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Hey guys so I'm new here so I should probably start out with a few stats. I'm a 19 year-old sophomore in college with a 3.9 GPA, I'm an EMT, I'm currently holding two additional jobs and I play the trumpet extracurricularly in the Jazz program. I've wanted to be a surgeon since I was 10 and I've worked really hard to get to where I am today.
Here's my problem. This weekend was homecoming at my school. I was working late at one of my jobs and came back to my dorm to find my roommate and about 5 of his friends underage drinking in the room without my knowledge or permission. I have told my roommate repeatedly not to drink in our room for the exact nightmare scenario I'm about to explain. I'm not claiming to be a saint, I drink from time to time, but I've made it clear to him that I didn't want this happening in our room because at our university, from what I've heard, both roommates usually get in trouble if alcohol is found in the room. So I pulled him aside and told him to go somewhere else and get it out of my room and he told me to go do things to myself and not be such a __. I didn't want to report him and his friends and definitely get everyone in trouble, so I went into our suitemates room and hung out there rather than being a part of it.
Next thing I know, I'm going to the bathroom in the bathroom between our rooms and I hear my room getting busted by some RAs. They didn't search the room and only confiscated the one bottle of liquor that was out in plain sight. They asked where I was and his friends said I was in the bathroom and the RAs came and collected my ID. So I wasn't in the room, wasn't drinking and still most likely will be written up for it. I'm lucky no cops were involved, but I'm still flipping out. The first step in this process usually involves meeting with the head of residence life to talk about what happened and then a conduct file is created that follows the student until I graduate. My roommate realizes that he messed up BAD and has thankfully agreed to take full responsibility for the incident and will tell the residence life guy exactly what happened. Also, thankfully, his friends are also going to go to bat for me. I'm not saying that I handled the situation perfectly or that it is entirely their fault (I potentially could have reported them and/or gotten them out if I tried hard enough), I'm just wondering what I should do know.
How do you guys think I should handle this situation? When I'm talking to the head of residence life, should I put it all on my roommate or should I own up to the fact that I let it go on even though it was against my will (I'm guessing the latter but I'm curious to see your responses). Do you guys think that I'll get in trouble for this especially given the fact that I've got so many people backing me up here? And if I do end up getting in trouble, do you think one alcohol violation in my conduct file is going to keep me out of med school?
Here's my problem. This weekend was homecoming at my school. I was working late at one of my jobs and came back to my dorm to find my roommate and about 5 of his friends underage drinking in the room without my knowledge or permission. I have told my roommate repeatedly not to drink in our room for the exact nightmare scenario I'm about to explain. I'm not claiming to be a saint, I drink from time to time, but I've made it clear to him that I didn't want this happening in our room because at our university, from what I've heard, both roommates usually get in trouble if alcohol is found in the room. So I pulled him aside and told him to go somewhere else and get it out of my room and he told me to go do things to myself and not be such a __. I didn't want to report him and his friends and definitely get everyone in trouble, so I went into our suitemates room and hung out there rather than being a part of it.
Next thing I know, I'm going to the bathroom in the bathroom between our rooms and I hear my room getting busted by some RAs. They didn't search the room and only confiscated the one bottle of liquor that was out in plain sight. They asked where I was and his friends said I was in the bathroom and the RAs came and collected my ID. So I wasn't in the room, wasn't drinking and still most likely will be written up for it. I'm lucky no cops were involved, but I'm still flipping out. The first step in this process usually involves meeting with the head of residence life to talk about what happened and then a conduct file is created that follows the student until I graduate. My roommate realizes that he messed up BAD and has thankfully agreed to take full responsibility for the incident and will tell the residence life guy exactly what happened. Also, thankfully, his friends are also going to go to bat for me. I'm not saying that I handled the situation perfectly or that it is entirely their fault (I potentially could have reported them and/or gotten them out if I tried hard enough), I'm just wondering what I should do know.
How do you guys think I should handle this situation? When I'm talking to the head of residence life, should I put it all on my roommate or should I own up to the fact that I let it go on even though it was against my will (I'm guessing the latter but I'm curious to see your responses). Do you guys think that I'll get in trouble for this especially given the fact that I've got so many people backing me up here? And if I do end up getting in trouble, do you think one alcohol violation in my conduct file is going to keep me out of med school?