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In my Virology course, a guy in the class came up to me on the second day of class and asked if I could send him my notes thus far.

I did.

However, I apparently misunderstood. He seems to want my notes...for every class....even though he is there himself. I found this out when he sent an email to me tonight in response to the first email I sent him containing my notes. The email read - "Just a reminder on the notes 😉"

How would any of you handle this? It just irritates me, for some reason, that he wants my notes after every class. I have no problem supplying someone with notes from class if they can't make it one day. But every day? When they're there themselves? And what put it over the top was when he "reminded" me in the email to send him the most recent copy of notes....

Would this bother anyone else?
 
Cwc127 said:
In my Virology course, a guy in the class came up to me on the second day of class and asked if I could send him my notes thus far.

I did.

However, I apparently misunderstood. He seems to want my notes...for every class....even though he is there himself. I found this out when he sent an email to me tonight in response to the first email I sent him containing my notes. The email read - "Just a reminder on the notes 😉"

How would any of you handle this? It just irritates me, for some reason, that he wants my notes after every class. I have no problem supplying someone with notes from class if they can't make it one day. But every day? When they're there themselves? And what put it over the top was when he "reminded" me in the email to send him the most recent copy of notes....

Would this bother anyone else?
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Yes, it would bother me. I can't imagine how he thinks your notes are going to help him if he's there anyway.
 
tell him to suck it. You're not his b*tch. He's lazy and using you and if you let him you're as dumb as he is.
 
I think it'd be annoying. He should be doing his own work. Just send him back an email with your "fee." Set a rate (I suggest something a good $1-2 above minimum wage) and tell him you are happy to comp the first day's notes but that any further days he has already used will also require payment before receiving notes for future lectures. Also charge him a 24-hr turnaround fee if he wants notes from each day's class before the next class. You could let him know that in future semesters, if he pays you for the whole semester up-front before the end of the first day of class, you also offer a 10% discount.
 
He's interested in you, not your notes. The notes stuff is just an excuse.
 
apumic said:
I think it'd be annoying. He should be doing his own work. Just send him back an email with your "fee." Set a rate (I suggest something a good $1-2 above minimum wage) and tell him you are happy to comp the first day's notes but that any further days he has already used will also require payment before receiving notes for future lectures. Also charge him a 24-hr turnaround fee if he wants notes from each day's class before the next class. You could let him know that in future semesters, if he pays you for the whole semester up-front before the end of the first day of class, you also offer a 10% discount.
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Sounds like the perfect solution to me
 
Some people are worth helping. Others aren't. Decide this for yourself.
 
lolwhat?

a stranger comes up to you asks for your notes and you agree?

was he your friend atleast?

what a sketchy fellow.
 
longhorn09 said:
He's interested in you, not your notes. The notes stuff is just an excuse.
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interested in you would be: hey can you tutor me? i'm worthless at this stuff. lets have coffee and review together

interested in your notes would be: hey can you take notes for me for the entire semester? kthanksbye
 
Cwc127 said:
In my Virology course, a guy in the class came up to me on the second day of class and asked if I could send him my notes thus far.

I did.

However, I apparently misunderstood. He seems to want my notes...for every class....even though he is there himself. I found this out when he sent an email to me tonight in response to the first email I sent him containing my notes. The email read - "Just a reminder on the notes 😉"

How would any of you handle this? It just irritates me, for some reason, that he wants my notes after every class. I have no problem supplying someone with notes from class if they can't make it one day. But every day? When they're there themselves? And what put it over the top was when he "reminded" me in the email to send him the most recent copy of notes....

Would this bother anyone else?
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At my school if someone can't attend classes or take notes due to a handicap/disability then he/she can request notes BUT there has to be a note dictating this AND you get paid a stipend at the end of the semester for submiting your notes in everyday. But this guy is just taking advantage of you and even when he's there he wants the notes. Tell him that "Oops, I zoned out" or something similar. You are supposed to be responsible in college and this guy is anything but. Charge him fees, LOL!
 
Sharing notes can actually be pretty beneficial, especially if the professor doesn't provide any, because you can see what other people thought was important, which is (un)surprisingly often very different from what you took away from the lecture. However, it doesn't sound like you're actually getting anything out of this, so I don't know why you'd bother.

I have to say though, the story sounds kinda weird unless you know this guy from before the class, in which case are you friends or is there some sort of expectation because he helped you in another class? I mean, if it's just some random guy, which is how you make it sound, how would he even know your notes were worth getting, and why would you say yes?
 
