Really want to quit my job

[ttt92]

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Hi all,

Need some honest advice. I applied this cycle and have been accepted at schools. I started a job last summer in a healthcare setting (not research, going to keep it vague) to work on a project. I applied for the easier position, and I would only be in an assistant role. The person leading the project and I started on the same date and about 2 months in she quit because she truly disliked the job.

So since she's left, I've had to pick up the slack (fyi, I make less than half of what she made) since we haven't found a replacement. I understand why she quit, and if I had the option back then I would have too. However, financially I needed a job. We get little support on the project, our leadership is dictatorial, it's a non-profit but there's such an intense culture. I am honestly swamped with work, and I have already negotiated (but they only gave me a 90 cent raise). I'm also naive and too nice, I admit, so I feel like I have taken on more than I can.

With my acceptance into medical school, I feel just done. I said that I would work until the spring and I really want to leave in April or May or sooner. However, the first part of the project runs until June and this should NOT be the case, but I feel like if I leave, the project would suffer. I honestly feel I have an ethical obligation to the project itself, but I feel like I have been stretched thin and treated unfairly. I also really want to relax before medical school, and with my job, they will try to keep me as long as possible. I just want time off, before I begin.

I just want some advice. Is it unethical of me to try and leave earlier? I just feel so bad, but business is business. I just don't know why the project has laid on my shoulders -- I make less than 1/10 of everyone on the grant and my title is in the assistant role. Thank you.

 

[Aubrey Graham]

Hi all,

Need some honest advice. I applied this cycle and have been accepted at schools. I started a job last summer in a healthcare setting (not research, going to keep it vague) to work on a project. I applied for the easier position, and I would only be in an assistant role. The person leading the project and I started on the same date and about 2 months in she quit because she truly disliked the job.

So since she's left, I've had to pick up the slack (fyi, I make less than half of what she made) since we haven't found a replacement. I understand why she quit, and if I had the option back then I would have too. However, financially I needed a job. We get little support on the project, our leadership is dictatorial, it's a non-profit but there's such an intense culture. I am honestly swamped with work, and I have already negotiated (but they only gave me a 90 cent raise). I'm also naive and too nice, I admit, so I feel like I have taken on more than I can.

With my acceptance into medical school, I feel just done. I said that I would work until the spring and I really want to leave in April or May or sooner. However, the first part of the project runs until June and this should NOT be the case, but I feel like if I leave, the project would suffer. I honestly feel I have an ethical obligation to the project itself, but I feel like I have been stretched thin and treated unfairly. I also really want to relax before medical school, and with my job, they will try to keep me as long as possible. I just want time off, before I begin.

I just want some advice as my family or S/O cannot seem to understand the situation. Is it unethical of me to try and leave earlier? I just feel so bad, but business is business. I just don't know why the project has laid on my shoulders -- I make less than 1/10 of everyone on the grant and my title is in the assistant role. Thank you.

Quit. YOLO. U r gonna be an MD in a few years...I would take it easy now...


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[ttt92]

Also a note - I have built a good relationship with my supervisors and they really put a dependency on me (that is unfair with my position title/roles) to get the project done as we haven't found a replacement. I don't want to let others down either but sort of feel like I'm being manipulated to stay and take on more. 🙁

It is a healthcare practice and I don't want to burn any bridges either, for the future, as medicine/healthcare is small. I would obviously give at least three week's notice but it would come as a blow to them.

 

[thatwouldbeanarchy]

Quit. You are under no ethical obligation to stay. I don't mean this as an insult, but I think it might be helpful to remember that you are not irreplaceable. Most likely they will find someone else to fill your role and, if they don't, that's on them--not you! Don't continue a job that's making you miserable because you feel too guilty to leave.

 

[Pagan FutureDoc]

Be an adult and give two weeks notice and quit.

 

[ttt92]

Thanks for all the feedback. I guess I know I should quit but getting the courage to do so is tough.

When the lead of the project left, the company outcasted her. Even though it was more work for me, I understood why she left because we were in a similar boat. She also ended up staying a month to help the company transition, even though she gave two weeks. I felt bad because everyone tried to make her feel bad, and I don't want to be that person.

