Pre-Med Singles

[C.P. Jones]

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I'll be right there with ya if I keep this up. 🙁

People tell me college years are the 'golden' years of your life, or the 'dating years.' I read an article in my school newspaper discussing the difficulty of meeting new people outside of the university setting. Pretty interesting, and somewhat depressing actually.

take the chance then! don't make the same mistakes i made! (i don't actually think it's over once you grad. college, but i do think it takes a much more random event to occur since you don't have the opportunity to "set up" over a week or what not how you are going to approach someone in your class you see every other day)

 

[tank you]

have the opportunity to "set up" over a week or what not how you are going to approach someone in your class you see every other day)

omg, i totally do that before i want to meet a new girl. i thought i was the only one who planned stuff out in advance.

 

[C.P. Jones]

omg, i totally do that before i want to meet a new girl. i thought i was the only one who planned stuff out in advance.

many sleepless nights spent deep in figuring out the perfect, flawless way to go up to X girl 🙄

 

[OW415]

I plan sometimes too, somewhat unnecessarily elaborate schemes... I think it makes me seem desperate...indeed.

-giggity giggity

 

[tank you]

I plan sometimes too, somewhat unnecessarily elaborate schemes... I think it makes me seem desperate...indeed.

-giggity giggity

well the funny thing is, even though i make this long detailed plan of what im going to do, i always end up doing something totally different

 

[dopaminophile]

You all just wait for gross anatomy.... major crushes and sweet romances bud during late nights over a cadaver. It's weird, but true.

 

[Chris127]

Atleast you guys execute your plan. Mine fails the moment I walk into class 🙁

 

[Hurricane95]

Chris:
Dude...don't be scared of her. You will never know 100% if a girl likes you unless you try talking to her. Don't have a planned conversation or play scenarios out in your head or anything...thats just weird. Seriously, what's wrong with just talking to her? Don't be worried about "bothering" her...she came up to you first (meaning she's accessible) and if she's the type to be bothered simply by your attempt at conversation, then she's not the type of girl you want to get to know anyway...good thing you found this out early. If she's not nice, forget her and move on. Talk to her like you know her really well, like you would talk to one of your good friends. Tease her...not in a mean way, but in a joking fashion. Also throw in comments every now and then implying that you KNOW she likes you....tell her to stop hitting on you, because you're not easy. The trick is to be very confident and project confidence in everything you say and do. You're the man, period. You have nothing to lose. And have fun, just be yourself and you'll be surprised with the results. Whatever you do, don't kiss up to her...nice guys DO finish last, 98% of the time...being a "nice guy" is a sure-fire way of getting on her friends list fast. Don't ask her for permission for anything or if something is ok,...seeking approval is nice guy behavior. Don't do it. Be yourself. Trust me, once you've tried this a good number of times you'll realize that women don't bite (unless you're into that kind of thing, haha). They're more predictable than you think. Good luck. 👍

 

[USAFdoc2be]

Chris:
Dude...don't be scared of her. You will never know 100% if a girl likes you unless you try talking to her. Don't have a planned conversation or play scenarios out in your head or anything...thats just weird. Seriously, what's wrong with just talking to her? Don't be worried about "bothering" her...she came up to you first (meaning she's accessible) and if she's the type to be bothered simply by your attempt at conversation, then she's not the type of girl you want to get to know anyway...good thing you found this out early. If she's not nice, forget her and move on. Talk to her like you know her really well, like you would talk to one of your good friends. Tease her...not in a mean way, but in a joking fashion. Also throw in comments every now and then implying that you KNOW she likes you....tell her to stop hitting on you, because you're not easy. The trick is to be very confident and project confidence in everything you say and do. You're the man, period. You have nothing to lose. And have fun, just be yourself and you'll be surprised with the results. Whatever you do, don't kiss up to her...nice guys DO finish last, 98% of the time...being a "nice guy" is a sure-fire way of getting on her friends list fast. Don't ask her for permission for anything or if something is ok,...seeking approval is nice guy behavior. Don't do it. Be yourself. Trust me, once you've tried this a good number of times you'll realize that women don't bite (unless you're into that kind of thing, haha). They're more predictable than you think. Good luck. 👍

Oh wow, this made me ROTFL! I'm a 27 y.o. female and let's just say from a woman's perspective, at least one who's been out of college for awhile, this is very funny!

 

[Hurricane95]

It works doesn't it?
After all getting a girl to ROFL is the first step...so I guess so.

 

[Chris127]

Whats funny about it USAF? Inaccurate?

 

[C.P. Jones]

Whats funny about it USAF? Inaccurate?

i would also like to hear this insider's scoop 🙂

 

[deleted77919]

C.P. I see you are hanging out on the singles page, and you are interested in UConn . . . is there a correlation between the two? 😉

(for those not in the know, UConn is predominantly female, much to the chagrin of my female friends there).

