Pharm Students with Relationships

[fairyofsong]

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Hey guys--

I know I'm not the ONLY Pre-Pharm/Pharm student with a serious relationship. Just wondering how everyone keeps everything (ie school, relationship, recreation etc) together? Have you been able to find enough time to have a serious or developing relationship? Just curious..

 

[jacst3r]

i'm currently in a serious and committed relationship. i do find it difficult to joggling between relationship and school especially if your partner is not in the same field. to me i think time management is the biggest problem. but i do believe if you work things out with your partner and you're both understanding of each other's situation everything would work out with some effort put into it. i guess it'll be worse if you have kids and go to school at the same time.

 

[aubieRx]

I don't want a serious relationship until I have graduated because serious relationships are distracting and often painful. HAving said this, I am sure God is going to deliver me 3 kids and a husband before i know what has hit me.

I have the time for one but not the emotional resources for one .

 

[ultracet]

Well... I'm in a serious relationship and have been throughout pharmacy school...

most of my class is...

mine currently is 600 + miles away so i don't really have that much of a problem
the main problem for us is the long distance thing

 

[ilovepharmacy]

I agree on the part that its difficult if you and your S.O. are in different fields. My bf graduated with a business degree three years ago and is constantly working/going on business trips. I am always involved with school. And both of us are big on spending time with our family/friends. So, our relationship kind of falls.... in the middle of it all We just sit with our schedules each week and plan a week at a time. Some weeks it turns out that we can see each other 3-4 days and other weeks its 0 days. It takes a getting used to - but its a good system for us, because it gives us something to look forward to and well, we strike a good balance overall 🙂 Although this appears to kill any hope for planning for the future, every semester we set aside a few weekends or any weekdays for any trips or things we want to do (see a musical, concert, etc.). I think it is also dependent on how busy each person is - if there is an imbalance I think it would become frustrating and it would lead to the less busier partner blaming the busier partner with something along the lines of, "you never have time for US!" And believe me, this happens every once in a while! I'm just worried about how pharm school in the fall will affect our relationship - I just can't imagine

 

[BMBiology]

ilovepharmacy- don't worry too much...there is no cute guys at usc pharmacy; you guys are safe! 😉

 

[ilovepharmacy]

ilovepharmacy- don't worry too much...there is no cute guys at usc pharmacy; you guys are safe! 😉

No its more like..... there are NO guys at usc pharm I wish the ratio would even out already!

 

[jacst3r]

i think the relationship tends to run smoother if you get your priority done before spending time with each other. i tried to spend a lot of time with my bf to a point that i'd put my study asside but i just ended up getting all stressed and irritated when i'm around him because i'm constantly worrying about my studies. we ended up fighting all the time despite all the time i tried to spend with him. now i try getting my school work out of the way first before spending time with him and i am a lot more cheerful and relaxed.

 

[avengerboater2]

that's why I broke up with my gf while applying to pharmacy schools... 🙁

 

[jjunyi83]

I guess it's time management..
we see each other on weekends and phone call during week days

 

[endlesslove]

My boyfriend and I have maintained our relationship (3 years and strong) during my 3 yrs of study at UC Berkeley as a Molecular and Cell Biology major--450+ mile separation. He works as a network engineer down south. It is pretty difficult but after a while, we get used to it...until little things on campus remind me of him (one time, this guy walked into my lecture with the SAME cologne that my boyfriend wears, ahhhh! I SO wanted to hug him but then again, I didn't want to freak the guy out, lol). Anyway, both of us stay pretty active--my best way of 'forgetting' him is studying at the library 😛. We talk everyday and try to see each other once (over a weekend period) every 4-6 weeks and it has worked out beautifully for these past 3 years. There are advantages and disadvantages to this long distance relationship--I ALWAYS have something to look forward to before he comes but it's always so sad when the weekend is over (I cry and beg him to stay). But yeah, staying active is the key to managing it all.

As for pharmacy school, he said he'd follow me anywhere I go (which is very nice) but the good thing is that I ended up just 2 hours away from home. We SERIOUSLY considered living together during my 4 yrs but have decided to live separately (but nearby) for several reasons, mainly b/c as much as I love him, I want my own time away from him where I can build very very close relationships with the other 59 pharmacy students. Also, stress (not little stress but the combination from school, work, domestic chore, girlfriend, and everything else) can destroy relationships--ever heard of the saying if you want to remain best friends, you better not live together? yeah, until we have been dating for 6 years, I don't think this kind of stress is good.

