Professional Relationships

[He2]

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just a question: do you guys think that its particularly hard to get along with other premeds in the application phase? I consider myself a normal person, but the stress is sometimes unbearable. I went to coffee this last weekend with someone and it was SO much better compared to when we did it in the fall, back then it was just not fun to be around other people going through the same damn misery as you.

on that note: what are your thoughts on juggling professional relationships and friendships? How do you best balance the two when sometimes their success means your failure?

discuss

 

[JoshUNCW]

just a question: do you guys think that its particularly hard to get along with other premeds in the application phase? I consider myself a normal person, but the stress is sometimes unbearable. I went to coffee this last weekend with someone and it was SO much better compared to when we did it in the fall, back then it was just not fun to be around other people going through the same damn misery as you.

on that note: what are your thoughts on juggling professional relationships and friendships? How do you best balance the two when sometimes their success means your failure?

discuss

More than 2 people can get into the same school, residency, field, fellowship etc. I think thinking in those terms is probably what causes you the greatest amount of stress. Just do your best and don't worry about them.

 

[sewcurious]

I think that there is a tendency in our generation/culture/society etc to segregate our lives into separate spheres with intense codes of conduct for each. I don't really think it has to be that complicated. Try to be nice to everyone, relationships will grow and change/develop organically without intense thought needed. Obviously there are some thing that are inappropriate in relationships with your peers and colleagues, but unless you a person is completely socially impaired (as I definitely have been at certain points in my life) it really shouldn't be a big deal.

 

[SusGob711]

I'm not sure if this is what you mean but I find myself becoming overly competive with my peers. It's not something I'm blunt about or even mention to them but I'm always comparing their grades with mine. I don't obsess about it because I know I'm doing my best but I think that my peers set the bar higher and simultaneously remind me that I'm doing just fine.

I'm completely cordial and friendly with all of my fellow pre-med friends but whether you want to admit it or not...you ARE competing against them for a seat. That's not to say you can't help and support one another but that's just how it is...

 

[naijaboi]

Healthy competition is good - especially when it is amongst friends. But I have never felt uncomfortable hanging out with my premed friends. Their advice and neurotic-ism was valuable to me during this application process. If I don't get into X school, I would rather someone else I know to get in.

 

[J ROD]

I separate the two....competition and friendship.

 

[Hamiltonian]

Adam Smith was right. Competition is a good thing.

 

[Hope2008]

People say I am nice to everybody. Well, I don't hate premeds. Hope I can become friends with premeds. We don't have many premeds in our school. I get along with them pretty well. I think it's always good to help each other no matter what profession you are in.

 

[jj6vcb]

pre-professional relationships?

 

[FloatOn]

I rarely talk about that stuff with my own friends and especially with other pre-meds. I find it easier to just focus on yourself and do your own thing.

 

[Morsetlis]

Adam Smith was right. Competition is a good thing.

Mostly.

 

[mipp0]

Healthy competition is good - especially when it is amongst friends. But I have never felt uncomfortable hanging out with my premed friends. Their advice and neurotic-ism was valuable to me during this application process. If I don't get into X school, I would rather someone else I know to get in.

Depends on the people from your school.

I have a very difficult time getting along with the pre-meds in my school...

prolly cuz they are out for BLOOD.

My blood that is...in case I didn't make that clear enough...you know...cuz they gunnin'...because there's a curve that screws over a lot of people and A's are a limited resource...


plus they take everything personal...even when you score higher...among friends...man our lives suck.

***Competition is not always a good thing. There's enough blood-letting here...give me a break.

INteresting story...a band of ruffians was out to both threaten and potentially jump the kid that set the curve for one of our bio classes. Hilarious.

Not for him of course...but just the thought. Must'v been a high curve...

 

[lcr2108]

i try to be friendly with just about everyone. golden rule, know what i mean?

that being said, i've only kept a couple of really close pre-med friends, but that might be because i don't like most of the pre-meds at my university lol

 

[JoshUNCW]

Depends on the people from your school.

I have a very difficult time getting along with the pre-meds in my school...

prolly cuz they are out for BLOOD.

My blood that is...in case I didn't make that clear enough...you know...cuz they gunnin'...because there's a curve that screws over a lot of people and A's are a limited resource...


plus they take everything personal...even when you score higher...among friends...man our lives suck.

***Competition is not always a good thing. There's enough blood-letting here...give me a break.

INteresting story...a band of ruffians was out to both threaten and potentially jump the kid that set the curve for one of our bio classes. Hilarious.

Not for him of course...but just the thought. Must'v been a high curve...

I hope that's a joke.

 

[Wolfman89]

I hope that's a joke.

You never know.

 

[Hifey]

just a question: do you guys think that its particularly hard to get along with other premeds in the application phase? I consider myself a normal person, but the stress is sometimes unbearable. I went to coffee this last weekend with someone and it was SO much better compared to when we did it in the fall, back then it was just not fun to be around other people going through the same damn misery as you.

on that note: what are your thoughts on juggling professional relationships and friendships? How do you best balance the two when sometimes their success means your failure?

discuss

Hmm for me it was no. I actually enjoyed talking to premeds in the application phase because they understood why I was being neurotic. Most of my friends/roommates are non premed so they don't really understand the process. They're going for other things (law, psyD, dental, vet etc.) but can't completely freak out with me over stuff. I can tell they got sick of it when I talked about it so much so I just stopped. That is where the pre meds came in. But I'm nice to everyone too though. I actually hate talking to people who are pre meds but aren't applying yet but are really nosy. I pretty much run the other way when I see these people. And these people have asked my parents what schools I got interviews at, accepted to etc. Thankfully, my parents are pretty discrete cause they think it could jinx it haha.

As far as competition between friends. I actually don't have any. I am by nature not a super competitive person with people I love. My roommate and I took the same classes for three years and always studied together. When I did better than her, I didn't talk about it and when she did better, she didn't talk about it. Just respect each other's feelings and don't make them feel bad.