Thanks very much for the info. Can you think of stuff I might not be considering when factoring in everything together? I'm having a real hard time understanding where the extra difficulty comes in for vets. Like I said, I did a quick mock up of what monthly expenses would be for my home state and while it wouldn't be cushy living by any means, I was coming up with a little extra cash at the end of the month.
This is my portion of the budget for recurring monthly bills (if I were living alone without my SO).
Rent including heat 900
Electricity 50
Internet 80
Renter's insurance 10
Car payment 350
Gas and tolls 300
Car insurance 65
Health insurance premium (****ty insurance through work) 60
Dental insurance 10
Disability 100
Cell 50
Food/dining out/groceries 400
Pets 100
~2500
This doesn't include any clothing, amazon purchases, car tax, costs associated with hobbies, AAA/costco memberships, gifts, any other incidentals ($4000 in dental costs for one broken tooth, oil changes, busted car tires, furniture, medical bills because like I said I have ****ty insurance, etc...), or AVMA dues, VIN membership, and other association dues that are not paid for by my job. I get $2000 in CE from my employer but my DEA license/state license is not paid for.
And you can't live like a poor stingy student forever even if you delay having kids or buying a house or whatever. You get nieces and nephews that need to be visited and birthday presents, friends get married and you have weddings to attend, people die and you need to travel to funerals.
I'm pretty sure I ate up way more than the extra you calculated left over. I make it work because I have a SO who might as well be a spouse because we share all finances.
Including everything we spent over the past 11 months, our monthly spending averaged $5000/month for all costs for the two of us (student loans not included). If this were just me without the SO, it would probably be around $3000. We do have a date night or two each week where we go out to eat (nothing fancy, no drinks ever), but other than that we live a pretty frugal lifestyle. No cable, we don't go out for coffee, we pack lunches daily, neither of is have hobbies, etc... Like we never go shopping for things that are not absolutely necessary. No one who sees our lifestyle would believe that we have two doctorates between us. I'm currently not putting any money in savings/retirement.
I've been paying an average of $2500 per month on student loans. That means our average monthly spending has been $7500 per month. This is only possible because we earn a combined income of $150-160k and my SO has sizeable savings so we have a safety net even if I put all my extra money in my student loans.