Just remember that ANYTHING is possible with careful time management and deep commitment.

 

[fairyofsong]

Nice to hear from everyone.. I'll put in a note about my personal situation. My bf and I have been together for 5 years and have grown very close. We do want each other in our lives in the future, the only thing is, as nice as it would be, he can't exactly go where ever I end up for pharmacy school. He is committed to begining a business and therefore is forced to remain in one place. We have went through the whole application process and I am convinced that what is meant will certainly work out. I have a lot of faith in us, he claims he is a bit more realistic than me, which keeps us balanced I suppose.

I guess I was just questioning wether you guy (or pharmacy students mainly) are able to focus on school during the week and study then, and have the weekends for other things such as a relationship?

And one other thing, for the people who believe they will "choose" to remain uncommitted or not get into anything serious during pharmacy school, keep in mind that sometimes things just happen and the "right" person may walk into your life BEFORE "you had planned". 🙂

 

[nikkai]

I'll give my 2 cents (I hope my opinion's worth that much... =) )

I will have been dating for 4 years come June. I graduated as a bioengineering major so needless to say I was studying almost every day for several hours a day. I also worked and was very active in my church. I was and am fortunate that my girlfriend is extremely supportive of my studying - she knows that I am doing this with the goal of being the main breadwinner in our family (she also understands that this is my dream) =).

Yes, I didn't get to spend much time with her, but during the times that I did, I made sure she knew that I wanted to be with her as much as possible, but just didn't have that opportunity. I think that's what counts: Your attitude toward your S.O. Because it's pretty obvious in body language and speech how you feel. If you prioritize your own future w/o including them in it, it's very very evident in your impatience.

That being said, one of my professors told me this: Having a wife or girlfriend in post-graduate studies can be the best thing in the world or the worst thing in the world: It's really up to the S.O to be supportive in a situation like this. But we, who are going to be engrossed in pharm school, must let the other person know that we still think about them 24 hours a day. =)

PS: It kinda helps on my end that next year, my gf will hopefully be going to UIC OT school.

 

[aznpharmgurl10]

You guys that will have your S.O. following you when you attend pharm school are so lucky! My boyfriend, who has already made up his mind that he doesn't want to stay together through professional school, wants to go to dentistry school. It's so hard for me to deal with that, even though we're only sophomores in undergrad. Because of our schedules, we rarely get time to see each other (except in class), and he likes to spend time on his own to relax. I'm getting so worried about leaving for pharm school because I don't want things to end with us, even if there is a chance that we'll get back together after professional school... but seriously, what are the chances of that happening? I know he loves me and everything, but I don't understand why he's so against holding a relationship, if we would be going out for almost three to four years when we enter professional school. The thing that really sucks for me is that there is nothing that I can say or do that will make him change his mind. This topic is something that we rarely talk about because he knows that it makes me sad and he doesn't like to see me sad, but I feel that it's necessary for us to talk about this, especially as it gets closer to us applying for professional school. I know I still want to be with him, and I don't see anything happening between us during our years in professional school. Any suggestions on what I should do? Thanks.

 

[cjsdca]

I've been with my boyfriend for 9 long years since freshman year in high-school through college. We've been supportive of each other throughout, so I feel he'd be supportive through pharmacy. It's especially nice to have someone so close to you be able to provide comfort during those moments you need it most, especially through the stresses and pains of school/work. It's that kind of relationship that keeps us going... 😉

 

[irvinekatie]

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost 3 1/2 years and I've gotten used to seeing him everyday (literally). 🙂 It'll be very hard for us (esp. me) next year when we're going to be 350 miles away from each other. I personally don't believe in long distance relationship, but I have to now if I want to keep what I have 😳

 

[Vorkosigan]

