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What is it like as far as relationships while in school and when you become a pharmacist? Just wondering how things are handle in school and after as far as families, spouses, and children.
 

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What is it like as far as relationships while in school and when you become a pharmacist? Just wondering how things are handle in school and after as far as families, spouses, and children.

I'm imagining mine will be the same as when I got my AS and BS. Same relationship, more health-related questions. My wife hates that I'm never home, and rightfully so. She just takes solace in the fact that it's temporary and my 16 hour days will go down to 10-12. (8 if I'm lucky, but I'm not counting on it after reading posts for ~6months now.)
 

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What is it like as far as relationships while in school and when you become a pharmacist? Just wondering how things are handle in school and after as far as families, spouses, and children.

She worked full time days, I worked full time nights, when I got home I needed to study (I was a night person). We got divorced my third year of school......:D

My girlfriend graduates from pharmacy school in June so she totally understands. we get along wonderfully. Helps to work the same shift though.
 
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This seems like another thread that is completely individual; there's no answer to your question.

The only thing you can get answers to are how much time you'll be spending at school/doing studying (which is yet again independent; depends on so many factors) or how many hours/week a pharmacist puts in, but other than that it's completely subjective as to how a relationship fares in school.

It's very akin to asking a group of people how they felt when Carolina won the stanley cup last year.
 

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This seems like another thread that is completely individual; there's no answer to your question.

The only thing you can get answers to are how much time you'll be spending at school/doing studying (which is yet again independent; depends on so many factors) or how many hours/week a pharmacist puts in, but other than that it's completely subjective as to how a relationship fares in school.

It's very akin to asking a group of people how they felt when Carolina won the stanley cup last year.

Yeah, some of us completely couldn't care. (Stanley huh:rolleyes: )
 

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This seems like another thread that is completely individual; there's no answer to your question.

Sure there is an answer to the question. Maybe YOU can't answer the question because you're not there yet, but many people who have experienced this part of their life can comment on how things were for them, or are for them. I don't have a wife or kids, but the women in my life always make comments about how they don't get to see me enough. As long as they know what to expect going in, there shouldn't be too many problems.
 

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Sure there is an answer to the question. Maybe YOU can't answer the question because you're not there yet, but many people who have experienced this part of their life can comment on how things were for them, or are for them. I don't have a wife or kids, but the women in my life always make comments about how they don't get to see me enough. As long as they know what to expect going in, there shouldn't be too many problems.

I really hate to belabour a frivolous point; you didn't even say why what I said was wrong, you just went in a different direction with an authoratative tone.

Perhaps I wasn't clear; some relationships are very co-dependent - others are independent moreso where they don't need to see each other every day. How those two different couples would respond would be completely opposite, hence there's no one answer to this thread.

Believe it or not :laugh: I am "there", in school and in a relationship. Perhaps since you're c/o 2011 you're not "there" yet :p

All in good nature bud.
 

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I've got to agree with Requiem...

Relationships are like friggin snowflakes...I dare you to find two that are exactly alike.

Haha, after typing that I realize that's pretty damn cheesy...but true.
 

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I really hate to belabour a frivolous point; you didn't even say why what I said was wrong, you just went in a different direction with an authoratative tone.

Perhaps I wasn't clear; some relationships are very co-dependent - others are independent moreso where they don't need to see each other every day. How those two different couples would respond would be completely opposite, hence there's no one answer to this thread.

Believe it or not :laugh: I am "there", in school and in a relationship. Perhaps since you're c/o 2011 you're not "there" yet :p

All in good nature bud.

I know it's all in good nature with you. No worries here, but why would you bother telling someone that there are differences in opinion about this issue, instead of directly contributing your own experiences. Seems like you just enjoy listening to yourself speak. I know she didn't ask a completely objective question like why I'm cooler than you, which is a simple "just because" answer, but why do you have to respond in such a it depends fashion. Man, why do you have to be so anal? :smuggrin:

So if you are there, why don't you contribute a response about your own experiences? I'm sure most everyones will run together after a while. Do enlighten me, what's the real thing like? I'm frightened, just like I was a few months ago when you so professionally called me pre-pharmer, that I don't think I'll be able to handle the "real thing". School is school bro-some may require more memorizing, but nevertheless it's basically the same thing. And you never did answer my question about which school you attend?
 

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My husband and I are both in school, so studying a lot and not going out a whole bunch is ok with us because we are both in the same boat. On the other hand, I have a lot of friends that their spouses/signifigant others are not in school and it is hard to juggle their time, but it can work. It all depends on the situation. I think most couples can make it through a few years of hard work to reap great rewards at the end!
 

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Altho Requiem & nightcrawlerx both have valid points....so did Acetyl.

Personally, I took the op's question to be asking what impact school &/or being in the profession had on being in a relationship. It really doesn't matter what year you're in - P1-P4.....doesn't matter - they're all valid & just because any one student is not "there" - whether in a particular year in school, year in their career or year in a relationship....doesn't matter.

The fact is - this is a tremendously valid question & shouldn't, IMO, be made light of - which, unfortunately, it seems to be have become.

You've all been in college - so you know, somewhat, what school will do to a relationship.

Being a pharmacist is a whole different thing and very dependent on your own circumstance - both personal & professional.

You often have to make compromises - I've had to do it many times in the 31 years of my marriage. It has not been easy to juggle two professional people (who both take call), children, desires for advancement, desires to be good parents, spouses, in-laws & just a desire to be alone & do whatever you want.

OP - its hard - yes...very hard! But....if you communicate well - you can make it work. The only advice I'd give to anyone - which is worth as much as the paper its written on :)rolleyes: -no paper involved!).....try to put off having children until you both know what your life will be like. But...if that's not the case...you deal with what you have at the time & make the best of it.

There have been times I've been a less than adequate pharmacist to be a good mother......a less than adequate mother to be a good pharmacist....and, sadly, many, many times I've been a less than adequate spouse. But - overall, I'm good at all of them - I've just not been good at all of them all the time.

There's no one "right" way...no assurance your relationship will survive & thrive....just your own & your SO's ability to be flexible & your desire to be the very best you can be at that one particular time.

Good luck - it's a fun ride!!!
 
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