informative forum.

 

[MommyMedStudent]

Thank you so much! I am really trying to balance everything and doing trial and error to see what works and what doesn't. I just like to know that I'm not the only person in college struggling! haha

Thank you for offering support, it is much appreciated!
Samantha

 

[MommyMedStudent]

Well there are several reasons I didn't do well in this class; 1. I don't like Biology (ha!) so I honestly didn't study as much as I needed because I don't enjoy it. 2. After failing the first test I think in my head I was defeated and it just kind of went downhill from there. 3. The professor and I did not see eye to eye and he was one of those teachers that could care less if you get the material or pass the class. It really was just a disaster all around. I am retaking it this summer .... with a different teacher 😉

Thank you for your support, I actually feel kind of odd complaining about a D but I have a tendency to compare myself to others and most others that I talk to say, "Oh I've NEVER failed a class" or "I haven't gotten anything below a C" it just kind of makes me feel like a failure. And you are right, I usually don't have to study that much for class to get A's and B's and this class wasn't the case. I have taken A&P I and II and for some reason I didn't have to study for that class much, however I am glad that I did have a class that broke me of that early in the game 😉 So I am grateful for my D even though it stresses me out.

Sorry this turned into a novel =O) Thanks again!

 

[Prncssbuttercup]

Good grief, I have an F that will never go away... Analytical chemistry... my grandmother died in the middle of the course, and the prof failed me by invoking a 'missed too many class periods' rule... As in most days meet 2x for lab/lecture, and it was over Easter so her funeral wasn't until the following week, so I missed Friday, Mon, Tues, Wed... he said I missed more than 7 class periods... DONE... Failed... didn't even have the ability to withdraw or get an incomplete...

 

[MommyMedStudent]

That's awful =O( I always pray for good professors because I feel that it really does weigh on your grades to a point. =/

 

[Prncssbuttercup]

It most certainly does!!! I know if the F comes up in an interview, or something else, at least I have an explanation... if they ask why I didn't retake it, my two reasons are, it never fit into my schedule again, and the same professor taught the class until after I graduated... Either way, most of the people in the non-trad forum have had their share of bad grades 😉 some more than others... but if you're ever feeling badly, read the underdog acceptance thread... 😀

 

[StudyShy]

Definitely retake the class with a different teacher. Study hard and remain confident. 🙂

 

[Pons Asinorum]

I don't like Biology (ha!)

Can't tell if that's meant to convey sarcasm or self-deprecation. Do you not like biology? Do you think that the answer to that question is going to help or hinder you on the path to becoming a physician? I hope I'm not killing the helpful vibe of this thread, but I think another thing for which this forum is useful is helping people truly get to the bottom of where their desires and abilities can give them the best chance at success. If you don't like biology, keeping the motivation needed to plow through the pain will be more difficult to muster. Not impossible, but there are enough difficulties to the path to MD/DO without having to battle a distate for learning the material that will consume years and years of your life. Regardless, best of luck.

 

[zebalong]

Well there are several reasons I didn't do well in this class; 1. I don't like Biology (ha!) so I honestly didn't study as much as I needed because I don't enjoy it. 2. After failing the first test I think in my head I was defeated and it just kind of went downhill from there. 3. The professor and I did not see eye to eye and he was one of those teachers that could care less if you get the material or pass the class. It really was just a disaster all around. I am retaking it this summer .... with a different teacher 😉

Thank you for your support, I actually feel kind of odd complaining about a D but I have a tendency to compare myself to others and most others that I talk to say, "Oh I've NEVER failed a class" or "I haven't gotten anything below a C" it just kind of makes me feel like a failure. And you are right, I usually don't have to study that much for class to get A's and B's and this class wasn't the case. I have taken A&P I and II and for some reason I didn't have to study for that class much, however I am glad that I did have a class that broke me of that early in the game 😉 So I am grateful for my D even though it stresses me out.

Sorry this turned into a novel =O) Thanks again!

I wouldn't feel odd complaining about a D... too much of those and your chances of med school dec. drastically.

I understand how tough it is to study for something you aren't interested in, but that is something you'll need to learn to do, and learn quickly before you get any more "bad" grades. Learn to study hard for everything you do and you'll set yourself up not only to succeed as a pre med but also as a medical student.

People who think that once they are getting to med school that they'll enjoy everything they will study because it is "toward their goal of helping people" are sadly in for a rude awakening once they are here. Learning small anatomy details or different allosteric activators/inhibitors of the kreb cycle/glycolysis is not exciting to say the least.

I hope you take this opportunity to learn from it and better yourself. I also have a hard time with comparing myself to others.. and in medical school it has been all that much harder since the people here are not only smart but also very hard workers.

Its hard with children and a family while rocking everything in school, it'll be even harder in medical school and unfortunately it doesn't make a valid excuse if you don't do well in your classes. I promise whatever you are going through now it will be a LOT more intense in med school so get your habits in gear now and learn to thrive no matter what the material is/how bad your professor is/what other things you have going on in your life.

Good luck.

 

[MommyMedStudent]

Thanks for your replies! =O))