You guys that will have your S.O. following you when you attend pharm school are so lucky! My boyfriend, who has already made up his mind that he doesn't want to stay together through professional school, wants to go to dentistry school. It's so hard for me to deal with that, even though we're only sophomores in undergrad. Because of our schedules, we rarely get time to see each other (except in class), and he likes to spend time on his own to relax. I'm getting so worried about leaving for pharm school because I don't want things to end with us, even if there is a chance that we'll get back together after professional school... but seriously, what are the chances of that happening? I know he loves me and everything, but I don't understand why he's so against holding a relationship, if we would be going out for almost three to four years when we enter professional school. The thing that really sucks for me is that there is nothing that I can say or do that will make him change his mind. This topic is something that we rarely talk about because he knows that it makes me sad and he doesn't like to see me sad, but I feel that it's necessary for us to talk about this, especially as it gets closer to us applying for professional school. I know I still want to be with him, and I don't see anything happening between us during our years in professional school. Any suggestions on what I should do? Thanks.

hmm, he loves you but want to be alone when he attend the professional school? In my opinion, i guess he is definitely put himself and his career ahead of the relationship. And he doesn't want to talk about it. Wether is because he doesnt want to see you sad( come on now) or just don't want to deal with it. Seriously, familiy and love one always come first before my career. To me i think its all just excuse. If i love my girl, i doubt my career will affect my decision wether i should stay with her or not. I know attend professional school is time consumming. but there many people who able to do both at same time. I think it's just a poor excuse for those who doesnt want to make the commitment. A good relationship isnt easy, if it's easy everyone will be in a good relationship. maybe he just not the one. and he feels that you arent the one for him. I hope what i said make some sense to you 😛 and you aren't offended. 😳 good luck.

 

[avengerboater2]

You guys that will have your S.O. following you when you attend pharm school are so lucky! My boyfriend, who has already made up his mind that he doesn't want to stay together through professional school, wants to go to dentistry school. It's so hard for me to deal with that, even though we're only sophomores in undergrad. Because of our schedules, we rarely get time to see each other (except in class), and he likes to spend time on his own to relax. I'm getting so worried about leaving for pharm school because I don't want things to end with us, even if there is a chance that we'll get back together after professional school... but seriously, what are the chances of that happening? I know he loves me and everything, but I don't understand why he's so against holding a relationship, if we would be going out for almost three to four years when we enter professional school. The thing that really sucks for me is that there is nothing that I can say or do that will make him change his mind. This topic is something that we rarely talk about because he knows that it makes me sad and he doesn't like to see me sad, but I feel that it's necessary for us to talk about this, especially as it gets closer to us applying for professional school. I know I still want to be with him, and I don't see anything happening between us during our years in professional school. Any suggestions on what I should do? Thanks.

This was the exact same situation I was in... except I was the guy in your story and my ex was feeling the same way as you. As someone who's been through that dillema, I'll just tell you that: If he doesn't want to stay with you, then it simply means that he doesn't love you AS much as you think he does (or would like him to)... otherwise, you guys wouldn't even HAVE this conversation because you two will work at it so hard just to stay together. I loved my ex, just not as much as she loved me. She wanted to stay together through our 4 years (she's going off to nursing school and me to pharmacy), but I know it wasn't possible... so I broke it off. The way I felt was: Better now than later.. so that both of us can heal, get closure, and move on to new things. The reason why I decided NOT to work at it with my ex was because I did not think it would work out, I could not forsee us being together down the road, and I didn't love her as much as she loved me to an extent where I would sacrifice everything just to be w/ her. So might as well end it now so that we won't take up any more of each other's time, we can use that time to heal, move on, and meet other people or whatever... rather than hanging onto something that we both know would not be. Just my 2 cents.

BTW... why is it that most of the replies to this thread are from girls? 😛

 

[adventurer]

Have you ever heard/seen that thing on Oprah "He's just not that into you"-a book written by a guy to tell women the hard truth, that we just don't want to see.
Not saying he doesn't care about you, but as several other posters have mentioned, if he wanted it to work out, it could. So...face the truth. If you are ok with a temp relationship (be honest) then go ahead and enjoy him for now.
I thought I could handle one myself when I was in a similar situation, but it was much harder to walk away and make that move when the time came. A few months after the breakup, I was so much happier than I had been the whole length of our relationship. It really takes a toll on you to be in an "unequal relationship". Good luck.

