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Part of the reason people get married is for security--knowing that they will be taken care of if the other person dies, screws up, whatever. Requiring an alimony waiver may not work out for you. One person doesn't get to dictate what the prenup will be. I mean do you really think someone isn't gonna question your relationship when you are saying: I will get married, but only on the condition that you get absolutely nothing if we ever break up?
My wife will likely live a much different life due to her marriage to me. She will probably put her career on hold to raise our children. She will support me and help me to be able to work at a high level, advance in my career, etc. She may choose a less lucrative career due to our financial security. In the event of divorce, it is only right that she gets taken care of until she gets remarried.
I love this line of thinking, CP. I will probably get married before I start residency and if I , say, get an inheritance before my marriage I will get a prenup in order to make sure it is clear that is mine after a divorce. I would feel the same way about an inheritence from her parents gifted to her..
However, I would NOT be comfortable with declaring alimony and other crap like that in a prenup. If she stays with me while I am an almost non-exsistant husband throughout my residency and there after I think she is more than entitled to alimony based on my current wages and whatever I earn after residency. I agree with CPants that the sacrifices that my spouse would have to make would more than likely be a huge disadvantage to her if we divorced. It would only be far to make sure she would be taken care of.