The right ventricle is a completely different chamber than the left, as histologic and physiologic properties go. It is crescent-shaped, wrapped around the left, thin-walled (1/6th of the mass of the LV), with a higher volume and lower EF than the LV. Its EF is very dependent on the IV septum bulging into the RV during systole. Its coronary perfusion has to happen both during systole and diastole, not just diastole.
That transeptal gradient of LVESP (SBP) - RVESP (PASP) is normally around 100 at least. So a patient with an PASP of 70 and SBP of 120 at rest can very easily deteriorate with acute (on chronic) pulmonary hypertension (hypoxia, hypercarbia, pain, other sympathetic stimuli), systemic relative hypotension (which will also affect coronary perfusion), fluid overload, worsening MR, worsening TR etc. All the good stuff that can happen during anesthesia and surgery.
Once the septum stops bulging into the RV because of pressure equalization (right-sided overload or left sided failure), the RVEF and CO will drop significantly and the patient will begin circling the drain (RV overload, bulging into the LV, increase in LVEDV, LV overload, decrease in LVEF, decrease in coronary perfusion, more decrease in RVEF and LVEF etc.).
One has to walk a fine line with these patients; they are very fragile, especially if elderly. Not too much fluid, not too little. Just the right blood pressure. No hypoxia/hypercarbia/pain. Now imagine this compounded with severe MR and TR. In these people, it's not the left ventricle I am afraid of. It's the right.
I agree that echo numbers are dynamic. That's why the patient needs a repeat echo after she's been supposedly optimized. If PASP is still 70, she needs to have her PHTN and its response to vasodilators further investigated.
I am not saying the big 8-hour surgery cannot be done. I am only saying there is a good amount of potential for failure, so it shouldn't be done.