Dear d-bag,

No.

Best regards,
Cwc127
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Honestly, tell him it was a one-time deal and he should seek the help of his other classmates or probably the professor if he has trouble taking notes during class. He might have learning disabilities, but I'm guessing he's just a jackass.

longhorn09 said:
He's interested in you, not your notes. The notes stuff is just an excuse.
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That's a lame way to get a girl's attention and a sure-way to drive them away. Seriously, guys, be more creative and less as$hole-ish.
 
WOW u guys are all terrible..honestly wth...ok he could've went about about in a better way perhaps but let's say he just wants to make sure he doesn't miss anything...It's just NOTES not that big of a deal. I always share my notes, I find that it's just common courtesy and really doesn't cost me anything. I also know other people who charge people for it...honestly just disgusts me to no end
 
Send him what you have so far with the request to get a copy of his too.

PS, if you are worried about him getting a better grade than you he wouldn't be asking you for your notes if that was going to happen.
 
rowerontheriver said:
I have to say though, the story sounds kinda weird unless you know this guy from before the class, in which case are you friends or is there some sort of expectation because he helped you in another class? I mean, if it's just some random guy, which is how you make it sound, how would he even know your notes were worth getting, and why would you say yes?
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It's just some random guy.

He sits directly behind me in class. I take notes on my computer, and after the second day, he came right up to me after class and asked if I could send him all my notes thus far. His reason?

"It looks like you take good notes." And he said something else about not being able to write quickly enough...or something...I didn't really listen. I didn't care. I just took the email he gave me, and left. And, later on, I then sent him the notes from the first two days as he requested.

However, as I mentioned, apparently he wants an updated copy of my notes after every class. I did not know this until he conveniently "reminded" me tonight to send him my notes.
 
Cwc127 said:
It's just some random guy.

He sits directly behind me in class. I take notes on my computer, and after the second day, he came right up to me after class and asked if I could send him all my notes thus far. His reason?

"It looks like you take good notes." And he said something else about not being able to write quickly enough...or something...I didn't really listen. I didn't care. I just took the email he gave me, and left. And, later on, I then sent him the notes from the first two days as he requested.

However, as I mentioned, apparently he wants an updated copy of my notes after every class. I did not know this until he conveniently "reminded" me tonight to send him my notes.
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Just continue being a good person and send the notes like I said above it's not a big deal esp since you take them on your computer. As someone mentioned above you can ask him to send what he has too. Maybe you should also try to approach this with a friendlier attitude, this guy my not be that wierd ******* that everyone is hinting at.

I'm done with this thread but I just love how judgemental everyone seems to be on SDN. The guy asked her for NOTES that are on her computer as is. /rant
 
Cwc127 said:
It's just some random guy.

He sits directly behind me in class. I take notes on my computer, and after the second day, he came right up to me after class and asked if I could send him all my notes thus far. His reason?

"It looks like you take good notes." And he said something else about not being able to write quickly enough...or something...I didn't really listen. I didn't care. I just took the email he gave me, and left. And, later on, I then sent him the notes from the first two days as he requested.

However, as I mentioned, apparently he wants an updated copy of my notes after every class. I did not know this until he conveniently "reminded" me tonight to send him my notes.
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You seem like a pretty down-to-earth, non-confrontational sort of person like myself. Here's how I would handle it.

Send an email back to him - just be like, 'hey, I have no problem sending you the notes for a few lectures, but in all fairness, I put in a lot of effort to make personalized, good notes - and I'm not too comfortable sending it for every class especially since you are there yourself."

You can re-word it, but it's definitely possible to handle this in a dignified way without resorting to name-calling as others have suggested here.
 
Personally I'm a bit paranoid of being 'mooched' off of, and would wonder if this kid would stop taking his notes all together to rely on mine, which I wouldn't be cool with. But if you could work something out, like maybe he would come up with a study guide, or practice questions, so that it is equal work... Or get to know the guy a bit, maybe he is really just a nice guy who really has problems taking notes quickly and isn't trying to use this as a way to slack off.

Honestly, if his email just read "Just a reminder on the notes 😉" without a thanks or acknowledging that you are doing something, it strikes me the wrong way, especially if this wasn't an expectation from the start. I'm all for helping people, but once people start feeling entitled, it pisses me off. What sort of vibe do you get from him?
 