 

[nikkai]

You guys that will have your S.O. following you when you attend pharm school are so lucky! My boyfriend, who has already made up his mind that he doesn't want to stay together through professional school, wants to go to dentistry school. It's so hard for me to deal with that, even though we're only sophomores in undergrad. Because of our schedules, we rarely get time to see each other (except in class), and he likes to spend time on his own to relax. I'm getting so worried about leaving for pharm school because I don't want things to end with us, even if there is a chance that we'll get back together after professional school... but seriously, what are the chances of that happening? I know he loves me and everything, but I don't understand why he's so against holding a relationship, if we would be going out for almost three to four years when we enter professional school. The thing that really sucks for me is that there is nothing that I can say or do that will make him change his mind. This topic is something that we rarely talk about because he knows that it makes me sad and he doesn't like to see me sad, but I feel that it's necessary for us to talk about this, especially as it gets closer to us applying for professional school. I know I still want to be with him, and I don't see anything happening between us during our years in professional school. Any suggestions on what I should do? Thanks.

I agree with everyone above.

The general concensus: Drop him like he's hot.

If he doesn't want to deal with it, then why stretch it out any longer? You're bound to meet someone else that is a better match for you.

 

[rxforlife2004]

I dated one of my classmate and it didn't work out...broke up right in Valentine day and we were both heart-broken.... 🙁 oh well....life goes on and i have a life, so i'll take it as an experience 😉

 

[atlanta_pharm]

I'm dumping mine soon. Chicks are dime a dozen...lol. For the guys...with the money you'll be making....you'll be medium pimpin soon. Why bother with ppl that are attention ****** in a relationship? I can't tolerate that. You guys didn't work this hard to get to this point and then let someone ruin it did ya?

 

[rxforlife2004]

I'm dumping mine soon. Chicks are dime a dozen...lol. For the guys...with the money you'll be making....you'll be medium pimpin soon. Why bother with ppl that are attention ****** in a relationship? I can't tolerate that. You guys didn't work this hard to get to this point and then let someone ruin it did ya?

This is not very nice to say about girls....isn't it? 😕

 

[nikkai]

I'm dumping mine soon. Chicks are dime a dozen...lol. For the guys...with the money you'll be making....you'll be medium pimpin soon. Why bother with ppl that are attention ****** in a relationship? I can't tolerate that. You guys didn't work this hard to get to this point and then let someone ruin it did ya?

I agree w/ the post above me. No tact at all, man.

 

[WVURxGal]

I had written a big, long post yesterday, but apparently it never showed up.

Am I the only one having a really easy time with my SO? WVUPharm2007 and I just got engaged a few weeks back, but we've been living together for nearly a year and haven't had problems. It would have been a long distance relationship (I use to live in Philadelphia) for breaks, but I basically told my family and friends that Philadelphia is no longer my home. Sure they're kind of mad at me, especially my father, but um, he'll deal? I hope so. Either way, I don't regret my decision. Last July, I realized I was totally miserable being so far apart that I moved back to Morgantown (where WVU is) so that we'd be 2 hours apart and not 8. I even got over my irrational fear of driving and got a driver's licence so I could visit whenever he had a day off 😉 I didn't even bother applying anywhere except WVUSoP, I figured if I didn't get in I'd just finish up my bachelor's and try again later. We both have time to study, and I don't think either of us feels smothered by being together all the time. 😍 I'm pretty sure moving in together year-round was the best decision I've ever made.

 

[atlanta_pharm]

I agree w/ the post above me. No tact at all, man.

Relax I wasn't serious. Why are some of you so damn uptight? It's not like I was picking on midgets. . You guys are lucky I wasn't elected Pope. Try laughing at my expense I don't mind. 👍

 

[kurisu]

Long distance relationships are hard to maintain but not impossible. Just dont be expecting them to be there all the time for every little thing. It just doesn't work that way in the real world. But if both ppl want it to work out then it can. Or just take the cop out and say u want to explore!

 

[njac]

Long distance relationships are hard to maintain but not impossible. Just dont be expecting them to be there all the time for every little thing. It just doesn't work that way in the real world. But if both ppl want it to work out then it can. Or just take the cop out and say u want to explore!

I agree with this. mr njac and I have been together for 2 1/2 years (we lived together the first 2, the last 8 months have been 8 hours apart)

we only get to see each other about every 3 months (both of our cars have >250K miles, plus getting time off work/school, money for plane tickets) but its working. One thing we'll do is meet somewhere, like vegas, and have a weekend just the two of us. It is hard, it was easier when he had internet (he currently doesnt) because I could multitask while IMing - now we spend way more time on the phone and it is difficult to get anything done while on the phone. Regardless, if you want to make it work you can. Sometimes I wonder if it is worth all of the trouble but then when I see him I know it is. 😍 /end sappy crap.