 

[ridethecliche]

See if they'll up your salary as you're doing the work she was doing and getting paid much more for. If that sweetens the pot enough for you to stay then do so. Otherwise, quit.

 

[eteshoe]

You have no real obligation. I say quit (with the proper notice) - you're about to be on a tough enough path, might as well enjoy your precious free time before.

 

[Goro]

Stop being a martyr and get out of there.

Hi all,

Need some honest advice. I applied this cycle and have been accepted at schools. I started a job last summer in a healthcare setting (not research, going to keep it vague) to work on a project. I applied for the easier position, and I would only be in an assistant role. The person leading the project and I started on the same date and about 2 months in she quit because she truly disliked the job.

So since she's left, I've had to pick up the slack (fyi, I make less than half of what she made) since we haven't found a replacement. I understand why she quit, and if I had the option back then I would have too. However, financially I needed a job. We get little support on the project, our leadership is dictatorial, it's a non-profit but there's such an intense culture. I am honestly swamped with work, and I have already negotiated (but they only gave me a 90 cent raise). I'm also naive and too nice, I admit, so I feel like I have taken on more than I can.

With my acceptance into medical school, I feel just done. I said that I would work until the spring and I really want to leave in April or May or sooner. However, the first part of the project runs until June and this should NOT be the case, but I feel like if I leave, the project would suffer. I honestly feel I have an ethical obligation to the project itself, but I feel like I have been stretched thin and treated unfairly. I also really want to relax before medical school, and with my job, they will try to keep me as long as possible. I just want time off, before I begin.

I just want some advice. Is it unethical of me to try and leave earlier? I just feel so bad, but business is business. I just don't know why the project has laid on my shoulders -- I make less than 1/10 of everyone on the grant and my title is in the assistant role. Thank you.

 

[takeurmeds02]

So long as you're respectful in your resignation then like you said, "...business is business."

Please be selfish. Leave. You really do need that time to decompress before you dive into your career. You would be doing yourself a disservice by not allowing that time for a break.

 

[whatever5]

I was in a position where my work took advantage of me and preyed on my emotions in order to guilt me into doing work for free - got my acceptance email and walked straight up to my boss to give my two weeks. No regrets.

 

[Oh_Gee]

Quit. You are under no ethical obligation to stay. I don't mean this as an insult, but I think it might be helpful to remember that you are not irreplaceable. Most likely they will find someone else to fill your role and, if they don't, that's on them--not you! Don't continue a job that's making you miserable because you feel too guilty to leave.

that's what beyonce told me

 

[GoldandBlue]

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[idontknowwhatnametopick]

Hi all,

Need some honest advice. I applied this cycle and have been accepted at schools. I started a job last summer in a healthcare setting (not research, going to keep it vague) to work on a project. I applied for the easier position, and I would only be in an assistant role. The person leading the project and I started on the same date and about 2 months in she quit because she truly disliked the job.

So since she's left, I've had to pick up the slack (fyi, I make less than half of what she made) since we haven't found a replacement. I understand why she quit, and if I had the option back then I would have too. However, financially I needed a job. We get little support on the project, our leadership is dictatorial, it's a non-profit but there's such an intense culture. I am honestly swamped with work, and I have already negotiated (but they only gave me a 90 cent raise). I'm also naive and too nice, I admit, so I feel like I have taken on more than I can.

With my acceptance into medical school, I feel just done. I said that I would work until the spring and I really want to leave in April or May or sooner. However, the first part of the project runs until June and this should NOT be the case, but I feel like if I leave, the project would suffer. I honestly feel I have an ethical obligation to the project itself, but I feel like I have been stretched thin and treated unfairly. I also really want to relax before medical school, and with my job, they will try to keep me as long as possible. I just want time off, before I begin.

I just want some advice. Is it unethical of me to try and leave earlier? I just feel so bad, but business is business. I just don't know why the project has laid on my shoulders -- I make less than 1/10 of everyone on the grant and my title is in the assistant role. Thank you.

Just quit!! If you keep doing the work they're not going to hire somebody else because you're picking up the slack basically for free. If you quit they'll HAVE to hire somebody else. I've been in a similar situation before and drove myself mad because I'm too nice. Don't do that to yourself.

