Hey everyone, would appreciate ur feedback.
Not sure if I should quit surgery and how to do it.
Background: From a top 5 medical school, average board scores, prestigious research fellowship. Was pretty uncertain throughout medical school regarding what career I wanted to pursue. At the very last minute, I chose surgery. The dean and chair didnt think it was a good idea to choose the specialty when 1) I wasnt sure about it and 2) simply because I didnt like anything else better. I didnt want to waste a year thinking and just wanted to move forward.
Now: At a small program with a great PD. Im considered one of the stronger residents in terms of being reliable, capable, efficient, etc. Did extremely well on ABSITE. Had an injury where I now have severe back pain after operating for an extended period.
Why Im considering quitting (and have been since intern year):
1) My personality doesnt fit, and it obviously makes work more difficult for me. I am a super nice, sensitive female (for example, I easily feel guilty if I had to dump on someone despite the fact that Im always getting dumped on; I always take on more than expected; I always smile even when Im frustrated). You need to be a tough and selfish (insert more adjectives) woman to make sure youre not taken advantage of, but I cant and dont want to be that person. I look up to the women who are but I'm just different. But that makes me an easy target to get beat up on.
2) My back pain. Ive done everything short of surgery. Its gotten better but I have bad days too. Could this get worse over my career? Operating is no fun when youre in pain.
3) Operating is no fun anymore. It was exciting as a med student, but now Im always avoiding the OR for a variety of reasons including the one above. Ive been told by a few attendings that I have good operating skills, but I honestly dont feel good at it. I cant enjoy it. Im disappointed to feel this way and this is the primary reason why I think I should get out. But a part of me wonders is this just b/c of my attitude, and if so, should I change the attitude or change the job?
4) Surgery residency is hellish no matter how benign the program is, and I just feel extremely unhappy even though my program isnt malignant.
5) Id consider anesthesia, love working with my hands, love small/quick procedures, have been told by the anesthesia attdgs that theyd write me letters (dont have a program at my hosp). I also like critical care and see that as an option.
Reasons why Id stay:
1) To avoid trading in a Devil I know for a Devil I dont know.
2) Although I dont like breast cases, I might do it just for the lifestyle, patient interaction, and in-office procedures.
3) Critical care's an option (but dont want to do the trauma/gen surg cases).
4) (not really a reason but) I love my colleagues, some of the bestest friends Ive ever had.
5) I still dont know what else Id like better. Maybe anesthesia but again, dont love anything else (not really any different than I was 3 yrs ago). Does this mean I should stay in surgery even though I don't enjoy operating? Can I make myself like it?
Options for leaving:
1) Take a year off for research, mainly researching other options while being in a lab (would have to decide this within the week). Would give me time to research, prepare, apply, and interview. Worst case scenario is that I decide not to switch and waste a year.
2) Continue into my 3rd year and make a final decision about quitting or not while working. Would be hard to research/prep/apply/interview b/c Id be extremely busy and Q3/Q4. But at least if I decide to stick with it I wouldnt have wasted a year. Worst case is I get stuck b/c I feel too deep into it.
As much as I hate residency, I just dont want to hate my job for the rest of my life. Thanks for reading. Sorry that its long but I also wrote it for myself to get my thoughts straight.
Not sure if I should quit surgery and how to do it.
Background: From a top 5 medical school, average board scores, prestigious research fellowship. Was pretty uncertain throughout medical school regarding what career I wanted to pursue. At the very last minute, I chose surgery. The dean and chair didnt think it was a good idea to choose the specialty when 1) I wasnt sure about it and 2) simply because I didnt like anything else better. I didnt want to waste a year thinking and just wanted to move forward.
Now: At a small program with a great PD. Im considered one of the stronger residents in terms of being reliable, capable, efficient, etc. Did extremely well on ABSITE. Had an injury where I now have severe back pain after operating for an extended period.
Why Im considering quitting (and have been since intern year):
1) My personality doesnt fit, and it obviously makes work more difficult for me. I am a super nice, sensitive female (for example, I easily feel guilty if I had to dump on someone despite the fact that Im always getting dumped on; I always take on more than expected; I always smile even when Im frustrated). You need to be a tough and selfish (insert more adjectives) woman to make sure youre not taken advantage of, but I cant and dont want to be that person. I look up to the women who are but I'm just different. But that makes me an easy target to get beat up on.
2) My back pain. Ive done everything short of surgery. Its gotten better but I have bad days too. Could this get worse over my career? Operating is no fun when youre in pain.
3) Operating is no fun anymore. It was exciting as a med student, but now Im always avoiding the OR for a variety of reasons including the one above. Ive been told by a few attendings that I have good operating skills, but I honestly dont feel good at it. I cant enjoy it. Im disappointed to feel this way and this is the primary reason why I think I should get out. But a part of me wonders is this just b/c of my attitude, and if so, should I change the attitude or change the job?
4) Surgery residency is hellish no matter how benign the program is, and I just feel extremely unhappy even though my program isnt malignant.
5) Id consider anesthesia, love working with my hands, love small/quick procedures, have been told by the anesthesia attdgs that theyd write me letters (dont have a program at my hosp). I also like critical care and see that as an option.
Reasons why Id stay:
1) To avoid trading in a Devil I know for a Devil I dont know.
2) Although I dont like breast cases, I might do it just for the lifestyle, patient interaction, and in-office procedures.
3) Critical care's an option (but dont want to do the trauma/gen surg cases).
4) (not really a reason but) I love my colleagues, some of the bestest friends Ive ever had.
5) I still dont know what else Id like better. Maybe anesthesia but again, dont love anything else (not really any different than I was 3 yrs ago). Does this mean I should stay in surgery even though I don't enjoy operating? Can I make myself like it?
Options for leaving:
1) Take a year off for research, mainly researching other options while being in a lab (would have to decide this within the week). Would give me time to research, prepare, apply, and interview. Worst case scenario is that I decide not to switch and waste a year.
2) Continue into my 3rd year and make a final decision about quitting or not while working. Would be hard to research/prep/apply/interview b/c Id be extremely busy and Q3/Q4. But at least if I decide to stick with it I wouldnt have wasted a year. Worst case is I get stuck b/c I feel too deep into it.
As much as I hate residency, I just dont want to hate my job for the rest of my life. Thanks for reading. Sorry that its long but I also wrote it for myself to get my thoughts straight.