I agree there are many ways that "provider" is undermining the important position that physicians hold in the healthcare team relative to other valued team members.
Sadly, I find myself using it, because it's gotten too confusing who is providing the care.
"So, take this prescription to your doctor..."
"I don't have a doctor."
"How about a primary care provider?"
*makes a face*
"A PCP?"
*makes a face*
"A physician's assistant?"
*makes a face*
"A nurse practitioner?"
*makes a face*
"NP? PA? Is there someone you see for regularly, like if you get a cold or something?"
"I never go to the doctor."
"But if you HAD to....Like, who did your insurance assign? Who referred you here?"
*makes a face*
*I make a face*
"I think my doctor is a PA. One of those."
"JFC, whoever usually refills these meds!"
I'll even be talking to student who should know better, and say "You could talk to your psychiatrist about this." "I don't have a psychiatrist, I see a counselor." "Well, your doctor then." "I don't have a doctor, I have an NP."
FFS. Please just get the frak out of my face and go see whatever quack you see.
Frak it. Next time I'm just going to say, provider.