Relationships before med school

[wjin06]

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I'm a rising college junior who just got out of a really serious long distance committment with someone who was, at least in my mind, definitely going to apply and get into medical school, only the former of which is true for me. That means while I was dating this person, the idea that we wouldn't be at the same med school wasn't extremely disturbing since we mostly figured if I got in, he'd probably get into it also. Now that I've been thrown back into the dating pool, I'm extremely wary of getting into a relationship again since I know I wouldn't want a long distance relationship after college. Also, I highly doubt I'll meet anyone who's as sure and capable of getting into a med school. I'm tempted to just give up until med school. Thoughts? I'm sure a lot of people have had this problem.

 

[Wifty]

I have seen how hard it is to maintain long distance relationships and so, I think that it would be easiest on you to not get yourself into one.

However, if you meet your soulmate (and you will know), then I say go for it because at that point, almost any obstacle can be overcome.

Your soulmate can pop up without you dating, so I think that not actively dating is not a bad idea for now.

Hope that helps!
Wifty

 

[NY Musicologist]

I suggest that, right now, you just date casually to have fun, to get to know people, and to get to know YOURSELF better. As Wifty said, if the right person just happens to sneak up on you when you're not looking (as so often seems to happen), then you can cross that bridge later. And if not, you'll be glad later on that you spent this time focusing on what YOU need to do for YOU, which is making sure that you actually get into school! 🙂