 

[young skywalker]

Its hard..
I think it's easier if you're not too involved in extracurricular stuff. The more extra stuff you do, the less time you have, the less time you have.......

 

[skp]

me 'n mrs. skp have been married for almost 2 years, and I wouldn't dare of going into something like pharmacy school without her.

(sappy enough for yeh?) 😉

 

[njac]

Its hard..
I think it's easier if you're not too involved in extracurricular stuff. The more extra stuff you do, the less time you have, the less time you have.......

see I think if you're in a long distance relationship its easier to keep busy. I find its hard to meet people just "out" or in classes if one is not "trolling for ass" as I so classily phrase it. Keeping busy is a great way to keep from dwelling in the overall suckiness of long distance relationships. I've got 2 jobs plus school and then hobbies and I think it has helped me maintain a marginal level of sanity I wouldn't otherwise.

 

[atlanta_pharm]

me 'n mrs. skp have been married for almost 2 years, and I wouldn't dare of going into something like pharmacy school without her.

(sappy enough for yeh?) 😉

Yeah that was sappy enough. Don't forget your skirt Mary I'm just jivin Kenny G. More power to those of you trying to make LDR "work." Relationships shouldn't be work though. But we all live and learn......

 

[kurisu]

Its hard..
I think it's easier if you're not too involved in extracurricular stuff. The more extra stuff you do, the less time you have, the less time you have.......

i have to agree with this. its good to have your own activities to do aside from your S.O. but don't fill your plate up with so much that you have NO time for your S.O. It's all about compromising and making adjustments. 🙂

 

[trishias]

I've been in a serious relationship with my "fiance" for eight years now. We've had our good and bad moments but what relationship doesn't. He's supportive and wants to retire when I finish school!!! But we bought a condo and making it work. It just takes commitment to make it work.

 

[ultracet]

Relationships shouldn't be work though. But we all live and learn......

While I typically agree with you...

have you ever been in a long distance relationship?

they are work.

that's all there is too it.

when i moved down here to pharmacy school my fiance moved to illinois for a job (we were both in knoxville TN)

i hopefully will be graduating next may (pending tomorrow's therapeutics test)

so my entire pharmacy school life has been in a long distance thing.

if anyone has any questions don't hesitate to ask

 

[skp]

good relationships = putting [hard] work into them

 

[skp]

good relationships = putting [hard] work into them

just call me Dr. Phil

 

[off2skl]

good relationships = putting [hard] work into them

Yes, relationships involve work, but for me it doens't feel like work. And if you have to work at it all the time, then that should be a warning.

Most of you are talking about dating relationships, which in many ways are more difficult as there is not a legal commitment and thus easier to walk away from.

And while there is another thread about marrying in pharmacy school and how the first three years of marriage are the hardest and to compound that with school would be very difficult; I want to add that it depends on each individual. I just celebrated my 2nd anniversary and am in my first year of pharmacy school and my husband is just finishing up his Master's. While it has not been a piece of cake, it has been that difficult either. The key is communication; which is important in all realtionships. It's hard to explain, but by beign married, we feel that my education is a combined effort; afterall, we will both be reaping the rewards afterward.

 

[afablej]

I've been with my S.O. for almost 5 and a half years now 🙄 i'm transferring to boston for pharmacy school while he is staying in NJ which is 4 hours away. honestly i'm having a lot of doubts lately, especially now that the time for me to leave is approaching. ...i know if we want to make it work, however, it will work, because we've gone through so much. he's finishing his degree in a year and half and then he is applying to law school, and hopes to get into one in Boston. whatever happens in the next year, is meant to happen, so I guess i'm holding my breath for now. We love each other a lot, and also to the point where we look out for each other's individual happiness.

about a year ago, we were having a talk, and i asked him "if you could leave, would you?" He said yes, and I ended up getting upset (but not at him). It turns out that I'm the one who is going to be leaving... life is funny sometimes. you really can't predict anything. but i know if we do stay together while i am in pharmacy school and while he's in law school, there will be a hell of a lot of support goin both ways...

good luck to all u lovebirds 😍

Yes, relationships involve work, but for me it doens't feel like work. And if you have to work at it all the time, then that should be a warning.

Most of you are talking about dating relationships, which in many ways are more difficult as there is not a legal commitment and thus easier to walk away from.