OP, did the email only read "Just a reminder on the notes 😉"? If so, his tone is pretty d-baggish to me. He could have said it ANY other way, like "I hope this isn't too much to ask but do you mind sending me your notes from each class? I'd be happy to share whatever I have with you too. Thanks, I appreciate it." It's pretty simple to write a polite message.

I guess to be fair, just clarify what he wants, whether he really does want to collaborate with you or just flat out wants to use you for your note-taking skills. It's not being mean. It's being smart.
 
if he can't take notes fast enough he should invest in a tape recorder.
 
:laugh: Oh hellllll no.

$ or Cya.

(If it were my friends, different story. I frequently send out study guides prior to the exam to my friends that ask...but never daily notes unless one of my friends missed class or something)
 
His email read - "just a reminder on the notes (insert winking smiley face here)"

And then, "thanks in advance".




I don't know...the whole "just a reminder" deal really rubbed me the wrong way...
 
At least he said thanks...I guess? But yeah, the "just a reminder" part and the stupid winky face would have thrown me off too. Just see what he really wants. Don't call him a d-bag, though, even though you don't seem like the person who would. That was just me expressing my frustration with these type of people in general.
 
I've never heard of anyone demanding daily notes. The only logical explanation is what someone else said, that he's into you. The "just a reminder" thing may have been his lame attempt to be cute/flirtatious. Maybe he thinks you like douchebags. If he's not interested in you then he really IS just lazy and you should tell him that you work hard on your notes and you don't feel comfortable giving them to him.
 
red10 said:
if he can't take notes fast enough he should invest in a tape recorder.
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Exactly what I do. I only request notes if I miss the class COMPLETELY (not being there). And it is not unreasonable to have to look at your notes for five minutes for comparison (missing details, or even words, makes it hard to understand) if he attends class but to have whole copies of notes seems over the top. Just my opinion though.
 
DarwinA said:
Soooo one guy sends another guy an e-mail with a WINKY FACE?!
Well that threw me off. Interesting....
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Yeah...

He is foreign, if that makes a difference...BUT, his English is more than sufficient.
 
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Cwc127 said:
Yeah...

He is foreign, if that makes a difference...BUT, his English is more than sufficient.
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Hmm... maybe he believes your race, ethnicity and/or nationality (i.e., American) is inferior to his and, therefore, he is simply reminding you of your proper place in his world (in which case, the P.C. thing to do would be to put your head between your legs and submit to his beliefs, since they are his beliefs, which makes them completely valid and immune to any questioning, above reproach). ...Or he just lacks any sense of appropriate manners in this culture -- although I am a bit hard-pressed, at the moment, to think of a culture where demanding something of someone is considered appropriate (at least without some sort of pre-existing familial [or other] relationship).
 
Boo.🙁 I usually don't let others use my notes, primarily because they would think that i'm some kind of psycho lunatic. My notes are generally riddled with random expletives for when I get frustrated or a couple of doodles in the margin. When I have enough room on my paper you can find a grocery list/to do list/rough draft of a study schedule that I won't follow/work out plan, rough GPA calculations, repetitions of my signature etc...If you can sift through all that nonsense, you're worthy of my knowledge.
 
Cwc127 said:
I'm a guy...
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I seriously LOL'd.

But yeah...unless he has an incredibly amazing explanation for his behavior, he still seems like a d-bag to me. :shrug:

Cwc127 said:
Yeah...

He is foreign, if that makes a difference...BUT, his English is more than sufficient.
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Maybe in his culture, it's normal to winky face another guy and not have it be awkward? This doesn't qualify as an incredibly amazing explanation, though. I think I'm being too judgemental off of too little information. I'll stop now. Just work it out...and report back to us.
 
Yeah, this situation would bother me, especially if I got that reminder email. You can always ignore the email. If he asks you in person, say "i forgot", "i dont check my email often", or "i delete strange emails"
 
How hard is it to copy/paste into email? I think maybe 30 seconds. In the end, he would be indebted to you or he is oblivious that he is using you with no consideration. Why not just be nice and he might send you like a $50 thank you card at the end of the semester or something. If nothing else, you can tell him in a few days that your car is in the shop or something and you need a ride somewhere just to test his appreciation. At least give the guy a chance to return the favor to you in a couple weeks rather than to get advice from SDN which seems like exacerbation of a misunderstanding. Ask him to borrow $20 or something, lol. Don't see the glass as half empty as others are encouraging you to do! 😛
 
SketchsaurusRex said:
Boo.🙁 I usually don't let others use my notes, primarily because they would think that i'm some kind of psycho lunatic. My notes are generally riddled with random expletives for when I get frustrated or a couple of doodles in the margin. When I have enough room on my paper you can find a grocery list/to do list/rough draft of a study schedule that I won't follow/work out plan, rough GPA calculations, repetitions of my signature etc...If you can sift through all that nonsense, you're worthy of my knowledge.
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:laugh:. I'll draw animals, stars, fruit, and greek letters (the ones I know from Pchem and physics) in my margins. If I'm feeling especially creative, I'll whip out a different colored pen and color the pictures in.
 
