Hey I am a long time member but decided to have a 2nd alias for tough questions like this. I am specifically asking this in the pharmacy forums, mostly because I would like real and mature feedback, which the pharmacy users are more capable of than the others!
I've been in a serious relationship with a girl, lets call her Jamie, for three years. We are both 20 years old and have been dating since our junior year of high school. Now, we attend same-state colleges and try to see each other often. Now, assuming that you believe me when I say she is perfect and have literally no reason to ever want to date anyone else, let me explain the situation.
Jamie told me a few days ago that she wants a break. Her decision came out of nowhere since I didn't feel any kind of negativity leading up to it. Her reasoning is that we have been dating since 16, and she came from a prior relationship starting at 15. So for the past 5 years, she has never been single, and now as a sophomore in college, she wants to be able to "enjoy her youth" before settling down and embracing the real world. I, of course, do not feel this way. But as much as I don't want to be on a break, I am willing to understand her point of view. She is more outgoing than me with living on campus, SGA, sorority, friends, etc. On the other hand, I live at home to save money, and don't have much time to socialize other than with Jamie due to a full time job and focusing on grades for applying to pharmacy schools. So naturally I should be understanding that she has more opportunities to explore herself and other people, whereas I don't really care about meeting new girls since it's not a priority.
Jamie says she is not actively looking for guys, but if an opportunity arises, then she does not want to be tied down. (She is not a huge partier or drinker...she is not "that girl"...but she is just genuinely eager to meet and socialize). I think she is looking for flings instead of another boyfriend to replace me. She says she loves me as much as I love her, and the best case scenario is us coming back together and getting married. But she wants to know that our love is the true thing, instead of a product of a high school crush. She wants to have new experiences, and even compare them to see how great of a couple we are, which we have always been a solid couple...(again, we have great communication, sharing feelings, never tempted to cheat, etc etc etc. so had no idea this was coming to me!)
I am starting pharmacy school this autumn, and I would love to have Jamie back. I truly think she is perfect for me, but I know I should be open to the fact that there are other fish in the sea. I am hoping the break won't last long and she will come back to me satisfied with her choice, but I should also be prepared for the worse. What should I do? Look for other girls? Wait for her until it's officially over, if it comes to that? Do I want to know if Jamie starts seeing another guy? Or will that create hard feelings if we do come back together?
Sorry for the long post, and thanks for listening. Any constructive feedback appreciated.
I've been in a serious relationship with a girl, lets call her Jamie, for three years. We are both 20 years old and have been dating since our junior year of high school. Now, we attend same-state colleges and try to see each other often. Now, assuming that you believe me when I say she is perfect and have literally no reason to ever want to date anyone else, let me explain the situation.
Jamie told me a few days ago that she wants a break. Her decision came out of nowhere since I didn't feel any kind of negativity leading up to it. Her reasoning is that we have been dating since 16, and she came from a prior relationship starting at 15. So for the past 5 years, she has never been single, and now as a sophomore in college, she wants to be able to "enjoy her youth" before settling down and embracing the real world. I, of course, do not feel this way. But as much as I don't want to be on a break, I am willing to understand her point of view. She is more outgoing than me with living on campus, SGA, sorority, friends, etc. On the other hand, I live at home to save money, and don't have much time to socialize other than with Jamie due to a full time job and focusing on grades for applying to pharmacy schools. So naturally I should be understanding that she has more opportunities to explore herself and other people, whereas I don't really care about meeting new girls since it's not a priority.
Jamie says she is not actively looking for guys, but if an opportunity arises, then she does not want to be tied down. (She is not a huge partier or drinker...she is not "that girl"...but she is just genuinely eager to meet and socialize). I think she is looking for flings instead of another boyfriend to replace me. She says she loves me as much as I love her, and the best case scenario is us coming back together and getting married. But she wants to know that our love is the true thing, instead of a product of a high school crush. She wants to have new experiences, and even compare them to see how great of a couple we are, which we have always been a solid couple...(again, we have great communication, sharing feelings, never tempted to cheat, etc etc etc. so had no idea this was coming to me!)
I am starting pharmacy school this autumn, and I would love to have Jamie back. I truly think she is perfect for me, but I know I should be open to the fact that there are other fish in the sea. I am hoping the break won't last long and she will come back to me satisfied with her choice, but I should also be prepared for the worse. What should I do? Look for other girls? Wait for her until it's officially over, if it comes to that? Do I want to know if Jamie starts seeing another guy? Or will that create hard feelings if we do come back together?
Sorry for the long post, and thanks for listening. Any constructive feedback appreciated.
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