 

[TBV]

2 weeks n quit

 

[NotWayneBrady]

Hi all,

Need some honest advice. I applied this cycle and have been accepted at schools. I started a job last summer in a healthcare setting (not research, going to keep it vague) to work on a project. I applied for the easier position, and I would only be in an assistant role. The person leading the project and I started on the same date and about 2 months in she quit because she truly disliked the job.

So since she's left, I've had to pick up the slack (fyi, I make less than half of what she made) since we haven't found a replacement. I understand why she quit, and if I had the option back then I would have too. However, financially I needed a job. We get little support on the project, our leadership is dictatorial, it's a non-profit but there's such an intense culture. I am honestly swamped with work, and I have already negotiated (but they only gave me a 90 cent raise). I'm also naive and too nice, I admit, so I feel like I have taken on more than I can.

With my acceptance into medical school, I feel just done. I said that I would work until the spring and I really want to leave in April or May or sooner. However, the first part of the project runs until June and this should NOT be the case, but I feel like if I leave, the project would suffer. I honestly feel I have an ethical obligation to the project itself, but I feel like I have been stretched thin and treated unfairly. I also really want to relax before medical school, and with my job, they will try to keep me as long as possible. I just want time off, before I begin.

I just want some advice. Is it unethical of me to try and leave earlier? I just feel so bad, but business is business. I just don't know why the project has laid on my shoulders -- I make less than 1/10 of everyone on the grant and my title is in the assistant role. Thank you.

Can't say much that people haven't already said here, but the point is you're an adult. Give two weeks notice and get out of there.

No use wasting the little freedom you have left before med school starts working a job you don't need.

 

[yeasureyoubetcha]

Also a note - I have built a good relationship with my supervisors and they really put a dependency on me (that is unfair with my position title/roles) to get the project done as we haven't found a replacement. I don't want to let others down either but sort of feel like I'm being manipulated to stay and take on more. 🙁

It is a healthcare practice and I don't want to burn any bridges either, for the future, as medicine/healthcare is small. I would obviously give at least three week's notice but it would come as a blow to them.

Three weeks - 1 month is perfectly respectable. I'm going to give my employer 1 month...and I can't wait!

 

[NotWayneBrady]

Three weeks - 1 month is perfectly respectable. I'm going to give my employer 1 month...and I can't wait!

Here is where I have a conflict of sorts...

I really like my boss overall, sure he's put me through some BS, but he does so significantly less than pretty much every other supervisor I've seen at my office. I'm currently the only person trained to do my work other than him and one other (very busy) employee of his, he also thinks I'm staying on board until I move for med school.

I want to give him a month, but I also know my company has a history of kicking people out the door as soon as they submit their notice (they actually made an old coworker of mine cry in the process...). Knowing this I really don't want to give notice until I have to, so I'm torn between giving him the month (which would be now) or just waiting out and giving him the minimum two weeks. I'm leaning towards 2 weeks though, because this place sucks and once I'm out I doubt I could care less about what happens here.

 

[yeasureyoubetcha]

Here is where I have a conflict of sorts...

I really like my boss overall, sure he's put me through some BS, but he does so significantly less than pretty much every other supervisor I've seen at my office. I'm currently the only person trained to do my work other than him and one other (very busy) employee of his, he also thinks I'm staying on board until I move for med school.

I want to give him a month, but I also know my company has a history of kicking people out the door as soon as they submit their notice (they actually made an old coworker of mine cry in the process...). Knowing this I really don't want to give notice until I have to, so I'm torn between giving him the month (which would be now) or just waiting out and giving him the minimum two weeks. I'm leaning towards 2 weeks though, because this place sucks and once I'm out I doubt I could care less about what happens here.

By giving 1 month you're showing that you respect them enough to not want them to be totally screwed with all the work when you leave. Its enough time to train someone. If that's how the company chooses to treat you then eff'em, its their loss. You're moving on to bigger and better things

 

[Smoove]

Just give your notice. This thread actually inspired me to quit my unfulfilling job after my acceptances, so I put my two weeks in and didn't look back. Feels like I took so much weight off my shoulders. Thank you all!!!

