Well I guess I will just quit and be resentful. I hope I do not regret it in the future.
Don't quit.
That resentment is gonna cost you the husband down the line, only then you won't have your dream career.
Whatever made you guys get yourselves int this situation, like compromises, have to apply.
If not, forget it.
Everyone's gonna say put career aside to make it work with the husband because you have kids.
I know kids that grew up in that scenario, it's not pretty, they don't have a better time because of it.
YOLO.
"But your kids....??"
you owe it to them to minimize the dysfunction that invariably exists in your house. That includes showing them that partners need to stick to their words and not to put career second to someone who can't. That it's better to compromise and avoid resentment, or just walk away from that. Those kids will be almost as good as gone by the time they reach high school if not college. Sacrificing your career for someone who might not stick around is not a good message for them. At best you are suggesting mortgaging all the years of your future for whatever good comes of the the 10 years your kids have to watch the two of you be miserable. Then you'll be alone and you won't like your job. American dream job money spouse kids. The part of that equation you can rely on to always be with you is job. Best thing a parent can do for their child today is learn to be happy without their their kids and to be able to be financially independent of them as well, even if you are disabled.
"But if you lose your career, who will take care of you?? Your husband?? Pretty stupid to put career of husband in that situation."
Yeah, rely on him to stick to you about as much as he's sticking to you now. Never rely on anyone to care for you if you are ill. Best odds are your parents, and I know ppl will chime in to mention parents who don't care even then. Anyone else? You'd be surprised who will walk away. I'm not surprised when it's a husband.
Sometimes you see people mourning some relationship they lost because of a job. I usually see the reverse, the career they could have had.
On people's deathbeds they wish they had spent more time with their family than with their job. Hardly anyone wishes they had spent less time at work and more time with the ex husband. Rarely do people look back on "but we stayed together for the kids" with fondness.
Do the fellowship.
You gotta do you.