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Hopefully in the last 12 years they’ve figured out their problems though!Just so you know, you're responding to some very old posts
Hopefully in the last 12 years they’ve figured out their problems though!Just so you know, you're responding to some very old posts
Not enough activity in wolf chat and we thread to keep you satiated lolOh lol nope, didn't look at the posting date at all.
Brain is apparently already on Thanksgiving break
This is exactly what is happening lolololNot enough activity in wolf chat and we thread to keep you satiated lol
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I personally want to be married to him, as clingy as that sounds; but I've been with him for 8 years. I realize that something this important should not be rushed or pushed, but I feel insecure about what will happen to us
What I truly suggest since you've been together so long is have good sit down conversation about all of this. Talk to him about it. You can't really figure out where you are going to end up until the schools tell you, but you can start planning for that. Rank your schools now on your choices of acceptance should you receive them. Then you can start looking at living arrangements in the area and get a feel for what you both want, etc. Ask him if he is willing to follow you where you may end up. Talk to him about wanting to get married and when and all of the different outlooks. I really think if you two have an honest conversation about this it will help ease your mind for sure and probably his even if he hasn't really thought about all of this he will have to soon enough.
As far as how do I keep my mind off of all of it, I just take it one day at a time. You can't change what is going to ultimately happen, but you can help direct the course and prepare. Have those serious conversations so you can be best prepared for you as a couple.
But we had a mature, adult conversation and as unromantic as it was, it was also important that we were on the same page in regards to our relationship. It has worked out very well.
100% this.Marry your boyfriend if you want to get married and are ready to not because you are insecure about your relationship or simply because you have been together for a long time. That is a recipe for disaster.
If your relationship is not strong enough to survive vet school, I don't think being married will make any difference other than making the eventual fallout much messier.
I would imagine long distance may actually even be a little easier sometimes in some respects, because then there's just the expectation that you won't see each other
^i complain about this a lot. A lot a lot. And then feel guilty about it, but then also simultaneously feel justified. Which is often even more distracting than the original distraction lolNow that we are together all the time, if I have an overwhelming amount of work to do there is a lot of whining about how we never get to do anything together. And he distracts that bejesus out of me every day when I'm trying to study.... ::grumble::
Can definitely second this as well and agree with what @britzen said. It was a lot easier for me to be productive at home last year when we were still long distance. The pros outweigh the cons but it has been an adjustment.I would imagine long distance may actually even be a little easier sometimes in some respects, because then there's just the expectation that you won't see each other
^i complain about this a lot. A lot a lot. And then feel guilty about it, but then also simultaneously feel justified at the same time. Which is often even more distracting than the original distraction lol
^i complain about this a lot. A lot a lot. And then feel guilty about it, but then also simultaneously feel justified. Which is often even more distracting than the original distraction lol
Yeah I know I could do that also, but there's other reasons for it as well (this is the easy explanation). But thanks you for the input!Exactly- everyone is different. Just wanted to point out that wanting one's diploma to read something specific is not something needing to delay a marriage.
Blitzen you'd fit right in in Alaska since you're a reindeer.When I finish vet school, we will move to Alaska. I'll look for a job as a veterinarian for grizzly bears and you'll pursue your dream of Arctic underwater basket weaving. We'll build a yurt in the wilderness and have 17 babies.
Blitzen you'd fit right in in Alaska since you're a reindeer.
Divorce him and we can be manasister wives. @finnickthedog is probably cool with a cooler climate for our future farm since we already live in Michigan anywayMy hubby's ideal climate is approximately the surface of the sun and he won't entertain the idea that we could become nomadic reindeer herders in the Yukon.
Meanwhile, my dream life:
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your hubby is reasonable. Warrrmmmsssss.My hubby's ideal climate is approximately the surface of the sun and he won't entertain the idea that we could become nomadic reindeer herders in the Yukon.
your hubby is reasonable. Warrrmmmsssss.
Ew grossHe grew up in the Australian outback and somehow thinks it's not an acceptable temperature unless its above 85 degrees. Meanwhile, I melt if it's above like 65. If he keeps turning up the thermostat, @SkiOtter might just be able to convince me to leave him to be her manasister wife instead...
Ew gross
My house is max 68 year round but sometimes lower in the summer of it's really hot out. If I get cold, I get a blanket. I can't take my skin off if I get too hot.
Oh god whyI knew we were perfect for each other!
We had to compromise on 68 for the current heat setting in the house for the winter and he's constantly complaining that it's too cold and sometimes sneaks it up higher. I woke up sweating today because he turned it up when he got up in the morning even though I slept in shorts and a tank top... (I'd honestly just turn off the heat for the next few months if I lived alone - it's like 50 degrees outside. It would be fine in the house.).
He was constantly turning off the AC in the summer when I wasn't home and would it get 80+ in the house. Plus the humidity, just awful.
Just listening to you all makes me feel cold. I run the AC at 76-78 in the summer. Partly because I'm cheap and AC is expensive, and partly because 75ish is my ideal temperature. I wear a fleece jacket at work because my university loves its air conditioning to 70 degrees year round.
Yeah, I've heard that kind of thing before! I also work in a laboratory and the fancy six-figure analyzers are required to be kept between a certain, very small temperature range or else we can't guarantee results, since the reactions needed to determine those results can be slowed or sped up by changes ambient temperature. So it's even more critical for our area to be at a steady temperature. I've resigned myself to always being cold. I do agree that it's easier to mitigate being cold than hot, even though I'm not too warm very often.They do that to help avoid Sick Building Syndrome, which homes don't tend to get even if they are warmer... I think 72 degrees is the cap that commercial buildings will use to lessen the chances that their workforce will have issues with it. I've also been told it's actually cheaper to keep the air colder (since it has to be cooled to ~55 degrees to remove moisture and then be heated back up to human comfort levels).
Just listening to you all makes me feel cold. I run the AC at 76-78 in the summer.
Oh god why
All summer long I have been listening to my mom and dad bicker back and forth about the AC setting. My mom wants it on 76 and constantly complains about being hot. My dad wants it on 77 and constantly complains about being cold. Every ****ing day. They argue about the fan being on/off. So annoying. Especially since it is still getting up to the 80's around here during the day so the AC still needs to be run.
Arguing over 1 degree?
At least my marital discord is over a 10 or so degree difference of opinion.
we'd never work out.I think keeping the house at 80 deg in the summer (or any time of year for that matter) is grounds for divorce.
Above 75 deg is questionable, I'd have to love her/him an awful lot.
Mr. Trilt has survived thus far I think I could make an exception as long as you're okay with a constant lack of clothing.we'd never work out.