Relationships as a pre med?

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Working on it right now as my gf enters med school this upcoming year.
 
I just graduated college, and I've had the same girlfriend for 6 years. I'm applying on Tuesday for the second time. We'll see how med school strains our relationship, but I'm confident her and I will be fine. 🙂
 
Long distance relationship here.Well kinda long distance.. she's still holed up in our home metro area and I'm at the state flagship school about 130 miles south. 1 year of undergrad down, everything seems fine so far besides the occasional road bumps and we were both pre-meds until she suddenly dropped it last semester (her school is beyond terrible at everything).
 
TheBatman said:
Have any of you guys actually had successful relationships as pre meds or might have even carried on into medical school?
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Nope. I'm too busy flirting around with hot girls and I don't want to settle down. I won't likely settle down until in residency.
 
Doctor Strange said:
If you can't hold down a relationship as a pre-med, then you're doing it wrong. Medical school, on the other hand, is another story (or so I hear).
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This.

OP I'm married. Been with the same chick since before I was pre-med. its not hard. At all. Pre-med is no different than any other college pursuit. Its not like you'll spend countless hours slaving away at the library on no sleep.....if you are you are not doing life correctly.
 
I started dating a girl my jr year of college. It was relatively long distance (2hrs apart) and it worked great for the most part, we were great friends and did normal things in balance with studying for our sciences. However, the hardest part was when after graduation, I moved home and started working full time and studying for the MCAT. I began to lapse on being a consistent boyfriend (facebook didnt help with pictures and stories of her friends with less ambitious desires) and she ended up breaking it off because I "studied too much" and "she didnt want to hold me back" and "she doesnt know if she is 'doctor's wife' material." Regardless, bottom line OP show up as a boyfriend when it counts and get her to understand that your career is very important to you that will sometimes require you to adjust your priorities temporarily. I think any relationship can be very successful if you are on the same page.
 
I'll also agree with laying down certain "rules." My relationship went through a SUPER ROCKY ROAD this past year, but we came to a lot of agreements about things and I'm definitely there for her way more than what I used to be. Since she's starting medical school and I'm in my gap year my experience will be different from others. I will say when we're home home we're 12 hours apart but that never hurt us too badly in the past b/c we would keep contact over skype and the phone.
 
Doctor Strange said:
If you can't hold down a relationship as a pre-med, then you're doing it wrong. Medical school, on the other hand, is another story (or so I hear).
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Indeed. I recall a similar thread that said, "are you getting enough sleep as a pre-med"? If you have a "normal" pre-med schedule, you should be getting enough sleep per night. As a pre-med, you should be able to sustain a relationship.
 
Agent B said:
Nope. I'm too busy flirting around with hot girls and I don't want to settle down. I won't likely settle down until in residency.
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I hope I am atleast dating by the time i start residency. I feel like it would be pretty tough to get a relationship going with the crazy hours of being at work. Then again, if i were to have a gf while in medical school she would have to be able to relocate assuming i move for residency...
 
TheBatman said:
Have any of you guys actually had successful relationships as pre meds or might have even carried on into medical school?
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I would hope this is a normal occurrence.
I've been with the same guy for 6 years, getting married in a few months. He knows that the med school track keeps me busy. So we make the time that we have together count. Your SO has to be understanding of your study commitments and has to be flexible. Not too difficult to make the relationship work if its with the right person.
 
Dating in college is totally possible, OP. I won't draw any conclusions on your chances based on having made this thread, as I like to give folks the benefit of the doubt.
 
Can someone post the GPA/MCAT/relationship success graph please? I think I was like 76% last time I looked.
 
TheBatman said:
Have any of you guys actually had successful relationships as pre meds or might have even carried on into medical school?
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I am getting married in a few months. Granted, she was never a premed and was prepared to move wherever I decided to attend. It's had its ups and downs, but we are both super happy with out life and look forward to what medical school will bring.
 
Playing the field, starting med school in a few months, and loving it
 
Well my husband and I are married for five years now so hopefully we don't get divorce before, during or after school lmao
 
I got married as a pre-med. As with anything in life, if it's a priority for you, you will make time for it.
 
TheBatman said:
Have any of you guys actually had successful relationships as pre meds or might have even carried on into medical school?
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Enjoy your undergrad, bro. Have fun with the ladies/men, stay safe.
 
TheBatman said:
Have any of you guys actually had successful relationships as pre meds or might have even carried on into medical school?
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Nope. Not happening bro. I would suggest taking a vow of celibacy until the end of medical school.
 
Lol its absolutely manageable to have a great relationship as a pre-med; what that really means is having a great relationship with lots of other work and responsibilities.

Whether or not it carries into medical school is up to the couple! But I personally know one couple who went to Columbia undergrad, and now one goes to med school in manhattan and the other goes somewhere around 1 hour away and they are still going strong.
 
Celibacy and med school are one and the same. Except when they are not 😉
 
During Pre-Med shouldn't be an issue unless your GF has an easy major and wants to spend all their time with you.

However, the problem is entering medical school. Truth is, it is highly unlikely that you will be accepted in a medical school within the same area as your S/O and visits will be far and few between since you will be very busy.

Also, if both of you are pre-med, and in the very likely chance that you both go to different schools, I'm not exactly sure how it will work out.

I know some people on SDN will chime in saying that they're doing it without a hitch, but in reality, very few make it past college unless someone is willing to give in/move for the other person.
 
lol I love these threads

its never been done before OP

also people on SDN have girlfriends ?!..... U wot m8
 
I've been through it...medical school, residency, a year as a hospitalist, and now a cardiology fellow... Yes, it's possible to maintain a relationship through all of it. ...and the people who make an effort to do so will be better human beings for it.
 
chillaxbro said:
tfw no gf
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don't worry we're all gonna make it brah.




OP if you are willing to make the sacrifices/ wk for your girl im sure there's a chance it will work out
 
tfw rejected by girls
tfw rejected by schools
 
Don't you know that if you want to get into medical school that you must swear to an oath of celibacy? And if some succubus is coming onto you, she's probably just a gunner pre-med in disguise.
 
its all about priorities. Been with same guy for 8.5 years now and I just graduated med school a few weeks ago. I probably couldve done maybe a little better in med school if all i did was study but spending time with him was a priority. you need balance in life.
 
ar2388 said:
its all about priorities. Been with same guy for 8.5 years now and I just graduated med school a few weeks ago. I probably couldve done maybe a little better in med school if all i did was study but spending time with him was a priority. you need balance in life.
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I wonder what intern year is gonna do to your relationship
 
Met my boyfriend during freshman year of undergrad and now he's in med school more than 2000 miles away from me. Long distance sucks but is definitely possible when both sides make the relationship a priority. Hopefully I'll end up in a med school closer to him though!
 
You people are silly. You can't put "relationship" under your extra-curriculars. Waste of time. 👎
 
dbeast said:
You people are silly. You can't put "relationship" under your extra-curriculars. Waste of time. 👎
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This comment is less funny when you consider that some people on SDN legit think this
 
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