thanks!
gbwillner: details?
Hehe... well, it was 8 years ago... but I don't want to get too personal... but in general I was continually putting my foot in my mouth.
I spent a year after my BS at NIH, where one of my projects involved microarrays. At the time this was NOT an accepted technology, and many of the faculty with whom I spoke were very skeptical of its use and reproducibility. More importantly, many of them wanted me to know just how useless it was. I was only peripherally involved in the project, but most faculty found this much more interesting than my primary projects, so I got stuck talking about it constantly.
Anyway, there I was, in the director's office. I noticed some of the artwork in there as being depictions of ancient greece, a subject I was very familiar with.
So I sat down, and was immediately uncomfortable. I tried to lighten the mood by asking about the greek portraits. This was a bad idea, the director thought I was trying to distract her or something, and she wanted to get to the point. She started drilling me about my research experience. This does take some getting used to. Its amazing how little you know about your own work until a PI with dozens of years of experience starts pimping you, especially when you are a novice in the field. So I stuck my foot in my mouth countless times... I remember specifically she started asking me about the microarray, which was just a minor project for me. I started by saying that it was an exciting new field with great potential, why, even Einstein had a microarray facility... She responded with "Even Einstein?". I had clearly insulted her and the program. I tried damage control, but it was way too late. I had panicked, and I continued to make things worse. She had this look of disgust on her face for the rest of the interview, and I knew that no matter how well I did on other interviews this one had killed my chances.
Funny thing is, the rest of the interviews had gone well, and I really liked the students there. It turned out that the guy who I was staying with (there were student hosts) went to the same elementary school as me and was friends with my cousin- and usually weird occurances like that (also hooking up at interviews, according to many) signify that you will inevitably be accepted to that program. But no, I had denied fate... and you may too on your first attempt.
You have to learn to read the interviewers and their intentions. You also have to learn through trial and error what (and what not) to say. What resonates well and what sounds pompous (yes, we are all excellent students).
Also, it may take a few interviews before you successfully hook-up with anyone.
😉