And while there is another thread about marrying in pharmacy school and how the first three years of marriage are the hardest and to compound that with school would be very difficult; I want to add that it depends on each individual. I just celebrated my 2nd anniversary and am in my first year of pharmacy school and my husband is just finishing up his Master's. While it has not been a piece of cake, it has been that difficult either. The key is communication; which is important in all realtionships. It's hard to explain, but by beign married, we feel that my education is a combined effort; afterall, we will both be reaping the rewards afterward.

 

[kellia]

i was married 3 months ago. my husband and i have been together for five years. it looks like i may be moving to MA while he stays in FL. we know that this will be hard, but also know that we are building a foundation for our future together. we knew this might happen, and we are taking it one day at a time. we are lucky to have such a good support system! we'll need it for a long distance marriage! lucky for me it is an accelerated program!! yay!

 

[atlanta_pharm]

While I typically agree with you...

have you ever been in a long distance relationship?

they are work.

that's all there is too it.

when i moved down here to pharmacy school my fiance moved to illinois for a job (we were both in knoxville TN)

i hopefully will be graduating next may (pending tomorrow's therapeutics test)

so my entire pharmacy school life has been in a long distance thing.

if anyone has any questions don't hesitate to ask

Yes I have been in a LTR. I was here and she was in NY attending nursing school. We were together over 2 years and we mutually decided it would be best to move on. She and I both missed the instant gratification of an embrace. The spur of the moment road trips together. The late night runs to IHOP or Denny's. But the thing we missed the most was being able to look into each others eyes when we said " I love you." People change as they get older. Their preferences change what they want in a SO. That's why I added the statement, "but we all live and learn." I lived it and learned from it. And there are those of you who will claim " oh it won't happen to me. My mate and I are meant to be together." I used to see the heart my ex and I etched into a tree at the park I USED to run in. I don't run there anymore.

 

[avengerboater2]

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I'm dumping mine soon. Chicks are dime a dozen...lol. For the guys...with the money you'll be making....you'll be medium pimpin soon. Why bother with ppl that are attention ****** in a relationship? I can't tolerate that. You guys didn't work this hard to get to this point and then let someone ruin it did ya?

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She and I both missed the instant gratification of an embrace. The spur of the moment road trips together. The late night runs to IHOP or Denny's. But the thing we missed the most was being able to look into each others eyes when we said " I love you." I used to see the heart my ex and I etched into a tree at the park I USED to run in. I don't run there anymore.

W..........T.............F.....?

Talk about personality changes...

 

[atlanta_pharm]

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W..........T.............F.....?

Talk about personality changes...

WTF dude are you laughing at my pain. F*cking A#shole.

Well I thought I would try the sensitive angle but it didn't work lol. That old dude from the eHarmony commericals is full of crap!! But I was in a LTR before but she was cheating (beep). The Ninja has Spoken.

 

[avengerboater2]

WTF dude are you laughing at my pain. F*cking A#shole.

Well I thought I would try the sensitive angle but it didn't work lol. That old dude from the eHarmony commericals is full of crap!! But I was in a LTR before but she was cheating (beep). The Ninja has Spoken.

LOL... chill out, man. I wasn't laughing at your pain. Haha. I was laughing at how you came across as a person w/ your first post, in comparison to how you came across with you other post. LOL. Take a chill pill, broham.

 

[ultracet]

ATL pharm: i agree that its hard but that's why it takes work.

inorder for LD relationships to last it takes an enourmous part of work from myself and my fiance...
he drives down here at least once a month (that is work for him)
i try to get studying and school stuff done before 9pm so i can talk to him (again work)
we both had to work on our communication (that literally is all you have)

i hate that your relationship didn't work
i honestly am suprised i was able to do it for as long as we have

 

[atlanta_pharm]

ATL pharm: i agree that its hard but that's why it takes work.

inorder for LD relationships to last it takes an enourmous part of work from myself and my fiance...
he drives down here at least once a month (that is work for him)
i try to get studying and school stuff done before 9pm so i can talk to him (again work)
we both had to work on our communication (that literally is all you have)

i hate that your relationship didn't work
i honestly am suprised i was able to do it for as long as we have

Yes ma'am. Well I hope it works out for you and everyone here. It's a good thing it didn't work out..she's an ER nurse....some nurses seem to be psycho..lol. They actually call her the angel of death 😳