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I applied very late in the cycle actually after Oct. 15th. I got in at UT Memphis but my girlfriend did not apply there for grad school. We were both hoping to get in at UVA or Dartmouth. She got in to every program that she applied to: Vandy, Dartmouth, UNC and UVA.

With a 3.8 gpa and a 34O should I reapply to one of the schools and which one? I wouldn't mind sitting out a year but I also don't want to give up a spot in medical school. Currently I am waitlisted at UVA and rejected at the UNC and Dartmouth. The catch-22 is that she has to let her schools know where she is going by April 15th and the waitlist at UVA does not even start moving until perhaps late May or early June.

WTF should I do?
 

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Forget your girlfriend and get another one in med school, or try a long distance relationship. There is no guarantee you will get in next year. They will ask you why you didn't matriculate and are you going to say because you wanted to be closer to your girfriend?
 

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I have so been exactly where you are and I totally sympathize. It's an enormous gamble, so I can't tell you what to do, but here's my story: two years ago, I was in at Davis, UCSD, Loma Linda and waitlisted at UCSF. My (then fiance) husband was in at Stanford and Cal Tech (PhD in physics). We were stewing about the April 15 deadline ... we discovered that his grad schools were willing to give him a one month extension on that deadline when we explained our situation to them, so you might try that. But May 15 came up, and no obvious solution presented itself ... so he declined Cal Tech (three hours later I got into UCI ... ) and we committed to the Bay Area. I accepted Davis' offer and crossed my fingers for UCSF. As the weeks passed, I started to get nervous ... so I asked Davis for a deferral, which they were very flexible about granting. I never did get into UCSF. Anyway, I ultimately decided I didn't want to go to Davis (love the school, but it's just too far from my husband), so I withdrew and reapplied to Stanford and UCSF this year. Along about early February when I had been rejected from UCSF (presecondary!) and hadn't heard from Stanford, I would have told you that you were crazy to consider giving up an acceptance to reapply. But since then, I've been admitted to Stanford ... what I have learned is that medical schools are generally pretty open to considering personal factors such as significant others in admissions decisions (although it might help to be able to say you're married or at least engaged). In fact, at the four schools I got in to when I first applied, I made a big deal about my husband's applications to grad school. At schools where I interviewed but did not mention my husband, I was waitlisted/rejected. Could be coincidence, but I think there's a lesson there. The other thing I would look into is the possbility to transfer or take a deferral. Everything might look different in a year's time.

Feel free to PM me and good luck to you.
 
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Some med school are considerate, MOST are not. Unless you are married it dont mean [email protected] to them. I have learned this personally during this application cycle.
 

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Maybe she could defer her acceptance to grad school for a year. If you get into UVA she could call them back and say "never mind" I am ready to go.
 

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Actually the grad program she is accepted into (MMSB) does not offer deferrals.
 

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I agree with adapt, with one condition. If you are drop dead serious about your girlfriend then consider reapplying, but if she is not the potential significant other I say forget it and go to medical school.

One year may not seem like a lot, but looking at the grand picture it can "cost" you a fortune. For example, a Foot and Ankle Orthopedist makes around $400,000/year (Note: Of course it all depends on which field of medicine you go into) but still.

Can you say that you passed one year potentially worth almost half a million dollars for a girl you weren't really considering as a significant other? Its a serious question, but time is precious so use it wisely. Good luck on whatever your decision may be. :)
 

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Thanks for posting. I think I am going to campaign to get myself off of the waitlist before july and otherwise I will matriculate at UT. I really like UT and the clinical experience is great, I just don't love the town as much as UVA. I think I could be happier at UVA but it is also about twice as much. Very easy decision if I get in off the waitlist though.
 
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