 

[cfdavid]

Hurricane's right on. 100%

 

[Law2Doc]

Why do people panic over this issue...is there a law I don't know of that says med students can only legally date other med students? Date med students, date nurses, PA's, vet students, biochemistry graduate students, the secretaries at the admissions office, undergrads in the school, people at the local bar, etc...the sky's the limit, you dont have to limit yourself to your class.
Plus think about it, if you break up with your classmate significant other like in your first year, those last 3 years of med school will be reeeeaaaally awkward.

While there isn't a law, you will find that very few people outside of med school are as understanding or accomodating to the kind of time committment that doing well in med school involves. It will have to be a very special person who understands your frequent need to spend an entire beautiful weather weekend in the library, or the notion that there are weeks you simply may not have time to go out. Thus it sort of works out that a lot of the available med students likely date the other available med students.

 

[C.P. Jones]

C.P. I see you are hanging out on the singles page, and you are interested in UConn . . . is there a correlation between the two? 😉

(for those not in the know, UConn is predominantly female, much to the chagrin of my female friends there).

hahaha, good deduction! i always enjoy at UConn when they mention that they have a high female to male ratio, and then they say that it may be difficult for us males to get in.....but i think i'm okay w/ that, haha....JUST ACCEPT ME, PLEASE UCONN

 

[Pretty POHA]

many sleepless nights spent deep in figuring out the perfect, flawless way to go up to X girl 🙄

Don't PLAN just DO!
**imho, there is a fine line between "planning" and "stalking"**
😉

 

[Pretty POHA]

Chris:
Dude...don't be scared of her. You will never know 100% if a girl likes you unless you try talking to her. Don't have a planned conversation or play scenarios out in your head or anything...thats just weird. Seriously, what's wrong with just talking to her? Don't be worried about "bothering" her...she came up to you first (meaning she's accessible) and if she's the type to be bothered simply by your attempt at conversation, then she's not the type of girl you want to get to know anyway...good thing you found this out early. If she's not nice, forget her and move on. Talk to her like you know her really well, like you would talk to one of your good friends. Tease her...not in a mean way, but in a joking fashion. Also throw in comments every now and then implying that you KNOW she likes you....tell her to stop hitting on you, because you're not easy. The trick is to be very confident and project confidence in everything you say and do. You're the man, period. You have nothing to lose. And have fun, just be yourself and you'll be surprised with the results. Whatever you do, don't kiss up to her...nice guys DO finish last, 98% of the time...being a "nice guy" is a sure-fire way of getting on her friends list fast. Don't ask her for permission for anything or if something is ok,...seeking approval is nice guy behavior. Don't do it. Be yourself. Trust me, once you've tried this a good number of times you'll realize that women don't bite (unless you're into that kind of thing, haha). They're more predictable than you think. Good luck. 👍

Oh, and this is the best advice any guy has ever given any other guy. I mean, that I know of.
Make her laugh. I once had a really hot boyfriend that was a complete evil jacka$$. (and that's me being nice about it.) But I stuck with him because he made me giggle. Of course, after time a girl doesn't want the evil boyfriend any more, and then you have to be really nice to her to make up for being a jacka$$ all that time before.

NOT that I'm saying to be mean to the girl you want to talk to. Just don't worship her. Until after you've had sex with her. Then worship her. But before that, be confident and get her to start talking about herself. Everyone likes someone that lets you talk about yourself to them.

And if all else fails, well, then, there's always men. Because THEY'RE easy to figure out.

*wink*

 

[bubbleyum]

Chris:
Dude...don't be scared of her. You will never know 100% if a girl likes you unless you try talking to her. Don't have a planned conversation or play scenarios out in your head or anything...thats just weird. Seriously, what's wrong with just talking to her? Don't be worried about "bothering" her...she came up to you first (meaning she's accessible) and if she's the type to be bothered simply by your attempt at conversation, then she's not the type of girl you want to get to know anyway...good thing you found this out early. If she's not nice, forget her and move on. Talk to her like you know her really well, like you would talk to one of your good friends. Tease her...not in a mean way, but in a joking fashion. Also throw in comments every now and then implying that you KNOW she likes you....tell her to stop hitting on you, because you're not easy. The trick is to be very confident and project confidence in everything you say and do. You're the man, period. You have nothing to lose. And have fun, just be yourself and you'll be surprised with the results. Whatever you do, don't kiss up to her...nice guys DO finish last, 98% of the time...being a "nice guy" is a sure-fire way of getting on her friends list fast. Don't ask her for permission for anything or if something is ok,...seeking approval is nice guy behavior. Don't do it. Be yourself. Trust me, once you've tried this a good number of times you'll realize that women don't bite (unless you're into that kind of thing, haha). They're more predictable than you think. Good luck. 👍

i agree with USAFdoc2be. from an older female perspective, this advice is hilarious!! ahahahahaha. i didn't know guys obsessed about this sort of thing. wow.