 

[DrPerrla]

Given your conscience, I would speak to your supervisors or whoever is in charge of you and tell them how you feel. Just put it out there, tell them you feel like you're being overworked and not fairly compensated and whatever else you're feeling. If they empathize and offer to increase your pay adequately and lessen the burden on you then continue working. If they shrug and say, well it is what it is, then quit. You told them how you felt, if they don''t try to do anything to help then put in your 2 weeks or 4 weeks however long you want to give them and go. You need to enjoy your summer before medical school.

 

[Planes2Doc]

People have zero obligations to work for anyone, nor is there any loyalty. The only people that will ever be loyal to you is your family. I'm sure that in the right (or not so right) circumstances, your job wouldn't hesitate to fire you for whatever reason.

Leave a two week notice. If you feel like you ended up burning bridges, leave it off your resume. Since there is no such thing as a national jobs database, assuming your name isn't listed on a website, then it will be as if the job never existed.

You have been accepted to medical school. Congrats and enjoy the free time you have left. It's about you and only you!

 

[getdown]

Why not parlay it into getting a higher pay? Just say you're struggling and need more money and if they want to keep you they should pay you more or you'll have to look for another job.

 

[Optimus-Prime]

keep in mind you have leverage, if you could bear the job for more money make this known as you bring up your notice

 

[Turambar]

I'm in the same boat. My bosses have gotten used to a high output from me and now it's taken for granted at the same pay grade. A company-wide raise is being implemented soon, otherwise it'd be much harder not to quit.

 

[Affiche]

I don't mean to be rude, but there are so many posts similar to yours on SDN and ya'll need to learn to behave like the adults that you are.

This is an easy situation. Tell your supervisor that you need to have a closed-door conversation with him/her. Sit down and make clear that you are unhappy with your current situation and you feel overworked and under-compensated, and something needs to change or you can't move forward with their company. Keep in mind that their HR department may be limiting how much they pay you based on your qualifications, in which case they may not be able to pay you more and will need to decrease your workload to make you stay. If you aren't promised a change in that meeting, give notice. If you are promised that they'll look into it, give them 1 week to get it together and make the change or give notice. Be realistic about what would make you stay going into that meeting as well as what they can reasonably offer you.

 

[FrizzyFryFro]

I don't mean to be rude, but there are so many posts similar to yours on SDN and ya'll need to learn to behave like the adults that you are.

This is an easy situation. Tell your supervisor that you need to have a closed-door conversation with him/her. Sit down and make clear that you are unhappy with your current situation and you feel overworked and under-compensated, and something needs to change or you can't move forward with their company. Keep in mind that their HR department may be limiting how much they pay you based on your qualifications, in which case they may not be able to pay you more and will need to decrease your workload to make you stay. If you aren't promised a change in that meeting, give notice. If you are promised that they'll look into it, give them 1 week to get it together and make the change or give notice. Be realistic about what would make you stay going into that meeting as well as what they can reasonably offer you.

I don't think this is rude but I do think it is a dehydrated view of the real world. Like others have said, sacrifices must be made to gain acceptance into school. I am in the same position (recently accepted, love my projects but literally don't make enough to eat Easy Mac) and I do feel like I work my tail off. Degrees get paid and everyone else does the work (often, not always) but thankfully there are people like the OP who feel ethically obligated to a commitment.

It is not wrong to quit, but that "I'll tell my boss what's what" attitude is a great way to cut off a resource/recommendation. I'm glad someone like the OP has morals, is seeking guidance on what can feel like a binding situation, and takes the feedback now realizing that the goal has been accomplished and being someone's b**** is no longer required.

I wish the "be an adult" card was left alone in these situations. It is more adult-like to think things over, ask for advice on SDN, and see things from multiple perspectives than it is to A) stay and be miserable because it is the "right" thing to do or B) say " f you I don't get paid enough!", burn a bridge, and carry that attitude into medical school. The OP is being an adult by asking for advice- something we all will need to do throughout our ENTIRE lives. Thankfully there are people who approach these decisions with a moral code, like the OP. "Morals" and "obligations" are sometimes applicable to medicine, right?


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[Dr.TonySoprano]

I want to quit too but i don't want to stop making money.