He just wants to get to know you. biblically
He wants a study parter and he's using your notes as an audition tape. Or look at it this way, The 1st time you gave him notes it was your primary app, 2nd time was your secondary app...pretty soon you're going to get AN INTERVIEW:soexcited:
 
apumic said:
I think it'd be annoying. He should be doing his own work. Just send him back an email with your "fee." Set a rate (I suggest something a good $1-2 above minimum wage) and tell him you are happy to comp the first day's notes but that any further days he has already used will also require payment before receiving notes for future lectures. Also charge him a 24-hr turnaround fee if he wants notes from each day's class before the next class. You could let him know that in future semesters, if he pays you for the whole semester up-front before the end of the first day of class, you also offer a 10% discount.
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hilarious-also, an annoying kid in my anthropology class did this kind of repetitive asking me to send him the recordings of the lectures (i bought one of those ipod plugins for a recorder)...it was really annoying and I never did it
 
Ask him if he parks in the handicapped space also. He has a note taking impediment.
 
FloatOn said:
....He could have said it ANY other way, like "I hope this isn't too much to ask but do you mind sending me your notes from each class? I'd be happy to share whatever I have with you too. Thanks, I appreciate it." It's pretty simple to write a polite message.
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personally, i agree with this.

they're just notes, and people should be giving and willing to serve and share with and help others, yes. but some people are users because they know they can manipulate or they are being willfully lazy and know they can get someone else to do the work, and they have a feeling of entitlement. it depends on you to decide which you think this person is. personal annoyance aside, if the person is like that then are you really serving them best by giving into them or by politely extricating yourself from the situation? if they're like FloatOn's alternative post when it really comes down to it, then that might be different, but it's hard for us to decide that here.
 
Change a bunch of the facts to make them wrong before sending to him. If hes smart enough to know that your notes suck, he won't ask for them again. If hes dumb enough to follow it religiously, that is his fault. This will also help lower the curve 🙂
 
Just take it as a compliment. You are obviously smarter than him. If someone asked me for my notes I would be like "Wow, my notes are that good?" Or maybe it's just my low self-esteem...
 
You're not his mother or his girlfriend. Therefore, you can leave this dude in the dust.
 
I do not understand why this is an issue.

Not helping him isn't about being a cutthroat pre-med, its about not being an enabler.

You gave him an inch and now he wants a mile. This only goes down one road and its of no benefit to you.
 
I charge $100/hour with a one hour minimum, and we're on the clock 2 days ago.
 
I'd personally send him the notes the first couple of days but if he did that whole "reminder" thing on me, I would be seriously pissed. You aren't even his friend. I would happily let a friend borrow my notes every class (at least if I knew that they needed them legitimately and not just cause they're too lazy).

I would then send him notes a couple of times after that but of a much worse quality (missing content etc.). Not because you want him to fail, but so that he can realize that he can't depend on you for notes. Then just zone it out with "oh, i barely paid attention in class, can you actually explain that part to me"? He'll realize that you are absolutely useless and won't depend on you.

I'm all for helping others. But not for working for them while they sit on their lazy behinds probably with wandering minds. You're a classmate, not a slave.

good luck with the situation!
 
Even if you were a girl, I wouldn't think he's trying to get to know you. He's trying to use you. He's of the same mindset as a few replies above--you take notes on your computer, so it's no big deal to just email them to him, right?

Well, you take tests right in front of him, so it's no big deal to just check your work and make sure his is the same, right?

I normally would not take such offense, but that followup email is really rude and unappreciative. I would respond with something short and blunt like:

Hi x,

I don't feel comfortable sharing my notes after every class. Maybe the professor can help you if you have trouble keeping up.

-Your name

He's not your friend so you have nothing to lose from treating it like any other business relationship--he's demanding a valuable service without offering any thanks or compensation? Screw him. Don't waste your time and DON'T feel guilty for not doing his work for him. He's a college student and he needs to learn how to do this for himself one day.
 
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