well, personally i don't think that "nice guys finish last." and from what i can tell from my other female friends, they don't think so either. nice guys can finish first. the key is, NICE guy should not equate with BORING JOE SCHMO guy. in other words, girls want the guy with the bad boy appearance without the bad boy behavior. unfortunately, if a guy has bad boy good looks and charismatic personality, that usually means he knows he can get lots of girls so he is, in actuality, a "bad boy" in behavior as well.

a lot of my girlfriends right now are in their late-twenties and early thirties and are getting into serious relationships. at that age, the guys by now have sown most of their wild oats and are ready to settle down. they are, in a sense, "reformed bad boys."

so go ahead guys, WORSHIP that special girl. she will like it, as long as she is not a bad girl herself! and as long as you are somebody that she wouldn't mind being worshipped by.

and when i say "worhsip", i do not mean stalking, kids.


😉

 

[Nikki2002]

And if all else fails, well, then, there's always men. Because THEY'RE easy to figure out.

*wink*

lol

 

[red dot]

NOT that I'm saying to be mean to the girl you want to talk to. Just don't worship her. Until after you've had sex with her. Then worship her. But before that, be confident and get her to start talking about herself. Everyone likes someone that lets you talk about yourself to them.

why is it that i 4/5 times i date a guy it's the nice guy-turned-jerk? i need to find that dr. phil guy...
but anyway yeah, i *completely* agree with Asherlauph. and p.s. i'm a girl, if that helps.

 

[DrHopeless]

Single and glad to be, because I haven't found the right girl yet........ Any smart, single, tall, beautiful girl around?

 

[tank you]

i didn't know guys obsessed about this sort of thing. wow.

were just as messed up as you girls are, its just we dont tell each other about it all the time 😉

 

[45408]

so go ahead guys, WORSHIP that special girl. she will like it, as long as she is not a bad girl herself! and as long as you are somebody that she wouldn't mind being worshipped by.

I think that's terrible advice. You shouldn't worship that special girl at all. That just sets up strange expectations and a weird relationship dynamic.

 

[USAFdoc2be]

Glad I'm not the only one to see the advice is laughable, but I do agree being able to make someone laugh is important.

I've played all the games, dated all types and finally realized when it's right it will be. You won't have to obsess or figure out how to act, you can just relax, be yourself and do what comes natuarlly. Every friend I have that's getting married or is married said that with this guy it was different because she could be herself and just knew it was right. I know personally a relationship won't work if I've had to play games and not be completely myself from the beginning or conversely if he's trying to play me.

On the single side I see guys who don't know what they want, and girls too. They want to be in a relationship for the perks but not for the commitment. It's when they realize they're past all their baggage (and everyone has some girls and guys) and are ready to be in a relationship that guards come down and you can connect with someone. A lot of relationships succeed or fail because of timing. There are times in your life you meet a great person, but because of personal issues it doesn't work out. It could be location, newly single, job change... anything. At the same time if you do meet a great person, don't use those as a crutch because you're scared to put your heart on the line.

Every relationship takes some work. My parents will be married 35 years in Jan and it hasn't been all roses. I've seen both compromise and give and take, but overall they're happy and I'm lucky to have been given such a great foundation to look at.

 

[bubbleyum]

I think that's terrible advice. You shouldn't worship that special girl at all. That just sets up strange expectations and a weird relationship dynamic.

spoken like a typical guy. 😛
trust me, if the girl in interested in you, she will want you to act interested in her as well, and do sweet things for her.

 

[bubbleyum]

Glad I'm not the only one to see the advice is laughable, but I do agree being able to make someone laugh is important.

I've played all the games, dated all types and finally realized when it's right it will be. You won't have to obsess or figure out how to act, you can just relax, be yourself and do what comes natuarlly. Every friend I have that's getting married or is married said that with this guy it was different because she could be herself and just knew it was right. I know personally a relationship won't work if I've had to play games and not be completely myself from the beginning or conversely if he's trying to play me.

On the single side I see guys who don't know what they want, and girls too. They want to be in a relationship for the perks but not for the commitment. It's when they realize they're past all their baggage (and everyone has some girls and guys) and are ready to be in a relationship that guards come down and you can connect with someone. A lot of relationships succeed or fail because of timing. There are times in your life you meet a great person, but because of personal issues it doesn't work out. It could be location, newly single, job change... anything. At the same time if you do meet a great person, don't use those as a crutch because you're scared to put your heart on the line.

Every relationship takes some work. My parents will be married 35 years in Jan and it hasn't been all roses. I've seen both compromise and give and take, but overall they're happy and I'm lucky to have been given such a great foundation to look at.

i agree with all the above. 👍
it takes the right timing and commitment and compromise, not games!