Partner and I received interviews at the same school

[taquitolord]

So my partner and I have been lucky enough to receive an interview from the same T10 school. When we applied we didn't mention our relationship since there never was a spot on this particular schools app but would it be alright for us to mention during our LOI/Update letters or should we mention during the interview itself? Just don't know what the best way to present this info might be. Any thoughts?

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[Mr.Smile12]

So my partner and I have been lucky enough to receive an interview from the same T10 school. When we applied we didn't mention our relationship since there never was a spot on this particular schools app but would it be alright for us to mention during our LOI/Update letters or should we mention during the interview itself? Just don't know what the best way to present this info might be. Any thoughts?

Congratulations. You may have missed a question about "anything else you want the admissions committee to know?" It would have been appropriate to include it there. Regardless, you can both send a note to the admissions team.

That said, I hope you appreciate this advice (others may disagree): choose different interview dates. You want to be evaluated on your own merits, and you both should look independently at the school/program to make sure you both get consistent messages. You can also exchange notes from one interview and come up with additional questions for the other interview. You don't want to make a big deal about being a "couple" for admissions decisions.

ADDED: Think how awkward it is if your parents come with you to your interview. Granted it won't be the same awkward, but it could be awkward.

 

[Moko]

So my partner and I have been lucky enough to receive an interview from the same T10 school. When we applied we didn't mention our relationship since there never was a spot on this particular schools app but would it be alright for us to mention during our LOI/Update letters or should we mention during the interview itself? Just don't know what the best way to present this info might be. Any thoughts?

I would wait until at least one of you gets in before letting them know about your relationship. One exception would be if your partner or their family lives in the area, that is something that could be mentioned to show why you might pick their school over others. Just my thoughts.

 

[taquitolord]

Congratulations. You may have missed a question about "anything else you want the admissions committee to know?" It would have been appropriate to include it there. Regardless, you can both send a note to the admissions team.

That said, I hope you appreciate this advice (others may disagree): choose different interview dates. You want to be evaluated on your own merits, and you both should look independently at the school/program to make sure you both get consistent messages. You can also exchange notes from one interview and come up with additional questions for the other interview. You don't want to make a big deal about being a "couple" for admissions decisions.

ADDED: Think how awkward it is if your parents come with you to your interview. Granted it won't be the same awkward, but it could be awkward.

Thank you so much I'll make sure we don't do so! Appreciate the advice. As we continue to look at other schools and receive interview invites separately, should we mention our relationship to other schools in LOIs or hold off on mentioning this unless we receive interviews from the same school?

 

[AJS59]

Thank you so much I'll make sure we don't do so! Appreciate the advice. As we continue to look at other schools and receive interview invites separately, should we mention our relationship to other schools in LOIs or hold off on mentioning this unless we receive interviews from the same school?

Not entirely sure how it works with couples applying to med school but wondering if it may operate similarly to "couples matching" in residency. I would think that unless you think there's no chance you'd go to separate med schools and you'd be willing to both reapply I don't think it makes a lot of sense to hitch your destinies together.

 

[taquitolord]

Not entirely sure how it works with couples applying to med school but wondering if it may operate similarly to "couples matching" in residency. I would think that unless you think there's no chance you'd go to separate med schools and you'd be willing to both reapply I don't think it makes a lot of sense to hitch your destinies together.

Absolutely agree; completely open to the high probability of attending different schools in different locations but want to understand what the best way to present our situation if that's even feasible

 

[Rachapkis]

As Mr. Smile notes, it's appropriate to send a note mentioning your situation to the school. However, I don't think that your relationship status will factor in a material way into their decision (as it might if you were a Nobel Laureate who wanted them to consider your trailing spouse as a professor). Medical schools--particularly Top 10 schools--have all the leverage in this situation.

 

[taquitolord]

Hi, so sorry to reopen this but I'm planning on sending an update letter and including this information in there to this school post-interview. To confirm: should I wait to send this till my partner has completed their interview? I will definitely be communicating this but just don't know what the optimal timeline should look like

 

[wysdoc]

Hi, so sorry to reopen this but I'm planning on sending an update letter and including this information in there to this school post-interview. To confirm: should I wait to send this till my partner has completed their interview? I will definitely be communicating this but just don't know what the optimal timeline should look like

I think you can do it as soon as your partner has interviewed. Good luck!