LOL, well I'll let you know when I see that happen. And that's not only a bad owner, but a gross human being. But that's pretty far from the norm.
I didn't say I was bothered by it, I said it's a violation of the health code. I don't know many people who sit down to eat in a supermarket. If it's an upscale place where food is being served and seating is available, then sure, it'd be against the health code there too. We shopped in Waldbaums, it's not a dining establishment.
It sounds like your argument is "small dog owners are more responsible than other dog owners and that bad small dog owners are rare." I don't buy either of those arguments. I would say that dog owners violating codes would quickly negate the first one. The second one...I would say that size of dog owned doens't reflect a good or bad owner, that there are much better parameters than size of dog.
I agree that allowing a dog to soil its home, whether that is a carrier, crate, room, house, etc, is gross. I will also note that it is one of the top complaints that pets are surrendered for and one of the biggest issues that trainers are hired to assist with. How often do we still hear the advice of 'rub the dog's nose in it' which is horrifically gross. The idea that ONLY responsible owners would carry dogs around everywhere doesn't make sense.
As for grocery stores...there are some stores that don't provide any open foods: no salad bar or served foods, including sandwhiches and pastries made at the store, no sample trays or deli sections. No meat packaged on site. Where I am, that tends to be IGA's. Maybe I would understand in those situations, but if it violates code...then it violates code, so it isn't fair to others who shop in that environment expecting that they won't be exposed to pet dander.
As noted above, I would prefer that our country was more like many places in Europe, and dogs were able to be left near stores without fears of people stealing them or harming them or just generally being obnoxious to them. We don't live in a place like that, so I honestly believe that if I take my dog about in a carrier (I do own a 4 lb chihuahua) then I am making the decision that I don't get to enter starbucks, or grocery stores or other places that don't allow dogs. It is a decision I make the moment I decide to carry a pet with me. When I have one of my SAR dog around, who is often providing a service, I still avoid exposing people to her that have every reason to believe they are in a dog free environment.
I think of it this way: if I don't respect the health codes and notices, why should I expect others to respect me and my dog and not do things like give it toxic foods, poke fingers into its carrier, or otherwise?